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Falling apart
So I found text messages between my husband and like 3 or 4 girls. One he was asking for pics because shes "always been sexy"...she used to date his cousin! And one from Dallas who he was telling he loved and wanted to go are her and take her out...she's also married...and a couple other skanks. It literally broke my heart into pieces and I told him I couldn't do this and gathered my kids and left our new apartment and drove 3 hours back to the old house. I am at such a loss and he has calle and said how much he loves me and it's not over between us. I just don't know what to do. He ****** up. And he won't take responsibility and I can't stay with someone who has no respect for me and this is our third baby! I am just so upset idk what to do.
It will get better hun, I always think "what if", and in the end, what if you leave him? you'll eventually move on from this and find someone that will really treat you right, and end up happy, and what if you decide to stay and work it out? then you get some marriage counseling and work on issues that you two have, and it will be a struggle, but in the end, if it's your husband that you want, then work for it. You will end up happy in the end no matter what.
I read all of these post and they are all right! Almost a year ago I was the happiest person ever being with the man of my dreams I was with him since middle school I'm 24 now I loved him with all my heart and I could never see us separated he was the one I wanted to be with for the rest of my life. I found out he cheated multiple times but I couldn't bare to leave him but when I found messages my heart would sink and I felt like I couldn't breathe. I forgave him because like I said I didn't want anyone else but once I did I couldn't trust him at all and every minute in thinking he is up to something always going through his phone next thing you know that's all I'm doing. And still I kept forgiving him but at this point he just don't give a **** because I keep forgiving him. Well he ended up going to prison and I felt like I lost everything in my life when they took him, then I'm sitting there cleaning his car and I found a whole bunch of cell phones I never seen before and there all activated I don't think I have to tell you what's on the phones. I just broke down thinking why is my husband doing this to me, I saved him from the guy that shot him, stayed at the hospital the whole two months I didn't wanna leave with out him... I've done so much for him... I told him I found all of his phones and he starts apologizing because he got caught because he didn't try to come tell me on his own I had to find it for him to be sorry. Point of this story is I finally had the courage to leave him, it wasn't easy at all but you have your kids to help you cope because trust me if you do go back your just giving him permission, if your going to go back don't go back now make him think he lost his family had hopefully it will change his act. Me I met the most amazing guy ever and a couple months later I was pregnancy by him, I went to visit my husband in prison to tell him because we are still friends and he just broke down and cried. All I could say was now you seen how I felt all of these years. He said I was trying to get you pregnancy for yrs and I told him that you can't be sleeping with different women and say hey I just want to get this one pregnant it don't work like that! Sorry its so long I just wanted to share my story with you. It will get better trust me!
And Razismama I hope your situation with your husband/boyfriend gets better too. Gosh I wish I could give you any kind of advice but right now I really don't know what to say but I'm sure you will make the right decision for you and your babies, or maybe he will pull his head out of his a s s and see that after everything you are still there beside him.
Gosh I had to shut my phone off last night so I wouldn't answer it or text him back. Woke up this morning and you're right, Ktowne, it still sux. :/ I am so glad I found this forum I have never ha this much support before. Thank you ladies so much. You really have no idea how much I appreciate your kind words
You deserve what is best for you and your children. Cheating/engaging with others sexually or lustfully is selfish. There is no reason that after three children and a marriage that he shouldn't be ale to come to you if he is lacking something. Again....selfish. You already know what to do. Im sorry you have to endure this ****. You come off as a very strong woman, I have a gut feeling that you will be just fine : )
"never take advice from someone who doesn't have to deal with the outcome" stay strong and do whatever you feel is right. You did the right thing to show it's not okay. Everyone is different. I wish you the best
My ex was cheating on me since day 1 of me finding out I was pregnant. I'm now 6 days over due and he has not once asked about MY daughter. He is a piece of ****. And so is your "husband" move on girl! You'll find someone better some day! Just love your kids with all your heart.
Ok now that I am on my lap top and no my stupid phone, it is so tough to leave someone you love or even someone because your so use to them. I am still hanging onto a thread of hope with my sons dad and we are destroyed completely. There is no use is feeling pain because your trying to fix something or make something work that never will. He can tell you anything and get you to stay just because you are vulnerable right now. He will not change for you and you will never be happy if you don't trust him. Im just rambling but I hope you dont stay with someone that causes you pain because every other aspect of your life eventually becomes dull when you get hit when more and more bull.****. I hope you find peace.
I wouldn't expect it to get better overnight you know? your whole world was just turned upside down, but someday this will be just a bad memory, it will all work itself out. i really believe everything happens for a reason, and maybe there is just some seriously amazing HOT man out there waiting for you and your kids.. you deserve the best and you'll get that.
Thanks for all your advice and encouragement and I think I made the right choice by leaving. I'm so sick over it but maybe tomorrow will be better
U didn't do anything wrong its him he is just lost and doesn't know what he wants and he likes this attention which u cant do anything about bc he is his own person if u forgive him he is just going to keep on doing it it wont change and u can get mad as u want but it won't help the situation its not your issue its his so he has to help himself
You make it by continuously telling yourself you won't let him do this to you by telling yourself that you deserve better and by telling yourself that your happiness is worth too much to continue to put yourself through all this grief say it over and over and over every day for as long as you need to. My ex lost his job came home got drunk with a bunch of his friends in our backyard he came in the house while i was sleeping with my daughter and was talking all sweet to someone on the phone then i watched him empty his pockets looking for something and stumbleback outside i got up too look at his phone and found a dozen little love notes between him and some **** talking about being together and loving each other and can't wait to feel your soft lips i freaked out and did the same thing you did grabbed my daughter took his phone the keys to our car and left to a friends house its hard it really is but its necessary i really hope you get through this alright on a good note after i finally left him for good i met my now husband a month later and have never been happier he's been through the same thing we have and i trust him completely you'll find your happiness again hun i promise that its gonna hurt for what seems like forever but it won't be forever and you will be happy again promise :)
Leave his @$$ and don't look back.
Thank you so much. How did you make it? I feel like its so hard to breathe
My soon to be ex husband was doing the same thing and I did fall for the im sorry over and over. And its never ment and hell just try to be more sneaky about the other girls. Leave him if he's a good dad then it wouldn't hurt for him to still see his kids if you chose to but for your own sanity and well being dont stay. Its not worth the hurt and pain that will continue if you stay. Even though it hurts now you'll get better. I wish you the best of luck
My soon to be ex husband was doing the same thing and I did fall for the im sorry over and over. And its never ment and hell just try to be more sneaky about the other girls. Leave him if he's a good dad then it wouldn't hurt for him to still see his kids if you chose to but for your own sanity and well being dont stay. Its not worth the hurt and pain that will continue if you stay. Even though it hurts now you'll get better. I wish you the best of luck
I should ignore him. I just can't believe this I would never even look at another man and haven't since we've been together and even before we were togeyher when I was so young and stupid and fell head over heels for him and he ******* does this to me? I don't understand and I feel like what did I do wrong but I havent done anything wrong. Just been his support system for years and always backed him up and stood by him and he's doing me like this. I just hate this and I usually have all the answers and advice for people but never thought this would happen to me.
Ugghh that ***** I have been there is previous relationships and it ***** stumbling upon thoses but everything happens for a reason and if he has done this multiple times then the relationships needs to be reaccess bc that isn't healthy...he needs to just be with himself and figure out what he wants bc I dont think he does...but that isnt any of your concern u just don't stress and just do your own thing and take care of the babies
I would personally ignore his calls and texts for awhile, like ktowne said you need some me time right now to sit and think about things. Do you want to try to work it out? Is this what broke the camels back? Only you know how you feel about him, and yes if you do try to work things out it will be hard. He's broken your trust at this point. Trust is a thing that should be earned so I wouldn't make it easy for him if you do want to continue to be with him. I really hope for the best and I'm truly sorry he's being a di.ck hole :( you seem like a strong woman, and I know it hurts but you can make it through momma
Thank you so much. I am just a mess right now. I can't believe this is happening right now.
Yeah, I was sitting right next to him I was like hey I'm gonna play your candy crush an when I grabbed it his messages were up. I was like woah what?! I just want to crawl under a rock and die.
Oh i am so sorry to hear your going through all this why do guys have to be such idiots!! I went through this with my daughters dad she was two and after 6 months of him telling me it was over between him and his 16 year old girlfriend i finally gave up and threw his **** out its so hard to make a decision this hard when there are kids involved but guys just have to be such idiots that they make us:/ best of luck honey but you deserve to be happy and to be with someone you can trust with your life and you are much stronger than you think i really do wish you the best of luck and hope you get through this horrible situation alright keep your head up honey and don't ever let a man bring it down :)
Thats not ok he shouldn't be telling any one they are sexy n he love them thats bull dont fall for the im sorry becuz if he truly was sorry he wouldn't have done it. He is only sorry he got caught so i wouldn't fall for it but then again its ur decision just do what u believe that is right for u n the kids i wish u the best if u need a friend im here for u
U r doing the right thing I feel like u need to take care of yourself and your babies and u can and will find love later on and the only reason why he is sorry is bc he got caught !!! There are lots of single moms out there my mom being one of them u will make it and u r so strong already for leaving...did u like just go through his phone
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