Successful pregnancy after losing a baby at 22 weeks

[Shannybaby78]

On June 11th I gave birth to my first child..a son at 22 weeks of pregnancy.  He did not survive.  I have so many questions and I'm still so very sad.  Has anyone experienced something similar?  My pregnancy was fine until week 20 then everything went down hill.  20 week u/s was fine but I started having back pain.  The pain got very severe to where I could not sleep or eat and I ended up in the hospital to find I had hydronephrosis.  I was sent home with a follow up appt scheduled with a dr to talk about stenting my kidney.  Not even a week later I started bleeding and went back to the hospital to find I was 8 cm dilated already.  My severe back pain prevented me from knowing I was in labor.  Has anyone ever had hydronephrosis during their pregnancy?  How about pregnancies after having a preterm baby?  Any help or advice is appreciated.  I think I really just want someone to talk to who understands what I am going through :)

[geminikayla]

Its terible what life throws at you sometimes totally cruel unfair and unprodictable, my sister is 18 an was rushed into labour yesterday att 22weeks! Shed had a terrible pregnancy anot bein able to keep any food atall down an she's extremly thin but we just don't. Understand he's u/s 2weeks ago showed him. Perfect an healthy. Then 2weeks later her waters broke the umbilical called. Had detactched from him an he was starved of oxygen she then had to give birth tto him she had to dress him tttoday an say goodbye an will be arranging the funeral this week I was there every step of ttthe way through her labour an my heart is breaking for her its the hardest fing any one could ever do she seems to be coping really well at the moment but think she's in extreme shock what do we do whatt do we say! I'm a state myself atm had to explain to my 5year old daughter that he's in heaven with the angels its all happend so quik with no. Reason. I love my sistter an justt wana help to take the pain away! Please help

[MomofLillyCierra22]

I know this is an old post, but I relate a lot to your situation. I am 20 yrs old and i was pregnant with my first child and also at 22 weeks I had lost my daughter on June 22. Results later had showed there was absolutely nothing wrong just went in for a check up and there wasnt a heart beat and nobody could tell me why but they had to induce my labor and i had to give birth to her. I also have an older sister she is 21 and has two kids of her own. While i was in the hospital my sister had sent a mass text to everybody (im from a small town so word gets around quick) saying i had lost my child and had to diliver vaginally and had also taken a picture of my daughter, Lilly Cierra, and had sent it out in a mass text also. I had no idea that she did that until i was planning the cremation of Lilly when a friend had showed me the msgs. It was very hurtful and still to this day cannot get over that she did that, my mom or nobody showed any concern for the situation and just thought what she did was fine and pretty much told me to get over it.  Being in a situation like your sister, there really aren't any words or really anything anybody can do to make you feel better. What does help is knowing somebody is there for you, somebody you can trust not just anybody. My step dad who has been in my life since i was 2 didnt say anything to me never said sorry he didn't even act like anything occured which also was very hurtful. My advice is just to let her know youre there for her if she wants to talk about it, sometimes its hard to talk about so wait for her to come to you. I'm really sorry for the loss it's really a tough thing to go through and is something we'll never get over but having friends and family that are willing to help is the next best thing. I wish you guys all the best that goes to anybody who has lost a child, neice, nephew, grandchild, or cousin, things will hopefully start to look up its been a few months and yet its still hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but its there and we'll get there I truely believe that.

[niruhari]

Hi,
I have gone through miscarriage at 22weeks and 7 days in June, 2012. It was my 1st pregnancy after IVF. I got pregnant after 6 yrs of trying. It was a boy and a girl. This event just ripped be off. I delivered them vaginally and both were alive for 2 hrs. Sinc ethey were in non-viable state doctors couldn't do anything to help my angles survive.
I am looking for support to help me heal. I am just concerned and having questions as to when I will get pregnant again and even if i Get pregnant how to stay strong during my next pregnancy

[andrecruzz]

Hello everyone, is so nice to real different people with the same feelings. Everione around me tells me that they understaand wat I've been going tru but they don't realli feel our pain. When I was 18 weeks pregnant the doc told me I had a short cervix so they had to do a fast circlage. I was 24 weeks when I deliver she ws 1 pound nd 9 ounces she survived for 10 days I know she wasn't well developed but I never thought she was going to pass. I don't think I will ever be ober that nd now after a year we are trying again, its a horrible feeling I think it will happen again and mi doc sais I will alwais have an open and short cervix. But I believe God make miracles and I noe he has one for me. So I hope next time I post somethng it will be a miracle inside me =) I will have u all in my prayers nd jus have faith. God always has a plan.

[magmutheu]

I've also gone thro that on 16may i was 30 wks preggo i started feeling uneasy when i went to the restroom there wr stains of blood on ma pants.i went to the hospital,ma cervix was 7cm dilated and after an hour i deliverd a baby girl.after 2 mins she started breathing with a wheezing sound then she passed after one day.its very hard to come over it bt am trying.please try hard en God will help u.right now am 9wks pregnant and i pray that he will help me have this child

[turnbacktime]

hi every1 i lost my little boy 3 days ago i was 20 weeks 5 days my cervix dilated 3 cm at 19 weeks when i went to the drs office he saw i was bulging i couldnt have an emergency cerclarge my cervix was too thin i went on bedrest and had progesterone shots but it didnt worj i went into labor i was so devastated i held my son until his heart stopped beating almost 2 hrs after he was born i feel so empty now i dont know what to do and now my breast started leaking can any1 who has been through this offer me any advice on how to cope