Are all men like this??? Men, please respond too!!! And be truthful!

[wunabnorm]

Ok... so my husband and I have been married for little over a year. He is a great stepdaddy to my 2 boys, but... he seems to have a problem. Ok...just for example... today, he called me from work, and I guess he was on break, and his coworker which is also his best friend, were getting breakfast at a resteraunt. We talked for a couple minutes, and then we said goodbye, and he hung up, (so he thought) Well... while I could overhear his complete conversation with his coworker, talking about how hot one of the girls that worked there was, then my husband was like "yeah... I wanna smash the little one". And, then the coworker was like and I wanna knock the other one up. Considering he already has 3 kids by one woman, and has another one pregnant right now, this disgusted me! I mean... all his friends are really nice guys in all, and would give you the shirt off their back if you needed it, but... they all seem to cheat on their wives, and or girlfriends, and wonder what it's like to be in every girl they sees pants. They are all in there mid to late 20's, but I feel like this is a problem, and I want to know do ALL men think this way, and some just don't say it aloud, or if they truly need help, because they have beautiful, loving wives at home, but they fantasize about these other girls! I just don't get it. I mean... it is one to THINK about something, but to say it is another. When I confronted my husband about it, he just said "aww... baby... I'm so sorry! I was just talking ****, I wasn't doing anything, and blah.blah... but, I feel like they must talk like this all the time, and if that's how they talk, then that must be how they think right? Basically, they all grew up in the same neighborhood where everyone messed around with everyone, and mostly everyones parents still live in that same neighborhood, and so they continue to be friends. Well, It must be in the water or something because they never change! They still all act like kids. I mean they have good jobs, and families and all, but... they just can't seem to change their boyish ways! I feel like he will NEVER change! So please tell me... Am I overreacting?

[Confused-one]

I've been reading all this & I decided I might as well chime in too. I have work around men enough to say that although not all men are like this unfortunatly I have to agree that it is the majority of men. I also have to agree that any inteligent man when shown this post by his wife esp knowing her position would obviously agree with the fact that it was disrespectful. Unfortunatly as was pointed out the OP overheard something she was never intended to hear & as cdad said at least he did apoligize. I have seen many men who say things & act ways that they never would if their wives were around & it's sad but it's life, where do you think the saying came from "the truth hurts" to those who truly have the men who wouldn't do this, treasure him.

[PlateletGal]

Well this isn't about me... but one thing I can say about my husband is he is an honest and good man. He respects women and his actions show it. We both are very open and he agrees --- commenting about how attractive a person is, is something that is totally different from making rude & crude remarks. I don't think some people here understand the difference.

Your accusations about me says something about you. You already accused the poster of spying on her husband... LOL ! Blame all the women -- so that you won't have to blame your own husband. Is this what this is about ?  I'm just debating the issue, because I find the topic, like many other topics, and responses interesting.

[have 2 kids]

I'm happy I have a trusting marriage and am not paranoid about something my husband may say when he is with his friends.  It would be very hard living that way.   Thank goodness I used to hang out with guys and have some understanding about men.  

PlateletGal- of course your husband said he agrees with you 100%.   What is he supposed to say when you're being all insane about this.    

[PlateletGal]

"Its in guys nature to conquer, to make it with as many women as possible."

Oh please ! Excuses.... excuses.... excuses...

[cdaddy]

You've gotta get over it. Excuse me for being nasty for a minute but to a guy the only thing better than ***** is...new *****. Its in guys nature to conquer, to make it with as many women as possible. Now it sucks that you overheard what he said but I would be more concerned if he didn't APOLIGIZE. Concentrate on that. How many guys do you know apoligize? How many people for that matter? He cares about you thats why he apoligized. Most guys either want everyone they see or dont admit it. It sounds like you might have an issue. Look at that. If he did that when you were standing next to him now THAT would be ****** up! He is not perfect and neither are you.

[PlateletGal]

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