Bf shows no love

[12_4_14]

Everything was fine in the beginning, he was very loving and affectionate. Im 23 weeks now and we barely say 2 words to each other anymore. He promised me we would spend the day together, so I layed up in bed with him waiting for him to wakeup since 10am. He just now wokeup and its 8pm... he has to leave for work in an hour. He acts like hes not interested in me or the baby anymore. He has only talked to my belly once. When i try to talk to him aboit the baby he gets on his phone... he never use to be like this. It makes me feel like crap. Why is he this way?

[Londres70]

I see post after post about these situations.  The reason these young guys are acting different is because pregnancy is a scary thing for a young guy to deal with and it means giving up A LOT of time, money and freedom.  Sometimes these guys never wanted a baby and sometimes the idea of a baby was doable with them, but then when there is an ACTUAL pregnancy they get cold feet and want out of the situation.  Sometimes young women/girls think they will solidify the relationship by having a baby for the guy, but I can tell you that backfires A LOT.   Read the other posts in this forum and you will see what I am taking about.

SM asks some important questions because if there wasn't any good foundation in the first place there will be tons of problems.  If you haven't been together for a long time there will be problems.  Moreover, even if you two have been together for a while are you even thoroughly prepared for a baby?  

It is unfortunate young people don't take the time to FULLY think things through BEFORE becoming pregnant.  It's like "lets get pregnant NOW and worry about the important stuff LATER" which makes NO sense to me.

Did you plan this baby together?  Does he want this baby?

This situation may get worse with him especially after the baby is here.  

Are you working or going to school?  What exactly are you doing besides waiting for him to spend time with you?  I would get independent because there could be a possibility of him bailing out on you.

Well, at least he is working and not at home playing on his phone or video games all day.  That's a plus.

Perhaps he is just plain tired after working all day?  Maybe he is resentful that he has to work to support a child?  Does he support you financially?

Have you talked with him at all about the situation?

[specialmom]

Ugh, very hard stuff.  Was he sleeping because he works all night?  That DOES make sense.   a person has to sleep, right?

But it is more than just that it sounds like.  How was the relationship before the pregnancy?  Had you dated long?  I always think it works out best if a couple has a really strong foundation and commitment before getting pregnant.  What was the situation with the two of you??

[Jessika20]

Your not the only one my fiance left me for his phone. I really just gave up trying.

[ashley4beauties]

Omg im in the same boat the samething mine blows me off all the time im tired of it but i just treat him the same way now....i hope it gets better