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Mommy Girl need advice.
I have a 6yr old and a 3yr old right now and am pregnant with I hope a little boy. My 6yr old is very excited about the new baby but my 3yr old is not. When asked if she is going to be a big sister she says no that she hates kids. She has always been a mommas girl and if I check the mail crys not to leave her. What can I be doing to help her learn now that I will always love her and never leave her even with having another baby. I am confused and worried because I have never left her for more then one night and then she was with her Grandparents and her big sister was with her.
I like njrohe's idea too. Again, it's another way for your girls to be involved with the baby/pregnancy before *BAM* here's a new baby! Getting them used to the idea (especially your younger one) that there is going to be a new baby and s/he will have a lot of needs, but Mommy will still love them lots is the best way to handle it, in my opinion. And if your 6 yr old gets into the 'game' with the doll ...it will be a positive influence on her little sister to join in the fun too!
That is a great idea I will have to try that. Maybe even my 6yr old can play the game with her. I just want to get her to understand that no mater what she is one of our little angels and that will never change.
I read about buying a lifelike baby doll for your older child to take care of. Over the course of the nine months, you can act out all the things you will do with the new baby and show your toddler how she can help (handing you wipes, etc.) while you do for the baby. Then, when the real baby arrives, she takes over care of the doll while you care for the new baby alongside her. Change diapers together, bathe the babies together, etc, so it becomes a game that she plays with you and remains a part of.
My 3yr old is in school for days a week for about three hours. She loves school just chooses to play by herself and not with class mates. She has not gotten into trouble so she is not being mean if they come to play with her so that is good.
Do your girls stay home with you? Perhaps if she were placed in a setting with other children without you, she'd be able to open up more to playing with children her own age and making friends. If you can afford to, maybe put her in day care for a couple hours a few days a week (it will more than likely be rough emotionally for both of you since she's so close to you, but it will pass with time). Your 6 yr old's in school? If you drop her off at school, maybe make it a daily thing that after your older daughter's dropped off you take your younger one to a place like Gymboree. Or some sort of Mommy and Me class to ease her out of being so clingy to you and allowing her more time with other kids.
Regardless, some kids are just very attached to mom and/or dad. Maybe starting out gradually given the opportunity to play with other kids her age will help her become a little more independent when the baby comes!
Regardless, some kids are just very attached to mom and/or dad. Maybe starting out gradually given the opportunity to play with other kids her age will help her become a little more independent when the baby comes!
They say she is just a mommys girl. There is nothing to do but let her deciede who and when she wants to play with. She playes great with her sister just noone else.
LittleBit, that's strange she doesn't want to play with other kids. Have you spoken to her doctor about that?
My 6yr old loves the idea of the new baby she has been asking from day one when the baby will move because she wants to feel the baby. I think it is easyer for her because she saw that when her sister was born that we still loved her and did stuff with her.
I agree with everything Joy said. I just wanted to add that perhaps instead of buying the books online ...you can borrow them from the library. Make a date out of it ...you and your girls. That way you are showing them that even tho this baby is coming, you are still going to do things with them (like go to the library, take a trip to the park, etc). Pick a day of the week when you can all take a trip to the library/park and do it every week, if you can. =D
I have tried to have her help with everything but she wants no part of it. I did take both the girls to see the last u/s I had done and they both liked that. My 3yr old has never liked other kids. She still has a hard time at school because she will not play with her classmates. I even have her school tring to help get her ready for the new baby.
First, I would get some books off of Amazon about the New Baby! They have a TON of great books for kids to learn about the new baby.
Second, you need to talk to her. Tell her that a new baby doesn't mean she will be less loved. You need to reassure her.
Third, let her help you. Whether it's with picking out names, nursery decor, clothes, etc. Let her feel like a part of the process.
Second, you need to talk to her. Tell her that a new baby doesn't mean she will be less loved. You need to reassure her.
Third, let her help you. Whether it's with picking out names, nursery decor, clothes, etc. Let her feel like a part of the process.
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