Ex Getting Married

[G8rgalMS]

I have denied for several months that my first and only love is going to walk down the isle with someone else in October.  We were together for about a year when I first began college, and while I thought he was (and still think he could be) "the one", I decided to break it off so I could focus on my graduate studies and career.  We rarely kept in touch even though I think about him everyday.  Mutual friends' conversations have kept me abreast of his love life.  Since we broke-up, my feelings for him have not wavered and I find myself comparing everyone I date to him.  Of course they never measure up.  I am panicked now that he is actually committing to someone else.  Any suggestions for coping?  

[suzi-q]

If it was meant to be, it would have been.  My question is, "does he know how you still feel?"  I think it is important for you to contact him and let him know.  If he still feels the same, he will reconsider his decision.  If he doesn't, you move on, without any "what ifs"

[zodiacqueen]

If he was the one, then why did you break up with him???  If he loved you just as much, he probably would've waited for you to get your education.  Let's see.....a woman trying to "better" herself, what man wouldn't admire and respect that AND love you more for it?

[RockRose]

G8,  I think you just need to recognize you made a mistake,  and move on.  That was a mistake to break up with a man you  felt all along was "the one".  

I think a lot of women have someone in their past that they're baffled they broke up with - in retrospect,  he was a great guy.  

I agree with SS.  Try to distract yourself by exercise or some large project.

[SeriousSam]

physical activity would be distracting for you and help your self esteem.