Boyfriend doesnt seem interested in sex anymore...please help!

[TPOBPAH]

I have a great boyfriend, hes helpful, attentive, nurturing and loving but for the past year(of the 2 years that we have been together)he seems to have very little desire to have sex with me. In the begining we had a very healthy sex life but now we only have sex about once a month.

Hes older, im 23 and hes 32 and we have been living together for the past six months. I have spoken with him about this problem several times and he always says that hes tired or stresses and that he will try to change this.. I dont think that this is normal, we haven't been living/together for that long in my opinion for his sexual appetite to have diminished so much so. When we do have sex it only lasts a couple of minutes and is less than spectacular.I am fit and healthy and attractive and sex although not the most important to me, is a big factor when it comes to my happyness in a relationship and this is really taking a toll on how i feel about my boyfriend and our future together. Any suggestions on how i can go about this issue?

[iam1butterfly]

I'm thinking that your boyfriend may bothered or depressed about something. You did mention that he says that he's "...tired and stressed." And, that could explain a lack of sexual interest... but, only in the short term because people usually recover from fatigue. Unless, maybe... he's simply not be feeling well. Other than the sex, have you noticed other changes in the relationship? How is his overall mood? I doubt that the age difference is factoring into this. I suspect that whatever is going on with him is between the ears... and not anywhere else.

[RockRose]

trobpah,  what were his past relationships like?  Has he ever been in a long term relationship with a woman,  that you know of?

The age difference might be something to consider - he's 32,  and not married - ever been married?  

He may just not be interested in sex, in general.  Or sex with women specifically,  I don't know.  

A healthy,  heterosexual man who's 32 who has a hot babe girlfriend who is 23 should be more interested in sex than he is -

[SixStringer]

You might need to jar him out of the status quo by being a little more aggressive.   Obviously, I don't know either of you well enough to know if this would work in your situation.  Quite often, men want to be "attacked", that is, with good timing on your part, you would surprise him with an unhurried hand job or a b*l*o*w*j*o*b as he sits in a chair reading, for instance, as you sit on the floor between his legs.  Now, I realize that this is not solving your question entirely, but it is meant to jar him, outside the bedroom, causing him hopefully to think more sexually about you.