Baked goods Revenge : )

[PassionFlower09]

So a while ago, this trollop my husband was trying to " help"  made some baked goods for him. And my husband was so
proud and rubbed it my face.

Now, my co-worker , has offered to bake some yummy baked goods for me.  This co-worker is just a co-worker. We consort
each other on our work related duties, and occasionally share a big laugh or two.This co-worker cooks all the time and brings things to work. His, making this tasty treat for me is not indicative of any romantic feelings.

FYI: It is true that what comes around goes around.  Thus far, I have had ALL opportunity to behave like my husband.
I can proudly say that the vast majority of the time -I was the bigger person( Like when I saw the poor pathetic- fashion sensed, deprived girl out in public one day- I did not accost her. I simply ignored the evil-guttersnipe. I did it  very well too I might add)

But really, I just wanted to know what you guys think. I will probably just share it with my colleagues.


Now I want to know what you guys think I should I do :

[PassionFlower09]

So do I Special.

[specialmom]

Passion, I'd love to have some of your baked goods.  

I think that this is painful because baking is something you love to do and take very personally.  You've probably always been proud of your skills and were disappointed when your husband didn't want them------------ so it would hurt on a deep level that he accepted them from someone else.  It is about more than just muffins and baked goods.  I get it.

I hope your husband is nice to you, forever and always.

[PassionFlower09]

It is all funny to me too at times. Reading your responses and what I write or have written at times has  made me laugh too.  I don't usually use profanity. I may have used some not so nice adjectives to describe this heifer and her mother. But, really I am very scholarly and proper in my vocabulary and my upbringing. So my words and my humor tend to be less trite than most.

But in all seriousness, I don't think I could ever bake any real treats for my husband again with the same ardor that I once had. For years he forbid me from making sweet, yummy treats.He got angry when I cooked any "UNHEALTHY" food under the pretense that  They are all so bad and he cares about our health...then not only does he eat the poisonous crap this interloper makes, but he rubs it in my face.

I will save the best of myself for those who really deserve it.

PassionFlower09

[specialmom]

"Wretched mudlark"------------  you never let me down Passion!  I love it-----  funny.

[PassionFlower09]

They could take the pepto brownies to stop the effects of the  ex-lax brownies.....

[PassionFlower09]

Thank you Special. "Words" (not profanity) are great to describe or insult people.  It is sometimes my comic relief when I write about the wretched mudlark.

Brice1967, I like the ex-Lax idea thank you. Although, I think we can take it a little further. How do ex-lax brownies-chocolate chunk  sound ? Or maybe peppermint Brownies with  winter mint flavor pepto bismal : )

[brice1967]

PF, I dont know why this came to me, so I'll get it out there.  I noticed how specialmom mentioned that you are a baker and that baking him something would be nice.  I can tell you as a baked good addict that, that would be awesome with me....but then you take into account that I am diabetic....so not so much.

Just dont do the Ex-Lax chocolate chip cookies..... Funny yes....but probably not a real good thing.

[specialmom]

Oh, I missed this.  passion, I voted after reading your decision and yeah, I think you made the right one.  While I in an evil bad way enjoy the way you talk about the girl in question (you have a way of describing her that makes me chuckle a bit-------- you are good with words)--------  I know it comes from pain.  I want you to get closer to your husband.  Think of ways to do this vs. ways to build a bigger wedge.  

And Rockrose------------  I am so going to go get that series.  It sounds really good. Thanks for suggesting it as I think many could find insight from that.  

Passion, you are a baker.  Make your husband some baked goods yourself this weekend!  good luck

[PassionFlower09]

Hi everyone, thanks

Don't worry I am not going to rub it in. I will be good.

It is just amazing how "now" the opportunities to be good or bad are just appearing everywhere.
I feel the same way Mam1323i, " no matter how bad things got with us, I will always be the "good one".

The universe  and karma is an amazing place/thing!!!

Thanks guys

[RockRose]

Passion, I don't know if you're a Christian or spiritual at all,  but I am in a women's Beth Moore Bible study group (11 weeks,  "Living Outside Yourself")  and each week is a different topic with Beth lecturing by video from a lecture hall format and then our group of 50 women discuss.

This last one was about Rejection.  POWERFUL, powerful presentation and I just sat there thinking about you and how you have this intense desire to make your husband feel the pain and agony you are feeling.    She kept talking about the pain of rejection and how deeply the wound goes,  sometimes never heals,  and the overriding passion to hurt the person back who has hurt you.  

There were women who sobbed all the way through the hour presentation,  literally.  A LOT of women,  actually.  

If you are interested,  you can go to a Christian Bookstore and get the DVD,  "Living Outside Yourself",  it's Lesson 3,  Rejection.

I think it would move you further along in this process,  because you seem completely stuck right here.  

[brice1967]

I would say that if youre trying to save your relationship, you shouldnt rub this in his face.  Would it be grafitying?  Hell yes it would!  IF youre trying to save the relationship, what good will come of rubbing it in his face?

You have what my wife has and what mami has.  You werent the bad one in the relationship....and if it dissolves you will be able to walk away knowing that it was not your fault.  (I also do understand your wanting to rub it in too though, and I guess I kind of expect that from my wife.  I know she wouldnt do that, she is not that kind of lady)

[mami1323]

I want to share a story that my fiance told me just this Sunday.  We all know what he did to me.  So he was having a conversation with a male client of his.  This client was saying how he doesn't trust any women.  That all women have burnt him and that they all turn at some point.  He asked my fiance how long we have known eachother, my fiance told him 7 1/2 years.  His client was like "wow, that's a long time", then he proceeded to ask my fiance if he trusted me.  My fiance said yes.  He told him that he had done me dirty and he was the bad one in the relationship.  So his client said to him whether he thinks I would ever cheat on him back or cheat at all and my fiance answered I don't believe she would ever do that.  That he trusts me 100% and I'm not that kind of person.  His client told him to hold on to me, because if it's like that, he better not lose a good girl like me because there aren't a lot of us out there.  My point for this story is, no matter how bad things got with us, I will always be the "good one".  If him and I broke up, it wouldn't be because of me or because of anything I did.  I at least could walk away knowing that.  It feels good.  So I agree with Ashelen's advice.  Why make yourself look bad?  What point is that proving?

[Ashelen]

One bad turn does NOT deserve another...so I would say...accept the baked goods, share with your coworkers, and then tell your husband that a co-worker shared some tasty treats at work. no need to be rude about it...and if there's honestly nothing romantic going on then telling him shouldn't cause any bad feelings.

trust me...if you guys end up divorcing some day, you will feel good being able to say "i did everything I could to stay a good person and not play his dirty games"....