Successful pregnancy after losing a baby at 22 weeks

[Shannybaby78]

On June 11th I gave birth to my first child..a son at 22 weeks of pregnancy.  He did not survive.  I have so many questions and I'm still so very sad.  Has anyone experienced something similar?  My pregnancy was fine until week 20 then everything went down hill.  20 week u/s was fine but I started having back pain.  The pain got very severe to where I could not sleep or eat and I ended up in the hospital to find I had hydronephrosis.  I was sent home with a follow up appt scheduled with a dr to talk about stenting my kidney.  Not even a week later I started bleeding and went back to the hospital to find I was 8 cm dilated already.  My severe back pain prevented me from knowing I was in labor.  Has anyone ever had hydronephrosis during their pregnancy?  How about pregnancies after having a preterm baby?  Any help or advice is appreciated.  I think I really just want someone to talk to who understands what I am going through :)

[riptwins2009]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I went 25 weeks pregnant with twin boys and at work (a phlebotomist at a blood bank) was on my feet all day. At the end of my shift I sat down and when I got up I start pee-ing on myself, so I thought. I could not stop no matter how hard I squeezed. I went to the bathroom and it was still going, that's when I realized my water bag might of broke. I went to the hospital and one of the bags did break. Stayed in the hospital for a week the had an emergency C-section due to me having a fever. First baby died 5 hours later and 2nd baby died a day later. This is the hardest thing I had to go through. This happened in 2009, and to this day I still cant get over it.
But to cope through this, I feel family and close friends are very important. I lost my religion and almost lost my husband because I just completely shut down. I do have two boys before this pregnancy. And to everyone's surprising this past year,I am now a Sunday school teacher and I am no longer mad at God.  if you can see a psychologist t that is also a big help. Keep your family close but also let them know when you just need your time so they can respect that and give it to you.
another thing we do in our family to keep our twins memories with us, is we celebrate the three days they were with us ever year. something simple...I take out their urn and light a candle. And I am Mexican and we have a celebration that we celebrate our loved ones that has passed away. Dia de los Muertos, Nov. 1 and 2. and that is a big celebration. By doing this has helped my whole family and especially my boys understand death and to celebrate the love we still have for them. They always say we have two angels looking over us.
Your in control on how you want to handle this. This sounds Mad, cuz I thought so too, but the more you talk about it the easier it gets.
I will pray for you and your angel.

[help_with_the_pain]

Hello, i wanted to let you know that I just experienced the same pain you are going through a week ago. I was 25 weeks pregnant and went to the hospital bleeding. They were going to try to hold of labor as long as possible but I just kept bleeding, had alot of back labor and then they were losing our vital signs. I had an emergency c-section and my baby girl was born at 25 weeks. She lived for 36 hours and my husband and I just laid her to rest yesterday. I feel your pain and understand what you are going through. I do not know how strong in your faith you are but for me and my husband, we are leaning on the Lord to help us heal and grow to find our way through this tough point in our life. I have been talking to friends, keeping occupied. Im not sure what else to say because I am still coping and just starting the grieving process myself. I will say I found some closure by writing my feelings about my little angel. If you write to your little angel it might help find some closure, maybe not take away the pain but help knowing you are talking about it out loud. Hope this helps. if you find anything that helps you, please let me know

[turnbacktime]

hi every1 i lost my little boy 3 days ago i was 20 weeks 5 days my cervix dilated 3 cm at 19 weeks when i went to the drs office he saw i was bulging i couldnt have an emergency cerclarge my cervix was too thin i went on bedrest and had progesterone shots but it didnt worj i went into labor i was so devastated i held my son until his heart stopped beating almost 2 hrs after he was born i feel so empty now i dont know what to do and now my breast started leaking can any1 who has been through this offer me any advice on how to cope

[magmutheu]

I've also gone thro that on 16may i was 30 wks preggo i started feeling uneasy when i went to the restroom there wr stains of blood on ma pants.i went to the hospital,ma cervix was 7cm dilated and after an hour i deliverd a baby girl.after 2 mins she started breathing with a wheezing sound then she passed after one day.its very hard to come over it bt am trying.please try hard en God will help u.right now am 9wks pregnant and i pray that he will help me have this child

[andrecruzz]

Hello everyone, is so nice to real different people with the same feelings. Everione around me tells me that they understaand wat I've been going tru but they don't realli feel our pain. When I was 18 weeks pregnant the doc told me I had a short cervix so they had to do a fast circlage. I was 24 weeks when I deliver she ws 1 pound nd 9 ounces she survived for 10 days I know she wasn't well developed but I never thought she was going to pass. I don't think I will ever be ober that nd now after a year we are trying again, its a horrible feeling I think it will happen again and mi doc sais I will alwais have an open and short cervix. But I believe God make miracles and I noe he has one for me. So I hope next time I post somethng it will be a miracle inside me =) I will have u all in my prayers nd jus have faith. God always has a plan.

[niruhari]

Hi,
I have gone through miscarriage at 22weeks and 7 days in June, 2012. It was my 1st pregnancy after IVF. I got pregnant after 6 yrs of trying. It was a boy and a girl. This event just ripped be off. I delivered them vaginally and both were alive for 2 hrs. Sinc ethey were in non-viable state doctors couldn't do anything to help my angles survive.
I am looking for support to help me heal. I am just concerned and having questions as to when I will get pregnant again and even if i Get pregnant how to stay strong during my next pregnancy