At what age is too old for a daughter to kiss her dad on the lips?

[inneedofhelp91]

I have been dating this guy for almost 2 years now. His daughter is almost 17 years old. She cuddles with him on the couch, kissing on his shoulder, kissing on his arms, rubbing on his stomach. She was lying on the couch with him, she had her head on his lap and he was rubbing her back. She laid there for hours that day. She kisses him on the lips before she goes to bed at night. She runs around the house in her bra and underwear all time. She is even now starting to run upstairs naked while her dad sits on the couch and can clearly see her running upstairs. She says "Daddy" dont look im naked. And yes she still calls him "Daddy", and talks like a baby around him. It drives me crazy when she does this. I have tried talking to my bf about this and he just says she is "Daddy's" little girl and always will be. I feel I always will be second best to her. I mean I have been putting up with it for 2 years now. I raised one daughter of my own and I have never ever saw anything like this. My bf says it is normal for a daughter to kiss and rub all over her "daddy", I told him no its not normal for a daughter at her age to do this. She even came into his bedroom not too long ago and crawled in bed with us. Laying her head on her daddy's shoulder, then she started kissing it. I got up and left the bedroom. I refuse to sit there while this is going on. I cant take it. It freaks me out.  

[inneedofhelp91]

I am no means jealous here either. trust me on this.

[inneedofhelp91]

I know there is no sexual thing going on. Im not tryin to make her out to be the bad person all i was doing was seeing if it is normal or not. That is all. I have tried to talk to my bf about it and he has told me it normal for a daughter to do this to her father. I have just never seen it thats all.

[specialmom]

Okay, sorry for all the posts.  LOL  I am sure this is upsetting to you.  I'm gathering that perhaps the daughter is overly affectionate with her dad who does not stop this and you feel helpless.  I again will say that talking to her father is the place to start.  If that gets you nowhere, there isn't much you can do.  If he really is sexual with her, call CPS.  If you just think he is overly affectionate and he refuses to make a change (he directs her, right?  He is the parent.)  then this might not be the right relationship for you.  goodluck

[specialmom]

If your gut tells you that they are sexual together, why would you want to stay with him?

[specialmom]

Dear, he's the parent.  If he does not want her to do it, he must handle it.  IF HE is carressing her and he is being sexual, then you need to call child protective services.

Have you tried talking to your boyfriend???   Have you told him how you don't like this and are uncomfortable??  Does he ignore you or agree with you and is he willing to change the dynamics between him and his daughter.

But I don't blame the child here only--------  you seem to want to make her a villain.  She's doing what she has always done and unless her dad doesn't want her to and stops her, then why would this be HER fault?  Just curious.  

[inneedofhelp91]

Is it ok for her to be cuddling, caressing and kissing all over him acceptable? Is it ok for her to run around the house in her bra and underwear?