OT: a little frustrated

[jdlk]

My husband is slowly caving on starting to have children but.... he says that we will be poor and using "we will not be able to go on trips" and **** like that against me.... we don't go on trips as it is!!  And we are not poor!!  we make very good money - both of us!!!  I just don't know what to say to him any more....I think he is more scared than anything.... aaaaahhhhhhh......

[jdlk]

thanks for the input!  I really hope my husband comes around..... once it happens, I think he will finally realize what he had been missing......

(Congrats by the way)!!

[nikko*ttc]

My hubby was like this as well. I finally told him that I was coming off the hormones (birth control), so if he didn't want children then he needed to strap one on. He of course opposed this idea of having to wear a condom after having been together for the last 8 years and so I am now 13 weeks preggers. Although the road has been very tough. I have had 2 miscarraiges, but now I am getting a bit less jumpy now that I have made it to the 2nd trimester.

[jdlk]

thanks ladies!!  I do believe that he is honestly scared and I've told him he will be a good father and that I have no worries in that department.....

I am going off BC in september and after that it is up to him to decide if he should be using protection.  

[JoyRenee]

Sounds like the husband is just scared! But honestly, if you're frugal and smart, your money won't fly out the window! And besides, your children are sooooooo worth it. If he were to have a child, money wouldn't even matter anymore. It's that sweet precious life that is relying on him...

I think it's deeper than money and he's just using that as a buffer from having to think about it. It's like a justification. Anyway, just keep encouraging him! It's the men who act like this who turn out to be the GREATEST fathers! You can tell him I said that!

You could always tell him, "We could try for at least 6 months!" And, a little TMI, you could let him know you won't have to use condoms/contraceptives. Men seem to go for that one and then think about the consequences later.

[mami1323]

You never know sweetie.  Maybe he will start to see things your way.  Good luck with it, I hope it works out for you.

[jdlk]

We will have to have another talk again tonight - as I am still upset and hurt....  hopefully this one will be better...

I'm 27 but would like to have kids <--- (plural) by the time I hit 30... but it seems that won't happen....