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Advice from parents and other people
Omg ! My baby is not even born yet and people specifically my mom already keep telling what to do and how to do things. I do want and appreciate the help but that doesn't mean I'm going to do everything exactly how they want me to. I mean seriously is my baby and I think some things are common sense and others I will learn with their help but at the same time it gets very annoying that they keep telling what I have to do and what I have to buy and how to do this and that. Ugh ! I'm just so irritated. I don't want to start an argument or hurt someones feelings but my gosh !! This is going to be one heck of a ride !
We'll all do it to our kids one day too! I will soon have 4 and I know fine that each and every baby is different, but I daresay I'll be dishing out some very unwanted advice to my own kids when they are having their babies! Try to roll with it a bit, I used to lock horns with my mum about it, but hey, she's not here every day to see what goes on or how they're dressed etc. When she babysits it's up to her, end of the day, me and my brother are still here, she did her best, same as we all do, but she's chilled out with the advice as the years have passed. It'll all be fine in the end, it's easy for us all to let loose the hormones at those who love us best and who loves us any more unconditionally than our mothers? Don't say anything you'll regret, she's excited and trying to help.
I know how you feel girl. I appreciate the advice and I'll always need her advice but sometimes my moms "advice" are more like demands. Sometimes it just helps to vent to someone about it. Every time she does or says something that makes me feel like she's trying to take over I just complain to my husband. It helps a lot. Because of course, I don't wanna offend my mother. And you obviously don't either. I just deal with it but I do wish she'd back off a little so I get it!
My son is 10 yrs old and my mom still does it. I am now 38 wks pregnant and its her peanut lol. Moms will be moms. Hang in there
@sabbylopez I never said I know everything specially when this is my first baby. Of course I don't ! Plus every kid is diff and I'm sure mom's with 4-5 kids are still learning things. I'll never "tell my mom off" either. That's disrespectful but she also has to know her limits is my baby and I will chose how to take care and raise my kids. Advise always helps but jumping down your throat telling you always what to do doesn't. How am I going to learn when she wants to take over.
I love to hear other peoples advice that doesnt mean I HAVE to do it. You Mays think you know everything right now but you will be askingn so many questions when the baby comes so if you "speak your mind" now and tell your mom off. Then how would you feel if you needed to ask her a question about something she was trying to tell you about?
Just the beginning...it won't stop. My daughter is 2.5 and I can finally go to functions without people telling how to take care of her...only stopped because I had to finally speak my mind about it.
Ughhh i have the same problem with my mother inlaw it drives me crazy no matter how perfect everything is she will always find something to complain about! The fact is that its your baby!!! No mother is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. Hobestly ive just tried to learn to 'ignore it at this point lol
You have to be a mother before your mom can be a grandmother! I just had to tell my mom to back off the other day.
@MrsSmith_2014 thank you ! That's such an awesome idea :D I'm deff going to try it. The things I need and want to know I don't mind. I even ask her every now and then but things like you have to only breastfeed no bottles, you have to always but lotion, you have to always put a oncie and then regular clothes, etc ... I live in Tx and there's no way I'm putting a oncie and then another outfit on top my baby will suffocate in this heat. I try not to listen but lately it's been getting under my skin
Sweetheart, it is very annoying. But no matter what you say it usually won't stop. My son is almost 7 months old and I'm still getting it. And I'm getting judged on how I do things. But you're the mom so stand your grounds! If your family is like mine they're going to base an opinion no matter what , just ignore them and tell them you are doing things your way, you appreciate advice (because some days you will need it) but you don't want anyone telling you how to do everything. Be blunt. They argue with you, cut them off for awhile. Me and my mom argue non stop right now because she tries giving my son cake, cupcakes, ice cream and he's not ready for it yet and we don't know what or if he's allergic yet and she doesn't listen..I havnt talked to her in over three weeks because of it (and me and my mom are really close so this isn't normal) but I'm standing my ground. I'm pregnant again with baby #2 and I have people doing the advice thing again. Its annoying I know, but just try to ignore it. I've learned to tune people out
Well, is she telling you things you need to know, or just kind of opinion things?
I agree on the making an advice book. Very clever idea.
I agree on the making an advice book. Very clever idea.
Tell her to make an advice book for you? That way, she can get it out and you don't need to listen to her constantly.
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