I live with my boyfriend and we both are in love with each other.
He is Spanish, warm, and we have good sex and everything and he is faithful to me.
He is handsome. He gets easily friend with both girls and boys equally. He is an energetic, kind, open, person.
I always could handle his being friendly with other girls.
Last night we went to a party of my friends. Then he and a girl started talking together. Others were dancing and drinking. One other Spanish guy after a while came to me said that, don't stare at them and don't worry, she is the sister of my girl friend and is safe. Don't get jealous.
My boyfriend always introduces me to everyone as his girlfriend, and then the girl consider his being friendly as just being friend, and take care of me. But when we were leaving the party, the girl seriously brought a paper and in front of me wrote her Facebook name for him, and gave it to him, and she didn't pay much attention to me.
When we were home, my boyfriend as always that he keeps his connection with the people he knows, in the bed searched her in the internet with his laptop.
I looked at him. He told me are you jealous (very simply he asked) (although he is ssssoooo kind to me and really different from others, and we are every night together sleeping so in love), and I said yes. He wondered: really?!! and I answered No.
I didn't like it.
How should I react?
Thanks
The thing about relationships is that we should be able to express our feelings. I think you can say "I don't know why I feel this way and am not asking you to change anything----- you've done nothing wrong but . . . I sometimes feel a little jealous when X (then tell him when)". We shouldn't be afraid of reaction about our feelings. You are not accusing him of anything or saying he did anything wrong-------- you are just letting him get to know you better by sharing how you really feel.
I've had twinges of jealousy before especially when my husband and I were dating. I never said anything but my then boyfriend/now husband picked up on it------- he would reassure me even without my saying anything. Some men do not pick up on it------- give your boyfriend the opportunity to reassure you. And as far as female friends that were only interested in friendship with him and not me---------- well, none of them now have contact with my husband. Not because I said one word about it--------- he just drifted from them as we are now a couple and any woo woo games that go on between opposite sexes (which would be the only reason a friend of the opposite sex had no interest in their friend's partner ) came to a halt. He's maintained frienships with plenty of females--------- but they befriended me too. Otherwise, they are gone. Just the way it works out once you committ I guess. As I said, I never said one word about it to my husband. It just happened naturally.
So, let me know if this is occasional or all the time------- your jealousy.