So I broke up with my ex back in August of 2013. I was 12 weeks pregnant when I left. We had been living together, and when I left I moved back to my parents house, 75 miles away. He was not involved in my pregnancy, and sent me nasty, threatening text messages up until a few weeks before I delivered. I was terribly sick my entire pregnancy. Every day for 9 months I threw up, and had to go to the hospital many times for dehydration.
Even though I was sick, I commuted to school everyday, over an hour drive one way, and I held down a part time job. It was hell, but I made it through and had my baby girl in Jan 2014. She was completely healthy and just perfect.
My ex decided to sttart playing nice about 2 weeks before I had her, and I decided if he wanted to be apart of the babys life I wouldn't stop him. He was there when she was born, and stayed at the hospital that first night. We set up a verbal visitation schedule of a few hours every other Saturday, and he left the next morning.
Then the problems started. He didn't stick around long enough to sign an acknowledgement of paternity, and because he didn't sign it, he isn't officially on her birth certificate. He's been coming to see her like we planned, but has been asking for overnight visits since the first time. He told me he was bipolar, something I didn't know before, and was on meds for it and was seeing a counselor. He also told me he would sign the paper and turn it in because without that I can't get her brith certificate.
Those were all lies. Lies lies lies! He hasn't been to a psychiatrist, hasn't been diagnosed bipolar, and has not been seeing a counselor. He also refuses to sign the paper, but still expects to be able to see his daughter and have her overnight whenever he wants. He also has only given me 100 dollars since she's been born. That's not anywhere near what he would have to pay in child support. I found out all of the lies today, and he threatened to take the baby and dissappear when I confronted him.
So I told him to get a lawyer and we'd settle it in court. He said he'd get her and I'd never see my baby again. I'm terrified, angry, and frustrated. I've decided that he won't have any visitation until there are papers in place, because I'm terrified he'll follow through on his threats.
I'm going to have to deal with this boy for the next many years, and my question is, how? How do I deal with someone who has hurt me time and time again, walked all over me, and threatened to take my baby away from me? I know I need to try for the sake of my daughter, but its so hard, especially when I'm the only one trying to be civil. Can anyone offer any advice or opinions? It would be greatly appreciated.