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Pregnancy or Abortion?
I am 8 weeks pregnant, and I really do not want to have this baby. But I am not 100% sure if I want to have an abortion. I do not want to put up for an adoption. I already have 2 small children by 2 different dads. I just feel so bad that I made this mistake once again. I will be a single mother for the 3rd time. Any advice. Should I have this baby or not?
Just a warning, you're most likely going to get a lot of angry women commenting..... So don't get mad when they voice their minds.
It's up to you though. That's all I'll say.
It's up to you though. That's all I'll say.
Why is it that you don't want to give the baby up for adoption? If you were to choose not to keep the baby, I of course feel the best thing to do would be to give your child a life you can't give (if that's the case). In the end, you're the one that has to live with the choice you make, so think long and hard, (and quickly, as a lot of places will not do abortions into the second trimester). Good luck!
They do abortions up to 14 weeks but this is all up to you. I would give the baby a chance and let a family adopt. Theres so many people wanting kids and can't. Your baby is a blessing. !
Its up to you, but if u cn deal with it emotionally, because i wanted one too i couldn't do it because this baby is innocent and i have no right to take its life, and i ask god forgiveness for even thinking like that.. and i Know when i have it imma feel bad looking at my baby knowing i had a thought to kill it.. and my friend did it, and she think about it everyday and wish she never dne it...
That is the hardest decision you will ever have to make. Make sure you think it over thoroughly. I personally never got an abortion. At the beginning of my pregnancy (I was 8 weeks too) my family didn't want me to have this baby and to get an abortion. My friend told me to watch this video on YouTube abortion showing an ultrasound at 7 weeks. I couldn't believe how cruel it was the baby was letting off a silent scream it was very disturbing. I knew this was not the option I will ever take regardless of what situation I'm in. God says children are a reward. I am now 37 weeks and I am the happiest person alive I can't wait to have my baby (second pregnancy) and my parents warmed up to it. If you don't want the baby chose to give it life and give it away for adoption just some other option than to kill it. There are plenty of women who can't have babies that would love it. And if you chose to keep it you will be a strong woman. I personally could not live with that regret for the rest of my life
Thats a choice only u can make, nobody else can make it for you.. And no one should judge your decision..
Thats a choice only u can make, nobody else can make it for you.. And no one should judge your decision..
I was raped and had seriously considered abortion with my second son, I was going through a divorce from an awful marriage and dealing with child custody case of my oldest (which I lost because of this pregnancy) well I decided against abortion and.started leaning on adoption. I had some family friends who.couldn't have.kids so I considered them. Well I met my current husband, my son would only move for him, I mean of course I felt him.move but if I or anyone else would talk he'd stop moving, with.my husband (when we were just friends and.dating) he could lay on my belly and sing and talk to our son and he'd kick away. From that moment I knew keeping him was the only option.
I had him and when they showed him to me all I could do was cry at the thought I considered ridding myself of such a precious child because of something that wasn't his fault (I mean it wasn't mine either but still). Now he is the only one I have full custody of, and so many people ask me if I'd go back and choose something different if it meant I could get my older son full time, as much as I'm in love with my older son and would love to have him full time as well he has another part of a family who.loves him just as much and needs to have their time with him, I don't blame my second son for anything it wasn't his fault. He is the highlight of my day, this little boy can make me po'd and crack up in same minute.
I had him and when they showed him to me all I could do was cry at the thought I considered ridding myself of such a precious child because of something that wasn't his fault (I mean it wasn't mine either but still). Now he is the only one I have full custody of, and so many people ask me if I'd go back and choose something different if it meant I could get my older son full time, as much as I'm in love with my older son and would love to have him full time as well he has another part of a family who.loves him just as much and needs to have their time with him, I don't blame my second son for anything it wasn't his fault. He is the highlight of my day, this little boy can make me po'd and crack up in same minute.
2 of my closests girlfriends have had abortions...they are NOT emotionally damaged from doing it. Everyone is different, IMO its your body and you dont have to do anything you dont want to do. People can tell you to give it up for adoption...ask them if they have ever given their child up for adoption! its simply your choice. God forgives.
Hey hun, I'm in the same boat, I have a six year old and I'm 8 weeks pg. just found out last night, by suppossed fiance us also two other womens boyfriend...go figure. I thought about abortion and I'm can't do it. I'm may be hard explaining the situation to family, but we have both done it before. Also no matter how many kids you have our fathers etc. you will find someone that isnt phased by that, it was your life and you lived it and did what you thought was best. If people want to harp on you about your decisions then they have even bigger problems then you do. Genuine people and men will be understanding. Men can be jerks and life isn't made of fairy dust. Whatever decision you make, make sure that
it is your OWN, cause no one else has to live with it but you.
it is your OWN, cause no one else has to live with it but you.
Like most the other ladies,minus the really negative one, have said it is just something you need to decide for yourself and your kids. I am a single mom also with an 11 year old and 14 month old...i am going through a nasty divorceand custody battle for my 1yr old from a verbally/emotionally abusive ex and I am almost 33weeks pregnant. It is not my exes...it happened the very first time I did anything with anyone after I left him...and I later found out that the sperm donor is married! So I am completely on my own and understand how you could contemplate what you are. I am all for the right to choose but me personally I could never have an abortion or give my baby up for adoption. I have people judging me...asking me who the father is....yada yada yada but you know what hun, in the end, it is YOUR life! Not theirs....NO ONE has any right to judge you in whatever decision you make.
I think that you should do whatever you want. I understand feeling overwhelmed I'm pregnant with my second by two different dads but my husband has raised my son his whole life and I've never had to do it alone and I don't want to have anymore either I've already signed the paperwork to get my tubes tied. I don't think I could carry a baby 40 weeks and then give it away either so I understand where you are coming from with that. But I myself could never have an abortion. Isn't there some way you could have, love, and care for this baby, and take appropriate precautions in the future? If not you should do what's best for you and your children regardless of what anyone else says or thinks. Good luck!
They don't have the RIGHT to judge but we all know they will, so choose what YOU think will be beat, what YOU think YOU can live with. My mom had 6 kids by the age of 22, she had two abortions thrown in there and had she not had those abortions could have Carried them gave birth and still had the following child. My point was that with us 6 kids she was single, she had 3 baby daddies, and then a different.one for one of the abortions, anyway she struggled and almost lost us, she was able to.do it and we are all almost grown and happy :)
Regardless what you choose, its your choice and if anyone judges you then they can just suck.it, you can smile and say "You don't like it, get outta my life"
Regardless what you choose, its your choice and if anyone judges you then they can just suck.it, you can smile and say "You don't like it, get outta my life"
This is a pro life forum, pls we r pregnant love our bbys so cn u voice ur concern somwher else its disturbn pls, I respect ur rights bt move ur question somwher else pls!! U cn c the forum says pregnant nt abortion pls may God b wth u!
No this is not a pro life forum...this is a pregnancy forum to discuss ALL issues regarding pregnancy! She has every right to have posted her question and she deserves understanding and respect for WHATEVER decision she makes! Just because we are pregnant and love our babies does not mean that we do not have to have compassion for a fellow humanbeing in a tough situation! I am in a situation similiar to hers...am single...pregnant with my 3rd child by 3 different men. I came the closest I ever thought id come to even considering abortion with this pregnancy...which I considered it for all of 2seconds so yes I chose to continue my pregnancy but that doesnt give me or anyone,the right to judge her for trying to make a decision!
I agree that it is totally ur choice and one u have to live with for the rest of ur life. It is a decision that I regret to this day and wish I could go back and change.
If you don't like the question or it upsets you have the right to not read it! Just like she has the right to do what is best for her in her life!!!. Sorry to the others for ranting but as you can see I am about a womens right to chose. Whether I could never do it or not....i still believe we all deserve the choice! And I feel unless you have lived someones life...you have no right to judge them. That is all. Lol
Thank You. I always tell people who judge what you just said. I am glad that most women in this forum are understanding and not judgemental. Thank You all who were understanding for your feedback, and thank you so much Jenniekae81. I have been feeling low on myself, because I do have 3 different fathers for my children. I am not wild. I am a hard working woman who made stupid choices. I am glad to know that I am not alone. And I admire your courage to have your baby!
i got raped when i was 17 and had an abortion after that my life spiraled out of control n found out i had cancer and was told that i couldnt have kids i was emotionally destroyed prayer changes things. My opinion dnt consider an abortion.
That is a choice only you can make, and you are the one that lives everyday with the decision you do make, but before you make up your mind and think abortion is the easy way out, Google it and see what kinds of things are out there, even an 8-10 week old embryo looks like a baby after its been aborted, it might make you feel differently and better before then after when its too late, life is too short to live with regrets.
OK she didn't come.on here for an argument or to.be judged she came to hear OPINIONS not judgmental comments, support and understanding is what she needs.
I wont judge you for the decision you make, I pray that you make the best decision for YOU no one.else.
I wont judge you for the decision you make, I pray that you make the best decision for YOU no one.else.
If you cannot emotionally handle adoption than you cannot handle abortion. Giving a child away is difficult and heartbreaking, even if it's for the best. What a lot of people don't realize is that when you get an abortion you are still giving up your child -- that same baby that was killed would be the same exact baby that could've had a life with another family (or you). It's no different whether you've "known" the child 8 weeks or 9 months, it's the same little baby that is experiencing the consequences of your choice (good or bad). Abortion may seem "easier" because the woman hasn't had the chance to fall in love with her baby yet, but it seems cowardly. It's like saying it's ok to assassinate or kill someone you didn't know because you thought it was for the better, yet you wouldn't kill your friend or sister "for the better." The idea is the same- women are able to do abortions because they don't know their baby yet...but they are still killing.
That said, it is YOUR CHOICE. I just wanted to give you something to think about to hopefully help you decide. Either way, you need to feel confident in the decision you made. In life, you should never make a big decision (about abortion, marriage, etc.) if there's even a hint of doubt- because that doubt can turn into regret. Best of luck to you.
That said, it is YOUR CHOICE. I just wanted to give you something to think about to hopefully help you decide. Either way, you need to feel confident in the decision you made. In life, you should never make a big decision (about abortion, marriage, etc.) if there's even a hint of doubt- because that doubt can turn into regret. Best of luck to you.
as long as you take care of your children, you shouldn't be judged for how many fathers your kids have. as long as your kids are taken care of.
I agree with you, I couldn't give my baby up for adoption after carrying and going thru delivery and all that for 9 months.
I personally couldn't go thru with abortion either. But noone knows anyone else's situation and what they go thru, do noone has a place to judge you. like some said its YOUR decision. you needa do what's best for you, and no one else. and you shouldn't hafta feel judged on the decisions you make.
You said tho your not 100% on the abortion, the only thing ill say, is make sure you are before you go thru with it! cos you never wanna have that doubt yakno ? either way Hun good luck in whatever you choose to do. there's always many supportive women on here, remember do what's best for you. x
I agree with you, I couldn't give my baby up for adoption after carrying and going thru delivery and all that for 9 months.
I personally couldn't go thru with abortion either. But noone knows anyone else's situation and what they go thru, do noone has a place to judge you. like some said its YOUR decision. you needa do what's best for you, and no one else. and you shouldn't hafta feel judged on the decisions you make.
You said tho your not 100% on the abortion, the only thing ill say, is make sure you are before you go thru with it! cos you never wanna have that doubt yakno ? either way Hun good luck in whatever you choose to do. there's always many supportive women on here, remember do what's best for you. x
I see it as this god wouldn't put more on you if he thought you couldn't handle it... I'm seven months with my no job baby daddy not around I had two abortions in the past one was forced by my mom I wa 14... I would never say abortion it honestly leaves you emotional scarred.... The baby your carrying is a blessing and that baby could have the cure for something... You never know... But the choice is yours goodluck
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