Are all men like this??? Men, please respond too!!! And be truthful!

[wunabnorm]

Ok... so my husband and I have been married for little over a year. He is a great stepdaddy to my 2 boys, but... he seems to have a problem. Ok...just for example... today, he called me from work, and I guess he was on break, and his coworker which is also his best friend, were getting breakfast at a resteraunt. We talked for a couple minutes, and then we said goodbye, and he hung up, (so he thought) Well... while I could overhear his complete conversation with his coworker, talking about how hot one of the girls that worked there was, then my husband was like "yeah... I wanna smash the little one". And, then the coworker was like and I wanna knock the other one up. Considering he already has 3 kids by one woman, and has another one pregnant right now, this disgusted me! I mean... all his friends are really nice guys in all, and would give you the shirt off their back if you needed it, but... they all seem to cheat on their wives, and or girlfriends, and wonder what it's like to be in every girl they sees pants. They are all in there mid to late 20's, but I feel like this is a problem, and I want to know do ALL men think this way, and some just don't say it aloud, or if they truly need help, because they have beautiful, loving wives at home, but they fantasize about these other girls! I just don't get it. I mean... it is one to THINK about something, but to say it is another. When I confronted my husband about it, he just said "aww... baby... I'm so sorry! I was just talking ****, I wasn't doing anything, and blah.blah... but, I feel like they must talk like this all the time, and if that's how they talk, then that must be how they think right? Basically, they all grew up in the same neighborhood where everyone messed around with everyone, and mostly everyones parents still live in that same neighborhood, and so they continue to be friends. Well, It must be in the water or something because they never change! They still all act like kids. I mean they have good jobs, and families and all, but... they just can't seem to change their boyish ways! I feel like he will NEVER change! So please tell me... Am I overreacting?

[wunabnorm]

Sure!

[have 2 kids]

I wouldn't have continued to listen.  End of story.  

[wunabnorm]

So, if you were talking to your husband, and you realized he hadn't hung up, and you are trying to get his attention, and you hear him saying he wants to smash some girl, you'd be ok with it? Please!

[have 2 kids]

You seem to forget the fact she listened to a private conversation.  She violated his privacy.    

[PlateletGal]

I've hung out guys when I was younger --- but we were all single. I used to tease them often about how they were pervs as well. I'm friend's with two of the guys I hung out with back then (we are talking high school though). One of the guy's wives is so jealous that when he calls me, she flips out. Its ridiculous because we never had an intimate relationship. My other friend is married now with a child and I've seen him a few times.... he's no longer a baby. He grew up as well and respects his wife.  = )

[PlateletGal]

That is your opinion. In my opinion, husbands' or wives' for that matter, who disrespect one another, is wrong.

I asked my husband last night what his thoughts were on this. He agreed with me 100% --- that "smashing" comment was disrespectful and unacceptable. There is nothing wrong with looking or commenting on a beautiful woman or handsome man --- but when you are married and make comments about screwing other people, that crosses the line. Dr. Phil said that flirting was wrong when you were married... that's a little beyond flirting and it shows you how many men think and view women. IMHO.