So upset

[July29]

Ok so yesterday I found out my husband's family is not going to do a baby shower for me because they are mad. Last weekend we were at his family reunion and it seem like everyone had something to say. My brother in law keep saying to me you have to start walking now, then his uncle started saying you can eat shrimp bcuz its bad for you, then my sister in law started saying you have to stop eating spicy thing, if not your baby is going to come out with white little pimples and babies with that look ugly. I just didn't say anything but I was getting frustrated that everyone had something to say. my sister in law was going to buy us the crib, so that day I went to pick up the one I liked. But then the next day, I was in their house and I felt like I need a masage and again she had something to say. your not supposed to have neck masage because it cause pre labor. And I had it. It seems like she cant keep her mouth closed. I told my husband that I didn't want anthing from her cuz it seems that because shes buying the crib she has the right to speak her mind. Its my pregnancy!! My husband got bad at me and told all his family members that I didn't want nothing from them. Seems like he doesnt understand. I know they are exited and but not even my mom tells me what to do or what not to do. I'm angry. I know they are mad but I dont feel like I should appologise. I know that it anger that day contribute to my crazy hormones but still. Lol

[Lesley27]

lol My mom/family is awesome, they would never just go and buy the bigger items... and even the not so bigger items, they come shopping with me and take stuff that i had intentions of buying a pay for them, or they get me to pick out what i want... my mom bought the high chair this way, or they phone and ask if there is something specific i want... ya know normal comunication skills ;)

And when this baby arrives i already told the BF that my mom will be coming and helping as his mom did it last time and its true at least with my mom i can tell her when she is driving me bonkers and she wont have a grudge! lol ... they have to continue to love me even with all the crazy hormones and all!!   i should say his mom was a big help but i had to get her to stop cause she really wasnt letting me do anything! (post csection) when im a nurse!... i make people get mobile for their own good lol

[Mommyjeep11]

My mil bought the crib for this baby but it's because she bought one for my niece a few months ago and wanted to do the same for us so I was fine with that. My problem is my mom. She keeps buying all of these clothes that I will NEVER put on my kid. She still buys my 4 yr old white shirts and light colored pants then wonders why she only sees him wear them once...yeah umm he's a little boy and white gets destroyed in a matter of seconds. I think just about every outfit she has bought my little girl is white or light pink. I mean really come on!! I try to act thankful but at the same time I just see it as a huge waste. This baby already has a full winter stash of clothes, we live in south Texas where it gets cold maybe a week out of the whole winter :/ and I think she has bought sizes ranging from 9m-24 months just for the winter :/ she's crazy. And she's all upset because I want to breastfeed and said that I'm trying to keep her grand daughter from her because of that. Like I said CRAZY!! But the great thing is that she is my mom so I can kinda put her in her place and not feel as awkward about it.

[Msme3]

I can relate! Your not selfish, hormonal or crazy! In laws are over bearing and feel they have no limits and your always the bad guy! You should hear the things my in laws tell me about pregnancy... Outrageous old wives tales that can't even medically be correct! "don't cross your legs you will suffocate the baby" "don't cross your arms your stop circulation to the baby" "don't watch scary movies the devil will take your baby's soul" "if you hear the baby cry (the one in your belly mind you) that means your baby is dead" really the list continues and gets more outrageous. I am always explaining to them how certain things are just not medically possible! N they get pissed off lol and as for them getting me stuff they get all offended when I dont want certain things. They say I think I'm to good for 2nd hand stuff which is not true! Little kids grow up fast m run threw clothes my problem is don't give me things that are stained with baby crap... Throw up... Formula or whatever discoloration is on the clothing. That's gross and I'm not putting it on my kid! After years of my husband explaining n fighting with them and I standing up for myself we have come to a point where I just don't talk to them at all! When we do see them I'm civil and leave it at that. No calls, no text, no Facebook nothing! It's just so easier this way! They are unbearable and we are actually moving even farther from them 21 hours away and I can't wait to put even more distance between us!

[mumniya]

I understand were your coming from my sister tries to tell me what's ok or not ok to do while pregnant this is my SECOND CHILD & Im the OLDEST & not by like a year or two I'm 23 n she is 17 it gets on my nerves lol but his family is probably hurt and offended I know at the time you were upset n thought your hubby can do a better job In talking to them but as I've come to learn that doesn't really work out lol maybe you should talk to them tell them you felt overwhelmed with the comments...also with the bby shopping I didn't get to do that with my daughter my mom bought alot of stuff so I get it but I also loved that she did that it was her first granddaughter and she was excited and happy I had the pleasure of putting everything together :) but if u want to do all the bby shopping just tell them that you also what to experience that they should understand your not being selfish just a mommy lol

[July29]

Lol thanks lesly27 I will join the july group thanks for telling me. Haha and thanks for making me feel like I'm no crazy pregnant girl lol, but since it's my first baby I want to enjoy every second if it. And yes it sounds like we have the same in laws. I know they do it in the nice way but enough is enough. And if I dont put a stop to it right now once my baby boy is born they are going to want to be the ones making decisions. I really enjoy having a conversation with you.

[Lesley27]

Hey so i see that you are due July 29th... there is a July group forum if you are interested :)      http://www.medhelp.org/forums/Pregnancy-July-2012-Babies/show/1284

Im due July 20th... i find out Tuesday if my Dr will bump me to the 25th as i just went for an US and thats what it was measuring  :)