OT: but curious... Sister Wives?

[Momo1409]

Ok I know this show is all bout their faith and religion so I don't want this becoming an overly heated discussion but I'm genuinely curious.


I don't know how many of you ladies get time to watch TV or even have cable or etc. But those that do. On TLC there is a new show called Sister Wives. Its bout a man who has 3 wives (just saw a news thing saying that after 16yrs of 3 he just married his 4th) and 16 children I think.

I'm curious on ur guys thoughts on this? Would you watch? I am just bc I'm curious how the women do it! I'm such a jealous woman sometimes I could never stand knowing my man was with another woman 3 doors down. Lol. I get mad thinking of his exs. Anyway ya just wanted some thoughts!

[SunWorshiper_26]

They had a special house made so they can all live their.

I wouldn't watch it not for moral reasons but because the guy seems like an @ss. To each their own and I respect that it is his way of life and as long as everyone is the relationship willingly than fine but it certainly isn't what I would choose to do. I am busy enough with one husband, three dogs and a baby on the way how does he have time for more than one?!!  And that many kids?  It reminds me of the Duggars and their kids. And my opinion on that one is: a vagina is NOT a clown car!  Also when you get evicted out of your apartment bc you have no money it's a clear sign that you don't need more children and should probably stop breeding until you are financially stable again.

[julianovak]

LOL..... Hes a "loving" man bc hes allowed to cheat on his first wife with THREE other women. Why not marry twenty, if thats "his" thing...... I personally think those women are literally brain washed into believing that its totally ok for him to be with multyple women. I think it has NOTHING to do with "morals" or "beliefs" i think its all bull. Hes the type of man who wasnt settles for having one wife, he needs "more".... EWWW.

[Momo1409]

See I would think that would upset the other wives. I mean what if something goes wrong? Then he can be all well we aren't married. Lol

I don't see Cody doing that. He seems like a very loving man and all his wives and Children seem happy.

[julianovak]

OH, and TECNIQ. he is only LEGALLY married to his first wife. The other "three" are basically lovers. Im saying LEGALLY. on paper. It was said on the today show. So TENIQ. he only has one actual wife, and three lovers. In my eyes if it aint legal then its NOT legal.

[julianovak]

I would never watch it. Its obsurd. Id never want to "watch" someone living this way. Did i mention reminds me so much of that BIG incident that happened in the south.... With parents marrying off there girls to old men, Also "polygamists". Oh and EEWW.

[Spiket77]

I started to watch it last night but lost interest. It doesn't offend me and from what I saw they did seem happy. Nobody was forced into the marriage and the kids seems like regular kids to me. They were even joking about "polyg" comments people make. The kids seemed to know who they were and not really care about the outside judgements. At least they are loved and cared for. I can't really get into the religious debate of it all. But, to them this is part of building their family for the afterlife. That is what they believe. To each their own...it's not effecting my marriage in anyway.

On the exploitation of young girls... That happens in a lot of different cultures and religions. There are always bad seeds. I try not to judge the whole lifestyle based on those scumbags.

[NicMom]

I watched it last night. It's more about breaking the sterotypes around the lifestyle. That said there is mo way. Marriage is hard enough with only two people.

[jade_and_janessas_mommy]

I am pretty sure it is illegal and I am really wondering the same thing.  It seems like even if it is something that is illegal but in Utah they kind of "look the other way", by them having their own show and just being so open about it, it seems like kind of a slap in the face to the law- kind of like daring someone to come and arrest them.

Momo1409- I never thought of that maybe that is how they get away with it?  I think the way it works is that the first wife and the man ARE legally married, and all the wives after the first wife are not legally married to him.  They are just "sealed" whatever that means.  I am going to keep watching and I really hope they address the whole legal issue becuase I'm curious.

[Linzola1]

I have it recorded but havent yet watched it..... I didnt read all the replies but I really dont know what the story line is so I will watch it today and let y'all know how I feel about it!

[hkenny]

I watched it out of curiosity, I dont believe in polygamy as I grew up in a christinan home. I was surprised to say the least. I personally cant image living the way they do but they all seem very happy. Even their children seem very happy. Cody ( the husband) doesnt really act like king either he seems like a nice guy, he treats all the wife's well and makes sure to take each 1 on a date each week. He rotates bedrooms as well. WEIRD I know but it seems to work for them. He did not grow up that way, his dad converted when he was 19 I think and he decided to convert as well. 2 of the wifes grew up in polygamy familes so to them its normal, they even said they cant imagine living with just a husband and no sister wifes. 1 wife didnt grow up that way but likes it. Its interesting that all the wives have specific roles, 1 works to help pay for the families needs and she loves working she said she's just not the type to stay home, but she loves that her kids are home with their "other mom" 1 wife is going back to school something she always wanted to do and the last cleans and home schools the kids.
It did seem like there was going to be conflict in furture shows about the 4th wife. Cody said me having 3 wives is ok with them but a girlfriend no!  I dunno personally I dont agree with it. However after watching it they truly all seem happy. 1 interesting tidbit....the 1st wives sister was also in a polygamist family and she died of cancer...very sad but the wive said she never had to worry about who would take care of her kids b/c they already had 2 other moms. That is 1 positive thing about it...however wrong I think the rest of it is.

just a question, isnt it illegal? in the US and Canada? Where do they live that they can get away with it? or is he only legaly married to the 1st wive?

[Mumita]

To me its not about religion or jealousy. I cannot respect a man who has such an ego to make all of these women do what HE wants to support his own egotistical whims, to serve him sexually, to reproduce however he pleases to share their relationship, to make a household for him.  Its just disgusting to me.  And these women are idiots following such an egotistical, selfish, chauvenistic, sexist pig.  That's all I think it is.  It just makes me mad.

[Momo1409]

I think they live in a town or something where its not. Or just flat out aren't legally married. You know do the whole shabang but never signed the papers? I'm not sure I bet they'll talk more bout it.

And its true his newst wife was in a sign marriage before and she didn't like it! And he said that the first wife me others first and it took him a while to decided hed marry them. That may also be why she is not as ok with this fourth wife..... I agree hmm..

[jade_and_janessas_mommy]

I wactched it too and I thought it was interesting.  I have watched that HBO show "Big Love" for years so I thought it was neat to see real people that really live that way talking about it.  The thing that I wanna know is - even though in some areas it is more generally "accepted" than others, I thought it was still illegal, even in Utah.  These people are parading their faces around on TV and just telling everyone what they do and what they're about.  Which is fine if they want to live that way, it's not my business, but I wonder if there are going to be any legal repruccsions by these people announcing to the world that they practice plural marriage?

On another note, I thought it was interesting that the first wife seemed to be the one that wanted that lifestyle the most.  She kept talking about how she grew up in it, they mentioned that she and her dad were key in getting the man to "convert", and she talked about how her and her husband had always talked about the idea of getting more wives, even before they were married.  The husband even called her the "bait" more than once.  You would think it would be a man that would want that (although I don't know why- it seems there are enough problems with one man and one woman) but these women seemed to enjoy the lifestyle just as much if not more than the man.  Hmmm.

[smjmekg]

I wonder what people would say about a woman who did the same thing...married multiple men...the way I see it, men probably think this guy is so awesome because he's got more than one wife, but if it was a woman I wonder if they'd think the same, or if they'd think she was trashy...

Either way I disagree with it 100%!!! To me it's just wrong on so many levels...

[Momo1409]

Yea they are. They all chose to marry him. And theirs now aunts as cousins or whatever. They were all unrelated woman. The newst one actually live 4 hrs away. but I agree itss weid but instersting to see how stereo typed they are. :)

Good to hear u girls thoughts too! :)

[Heatherm4]

I watched it and it was very interesting to me. I've watched documentaries about polygamist's and a lot of them are nothing like this family. This one seems more "modern" to me. Polygamist's are very known for being forced to marry young women...even ones that are underage which is very sad.
The first wife definitely seems like almost an outcast because she does only have 1 kid and she flat out said that she deals with jealously issues. That must just kill a woman inside. What's funny was that the man didn't turn into that religion or those beliefs until later on in his early twenties and the women all grew up with that lifestyle.
People around the world have their own beliefs I guess...it doesn't make them bad people. Many people do crazy things or odd things in the name of religion and God. I just live my life the way I do and accept that people in this world are just plain different.

[LosingMyMindInGA]

To each their own, but frankly I think it's disgusting.  Can you imagine how those poor kids will feel once everyone starts ridiculing them?  I would NEVER be ok with "sharing" my husband with anyone.  That completely goes against the sanctity of marriage.  Just gross!  Those poor kids...I mean their siblings are also their cousins....their aunts are their "step" moms....ewww.

[Flavoured]

Brainwashed I tell you, that's what they are! Lol Cassandra, Ik about them not having normal names.. I personally rename them!!

[Momo1409]

Lol 5n1 ik when she said that I'm like WHAT! But it does make sense kinda bc the 1st will feel like the 2nd is intruding on her marriage etc. But a 3rd well maybe that's his getaway from all the first 2s drama? Idk. They all seem like friends but I'm sorry I am not friends with ppl who have slept with my man!

What's crazy is the older kids like it! plus they go to a pologomist school. But they said they can be whatever they want! Ur not giving them a choice! HELLO! Sorry my rant there.....

Anyway I liked it. Very informative.... And I agree with DarkRaven I'm a totally anthropology nut! :)

[Cassandrajane]

I dont watch it, but I am a very Jealous girlfriend...
John's ex;s NEVER have normal names! Never will do!
Because I just dont like them, every single GF he has had except me has cheated on him... Hmmm.
LOL and ttreated him like crap. And I am just like gr,
So I duno how they could do it, It would kill me!

x

[5n1]

Okay so I was finishing typing that last post, one of the wives said that if you are married to 2 wives and having problems, marry a 3rd...WHOA thats just insane...if ya cant handle the 2 ya got why add another to the problem? hehe

[5n1]

Oh my that show is on now...its funny I had never heard of it before, but once I saw this, I had to look for it...I could not imagine, I too am a jealous person. But, that aside, I would never do it..I have to agree with Joy on this one...Sorry I am not trying to offend anyone...I believe everyone has the own views and opinions, and I do not judge anyone..But, I am a woman of God, so that being said it is against my morals...

But, these women are brave, I could not, could not do it lol...I think I would go mad knowing I have to share my husband, and be friends, and co-parent with these other women lol

[Flavoured]

Yea, it really does depend on how they were brought up. A woman brought up jn the western world would see it as abhorring! But in Africa, some communities see it as some sort of tradition, and no matter how peaceful and accepting these women may seem, there is always trouble!! There will be someone amongst the women, who wouldnt like the idea, but dont have a chioce because its the way they see other people do it. It reminds me of slavery, and no matter how mildly it is put, that's what it is (to me anyway)..

[lissie01]

A bit off topic but same conslusion!

that reminds me i was watchin  a documentary a few months ago and it was culture when a girl turns 16 she becomes a women she stands in the middles of the crowd and they all rip her hair out! and then her new hair make her sorta born into womanhood if that makes sense! its soo sad but again she knows no other way she did not complain once!