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Am I Wrong? Definitely need advice ladies
My husband is in the military and I work on the military base. A couple of weeks ago,i was at work when he hung out with one of his lady soldiers. By all means, i dont mind what sex he hangs out with. I do however mind him being with this girl.and why? Because this soldier sleeps around with other married soldiers. Her husband is in bootcamp right now and she cheats on him with these soldiers. I never liked her because of the way she acts but hearing how nasty she is,made me dislike her more.if she was a nice girl my husband happened to be friends with who didnt open her legs,id feel differently and better about it. So a couple of weeks ago while i was at work,he texts me to say hes hanging with her at OUR HOUSE.i was fuming and he didnt see the problem.he felt disrespected because i should trust him he says.and i do trust my husband completely.hes never done anything to make me think otherwise.but the saying goes "i trust you.i dont trust the people youre with".i dont trust this sl*t. And for her to be in my house with my husband playing with my dogs when im not there BY THEMSELVES,im the one feeling disrespected.he apologized.then tonight,again while im at work,he came to pick me up. I noticed the car seat was positioned weird.he said she was in the car.i asked why and he said they were hanging out.i said "not at the house right?" and he said they were. ARE YOU KIDDING ME! I was livid and didnt talk the whole drive.havent really spoke to him at all because i feel like im being disrespected and hes not respecting how i feel. I dont appreciate some hussy in my home when im not there.i dont even bring people over to hang out to respect him when hes not there.am i wrong for being angry? Like i said id feel differently if she wasnt the type to wh*re around with married men. Am i overreacting? Sorry this is long.im just fed up
Ps....why confront d *****? That means every ***** that gets near him u will keep confronting. I will never confront s girl. I would leave. Simple as that, or if imma stay, no sex in any way form or shape without a condom. I don't play when it comes to my health. Ur Husband isnt a child. He knows right from wrong ....heart break can be mend over time. Hiv will last forever. Choose...not being harsh. Being real. I have a friend who have severe herpes on her privates and her mouth because she wouldn't leave.
Smh. U don't need any more proof than that. If it quack like a duck then it's a duck. I would say he's sleeping with her. Why "hang" with d same lady so regular knowing u don't like it. Disease is wild out there and i won't live with or tolerate that. He obviously don't respect u. I don't agree with u not trusting d lady etc wether she's a ***** or not. Bottom line us , ur husband is a married man so even if things happen u can't jump on d "*****" your husband is the one who must remain firm and respectfully , the " *****" dont owe u respect if u get what am saying. If u plan on tolerating, put s hidden cam in ur home and in hus car. But stay strong bcuz life is short, no need for an std from a cheater
My ex husband did the same thing and eventually was deployed with this woman. I pushed it aside and shouldn't have because he pulled the same "you should trust me" card, and I did trust him though I shouldn't have. We lived in Germany for his deployment I went back to the U.S. set up an apt where we were be stationed when he was back and about 4 months later found out not only was he 'talking' to this woman he was deployed with but he was also talking to 2 other girls. One in Texas and one in California. And to take the cake, he took his R&R to see the one in Cali. I messaged them both and informed them I was his wife and yaddayadda.. Now, he pays me every month I didn't have them court marshal him and I am living a wonderful life back in FL with my family.
Trust YOUR instincts, not his word. And that goes for any soldier that has that feeling about their own spouse. Until you have facts, all you have is your gut. Best of luck to you.
Trust YOUR instincts, not his word. And that goes for any soldier that has that feeling about their own spouse. Until you have facts, all you have is your gut. Best of luck to you.
Sincr ur husband wont listen confront the b*tch n tell her to stay out of ur house and off your husband
Oh hell no i wouldnt be dealin with that! why dont they hang out when you are there? and while ur at work.. id think something was up def be careful with that.
I would confront her, and absolutely put your foot down with your husband that you will NOT tolerate ANY woman in your house when your not there. and there is NO reason why they need to be hanging out together alone. Sorry, I love to be optimistic in most cases, but this ain't one of em.
How would he feel, or better yet, what would he think if you were spending your free time when he wasn't around with another man??? F that, that's a big no no, and you guys are married!! He should have enough respect for you when you voiced it the first time. And no my dear, he wouldn't have told you about hanging out with her again had you not noticed the seat and said something. Go with your gut on this one, there aren't many guy/girl friendships at adult ages that are just "hanging out". Especially if she is known to be a hussie. Some people really get their kicks out of sleeping with and having a certain kind of control over a married person. Temptation is a B**** when it comes to men. Sorry, but in my experience, men spend their whole lives having to be a certain way, and work to get some a$$, so when its just thrown at em, it much more likely that they take that ish and run with it.
How would he feel, or better yet, what would he think if you were spending your free time when he wasn't around with another man??? F that, that's a big no no, and you guys are married!! He should have enough respect for you when you voiced it the first time. And no my dear, he wouldn't have told you about hanging out with her again had you not noticed the seat and said something. Go with your gut on this one, there aren't many guy/girl friendships at adult ages that are just "hanging out". Especially if she is known to be a hussie. Some people really get their kicks out of sleeping with and having a certain kind of control over a married person. Temptation is a B**** when it comes to men. Sorry, but in my experience, men spend their whole lives having to be a certain way, and work to get some a$$, so when its just thrown at em, it much more likely that they take that ish and run with it.
I hope you were able to talk to him and I would def confront this b. just friends my a s s because a hoe will be a hoe that's all you need to know. Can't shake the wh*re tree and expect an angel to fall out!!
My hubby was military until he got out a year ago and would never think of having another girl over without me! I would be so upset if I were you!! What exactly do they do when they hang out? And if she has such a reputation is your husband not concerned about what other people may be thinking or saying if they see him and her together? Grrr I wanna go all hormonal on her for acting like that!
I figured you might need a mans thought on what happen, so I read my fiance your post and being that in his past relationships he was cheated on a lot and his bestfriend got with his girlfriend at that time. He is very AGAINST cheating. And he said that you are completely in the right about being disrespected and that maybe you should look into this friendship cause no man is friends with a **** for no reason, there is definitely more to her just coming over.
I give u props for trusting him and giving him trust im the same way I trust the people close to me but other people I really dont but I would kinda be sketchy about that situation also I mean doesnt make sense to me that he hung out with her again at the house right after u told him not to..I mean I dont want to add anymore fuel to your fire but ya I would def talk to him and set some rules...and idk gurl maybe watch your back a lil also keep us updated
Put yo foot n his a** !!! Then rip her a new one!! I hate tramps like that! An if i was u go threw his phone!! Just to make sure!
If he is a giid guy like yiu say, she may have guilted him in to having her over, then he didnt tell you right away because he knew how you felt about it and that you would be angry. Sit down with him calmly, let him know that you trust him and believe he wont do anything with her, dont even mention her bad character, saying. I trust you but not her is like saying I dont trust you. But let him know how important your marriage is to you, and that you want to protect it completely. He really shouldnt be spending time alone with any woman, that it scares you, and that it can be dangerous. Ask him to give you that respect, when there is a gemale involved to hang out as a group, or make sure your there. You deserve that, he should want the same thing from you.
Well considering you have had this discussion with him before I'd be pissed since he did it again too. As a husband he is obligated to respect you and your wishes, regardless if your upset over something that's relevant or not you have your reasons and that's that. And for him (knowing how you feel about it) to go out and do it again really doesn't help him and makes him look bad, again not saying he's done anything men don't think in depth like we do but seriously if the tables were turned and you were at the house alone with a Sargent that cheats on his wife and has a rep with messing around with other married women on base would your husband be ok with you two being alone in his house? Probably not. Plus your pregnant so the whole situation is magnified lol which makes him even more obligated to not do it, for his safety lol
Hopefully when yal talk you'll get everything worked out and he'll understand where you coming from. Im hoping the best for you and your hubby!!!
i ment car not cat..sorry few mistypes...but yeah let het know shes crossed your line!!
I know some like that. It ***** they make life hard for the other females.
shes the reason ?!? the culprit. confront her she must be an idiot or a complete idgaf kind of tramp. either or you should of made your husband stop the cat drop her off where ever ot was made her walk with him. end of story, and he must not be that considerate if he keeps talking to someone that obviously upsets you!!!
Sorry posted to soon. So I do understand being upset. Just a word of caution try talk it over instead of fighting. You dont want him going to her to talk because you wont talk. Good luck. I hope you can work things out, and remember the chaplin is there and has to maintain confidence if you speek to them.
Oh.i meant shes a soldier he works with haha.but she loves to have sex with married sargeants.or anything thats willing really
Hmm its a touchy situation. Trying to be objective I can understand you being upset. My hudband is military. She is one of his soldiers? Like hes her sgt or someone she reports to? If thats the case he can get in some pretty big trouble with his chain of command. My husband almost got a article 15 for having lower ranks at his house ( i was at my parents long story)
Exactly! It really pissed me off that hed even bring that up! He knows i dont like her and dont approve of her dirty ways..im still so angry.and ladies i noticed that too.if i didnt mention the seat,would he have told me? Probably would have because he tells me everything but why not just come out and tell me? Why does it have to be the seat that gave it away? If she didnt have this reputation,i wouldnt be acting like this.but seeing how she doesnt see boundaries with other married men it gets to me.the first time this happened he said "im in love with you.youre my wife and carrying my baby.nothing is ever going to come between our family.i wont allow it"..i believe him but doesnt steer away from the fact that this girl is bad news..i need to get all this off my chest tomorrow to him.i wont and accept this.its not right.he has a big heart to not see people in a bad way,but he needs to open his eyes.this cant happen anymore!
My question is why didn't he tell you he was with her earlier? Why did you have to notice the seat being in a diff position for him to say anything? That's the shady part, my husband wouldn't hang out with another woman alone, not saying its right or wrong but its a respect especially someone with that rep. But she can't be trusted if she tries getting with other men why the f would she be allowed alone with your hubby, you have every right to be upset
Yeah im not really a violent person but that comment would of had every part of me wanting to punch him in the throat and say I was freaked out at first but now im excited to talk to you.... lol this is why I really don't have friends cuz now days its like everyone is shady and two faced
Thank you all of you! Im 26wks+4days and dont need this! I couldnt believe he hung out with her after i expressed my feelings to him.hes so trustworthy but shes not and i dont appreciate it.he obviously sees no problem because when i got home,clearly seeing how bothered i was by this,he goes "chewie was freaking out before"..chewie is our dog..i asked why and he goes "he was excited to see her"..right then and there i ignored him and slammed down my work uniform..excuse me? My dog wasnt excited to see her like shes special.my dog would greet a burglar the same damn way! I cant even speak to him now becausw hes sleeping.but i will talk to him tomorrow.thank you ladies! I really thought it was me acting crazy but im glad you girls understand where im coming from!
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