So upset

[July29]

Ok so yesterday I found out my husband's family is not going to do a baby shower for me because they are mad. Last weekend we were at his family reunion and it seem like everyone had something to say. My brother in law keep saying to me you have to start walking now, then his uncle started saying you can eat shrimp bcuz its bad for you, then my sister in law started saying you have to stop eating spicy thing, if not your baby is going to come out with white little pimples and babies with that look ugly. I just didn't say anything but I was getting frustrated that everyone had something to say. my sister in law was going to buy us the crib, so that day I went to pick up the one I liked. But then the next day, I was in their house and I felt like I need a masage and again she had something to say. your not supposed to have neck masage because it cause pre labor. And I had it. It seems like she cant keep her mouth closed. I told my husband that I didn't want anthing from her cuz it seems that because shes buying the crib she has the right to speak her mind. Its my pregnancy!! My husband got bad at me and told all his family members that I didn't want nothing from them. Seems like he doesnt understand. I know they are exited and but not even my mom tells me what to do or what not to do. I'm angry. I know they are mad but I dont feel like I should appologise. I know that it anger that day contribute to my crazy hormones but still. Lol

[July29]

We are not asking for advise, we are just venting our frustration with our in laws. And the reason why is so frustrating hearing "advice" its because those are no advices those are crazy old midwife stories. But thanks for sharing your opinion.

[mommyinapril202012]

I don't get it, its like a vicious circle.  Every pregnant woman hates getting unwanted advice from other woman who have had kids and those same woman that are giving advice at one point hated getting unwanted advice also, yet they still give it......I just don't get it....

[Mommyjeep11]

I think y'all mean the poster above me. We just sold our house so we are actually living with my inlaws right now and my parents live 15 minutes away :/ I keep asking my husband if he wants to move to Alaska lol! But even then I don't think that will be far enough away from my mom.

Oh and I did my bloodwork today for my c section in the morning and they said no visitors other than my hubs until 8am. My mom freaked because she wants to get there at 7 :/ and actually had the nerve to ask if I would tell my hubs to stay home until 8 so she could go to the hospital with me WTF!! Like I wouldn't want my husband and father of my kids there!! I got so mad at her! I couldn't believe that. She said she is going to show up at the hospital at 7:30 anyways so she can be the first to hold her and take pictures. I told her no one and I mean no one not even hubs holds her before I do. Then I'm kicking everyone out except for my husband so I can nurse her. She got mad that she is on the list of people getting kicked out. But heck this is my baby not hers. She raised hers now it's my turn.

Good luck with your family. I know things are going to be tense tomorrow with mine. :/

[angiemtzsanchez]

I think its normal to have inlaws like that even though it *****! I unfortunately have the luck of having the 1st grandkid for my motherinlawn she has been on my last nerve! She is very rude n disrespectful n when shes mad at me she sends me weekly txt msgs that shes canceling my babyshower! Like I care my sisters/mom r throwing me one n she refused to make it one bug one but anyways I just give her a blank stare n never say anything but who knows one day I may snap!

[Lesley27]

lol i agree with that! mommyjeep11 is lucky! im on with my BF on the farm he grew up on... so its the house his family grew up in.... what i would give to not be in "their" teritory!
And thanks ladies for this post! Its nice to vent and relate to others!!

[July29]

Lol I thought I only had crazy in laws. Lol. I dont have a problem them buying the crib the problem I have is that they day my baby is born and they ask if I can take him to their house and I dont want to they will be rubbing it in my face that they brought me the crib. As with my mom like you girls said I can tell her what I think and if she gets mad she wont hold any resenment, noy like my in laws. I said I dont want a crib and they got mad to the point of canceling my baby shower. Ughh but all well theres nothing I can do to get them happy, now they have the idea of me not wanting anything from them. Mommyjeep11 your so lucky of moving that far away I live 15 minutes away from them. Lol