Are all men like this??? Men, please respond too!!! And be truthful!

[wunabnorm]

Ok... so my husband and I have been married for little over a year. He is a great stepdaddy to my 2 boys, but... he seems to have a problem. Ok...just for example... today, he called me from work, and I guess he was on break, and his coworker which is also his best friend, were getting breakfast at a resteraunt. We talked for a couple minutes, and then we said goodbye, and he hung up, (so he thought) Well... while I could overhear his complete conversation with his coworker, talking about how hot one of the girls that worked there was, then my husband was like "yeah... I wanna smash the little one". And, then the coworker was like and I wanna knock the other one up. Considering he already has 3 kids by one woman, and has another one pregnant right now, this disgusted me! I mean... all his friends are really nice guys in all, and would give you the shirt off their back if you needed it, but... they all seem to cheat on their wives, and or girlfriends, and wonder what it's like to be in every girl they sees pants. They are all in there mid to late 20's, but I feel like this is a problem, and I want to know do ALL men think this way, and some just don't say it aloud, or if they truly need help, because they have beautiful, loving wives at home, but they fantasize about these other girls! I just don't get it. I mean... it is one to THINK about something, but to say it is another. When I confronted my husband about it, he just said "aww... baby... I'm so sorry! I was just talking ****, I wasn't doing anything, and blah.blah... but, I feel like they must talk like this all the time, and if that's how they talk, then that must be how they think right? Basically, they all grew up in the same neighborhood where everyone messed around with everyone, and mostly everyones parents still live in that same neighborhood, and so they continue to be friends. Well, It must be in the water or something because they never change! They still all act like kids. I mean they have good jobs, and families and all, but... they just can't seem to change their boyish ways! I feel like he will NEVER change! So please tell me... Am I overreacting?

[pertykitty]

platelet read it again. she wants answers then yells how she has already talked about this with him.  then what more can we strangers do?  i never said it was her fault.  why are you jumping on me? it wasnt your question. she is a big girl and doesnt need you (nor do i) jumping down anyones throat that doesnt agree.  i see my comments and  others are simular but you want to fight me about it.  give it up!

[PlateletGal]

Of course ---- accuse of her of spying on her husband and blame his behavior on her. You know... I take responsibility for my own actions and wish everyone else did the same. It isn't her fault he made those comments. Sheesh!

[pertykitty]

if you discussed this issue with your husband and its over , wth are you still bringing it up and keeing it going for?? man let it alone if you  have solved it at home.  maybe this nagging behavior is what makes him say those comments.  

[PlateletGal]

I wasn't arguing... it is a good topic, btw.

[chellybeans]

no, not 99.9% and it doesn't have to be as basal as "screwing" ...  but 85% or more. absolutely. it doesn't mean they want to. it just means they are thoughtless at that moment.

i'm gonna bow out of this one. i said my peace and don't really have a desire to argue my opinion.

[PlateletGal]

So you think 99.9% of married men talk about screwing other women ?

I give them more credit than that and I know guys who are adults and wouldn't think of doing such a thing. Hopefully we can recruit some of these dudes over here.  ' ^ )