Affair with co worker

[confussed]

I have been with my fiancee for 8 years.  Not so happily.  But I got talking to a coworker and we both admitted we feel in love more than could ever be explained. It was as if we were the same person inside.  He's married and has a 12 year old girl.  So i made sure and told him not to jump into anything.  Well he went back and stayed with his wife and I stayed with my fiance...and am trying to work suff out but I don't understand how a love so real can just up and disappear?  I still love him more than anything but he acts like it was never there.  Is this just his cover up or was he just using me to try and get sex?  It never happened that was what was so special about us?  He won't even come around me anymore.  I don't know how to move on...any advice?

[PGB]

Confused:  Keep resisting.  It will get easier.  Sooner or later he will get the message.  

Shawn:  Why in the world would you do bite her?haha

[confussed]

Yeah I know I am trying to be strong but he has came by twice today and doesn't really have a reason and won't say much.  I don't know if he's trying to tempt me or what.  But its so hard to not want him.  He is a very caring and understanding person.  We can talk hours at a time about nothing.  I have never met anyone like that....but I'm still resisting

[JJety]

"I will bite you in the butt!"

Shawn!  Shame on you.  lol!

[ShawnP]

Shygirl is right!  I will bite you in the butt! I've seen dozens of times with my girlfriend......bad idea!

[shygirl1981]

good job on not giving into the coworker. and a little hint for you, never dip your pen in the company ink. it will almost always bite you in the butt.  as for the guy your living with, well sometimes honey we grow up and we realize we made some bad choices. and sometimes part of growing up means you need to deal with those bad choices. I shacked up with someone very early in my life too, and then I left him when I realized that I was not going to throw the rest of my life away if I wasn't happy.

[confussed]

It must be a habbit cause I am scared not knowing where I will be in the next few minutes.  I have been with my fiancee since I was 12.....never really dated he was my first real crush and after finally getting his attention it was like I just didn't want to loose it.  We have been through alot my parents would move to different towns about every 3 months and my and my fiancee made it through the distances.  And I moved in with him when I was 16 and I am used to what's going to happen next even if it's not always happy.  I do appreciate the insite on the co-worker and I see you all are most likely right, he has moved on and yeah I still feel very deeply for him but I just don't think the feeling were like he pretended them to be.  So I do appreciate the advice.  He did stop and try to talk to me yesterday but after talking about it here with you all I told him that it wasn't fair to anyone for us to do that.  So thanks again to all of you.