Gone to far?

[Meliz15]

So I've been dating my boyfriend for 10 months... We live together... I have a daughter who has no real father besides my boyfriend! She's almost 3. I found out yesterday that he looks at porn at least 1 time a day... Sometimes twice. The disturbing part is, he watches it sometimes while I'm at the gym and he's watching my 3 year old! She has no clue what's going on and is indulged in her own show while it's happening... I don't know how to handle this though... Obviously he knows he can not do it around my daughter anymore! But how do I know he's keeping his word? I never in a million years thought I'd have to deal with something like this... I'm so weirded out

[teko]

Sorry, you only been with him for 10 months, not 3. fingers not cooperating there with the brain.

[teko]

Im not sure how you can watch a three year old and watch porn at the same time unless she is asleep, but your post implies she is not sleeping? You have been with this guy for 3 months, you have a little girl, who stays with the bf and he watches porn while watching her? Uh Yeah! I think my eyebrows would be raised as well. Aside from the child, if your and his views on viewing porn are incompatible, I would move on as well.

Personally, I would have to wonder why dude is hyped on porn (mind on sex), while watching a little one, no matter what the age. I thinks its called "What are his priorities?" And in this day and age!

[Momo1409]

Ok how did u find out he was doing this? And is he watching it in the same room for sure?

I don't mean to be the one who disagrees here(only if the 3yo is not in the room that is) but my bf and I have a 3yo and a 5yo. We've watch porn during sex with them in the next room. They are usually asleep at the time. We've also watched porn separately while the kids are home. Again while they are asleep....

I don't know or care if ppl find this offensive. They children aren't watching just in the house.

Again idk what ur bf is doing.... So goodluck!

[specialmom]

Oh.  I so agree with Jim.  I think his babysitting days are beyond over and I'd seriously consider moving on.  He's not a safe person for your child. Porn by yourself, well, okay if you must. But with a toddler in the room----------- creepy.  I'd leave him.  good luck

[PromisedLand]

If he doesn't have enough common sense not to watch porn with your daughter around, do you really think he's the man for you, or father for your daughter?  Tell him the porn goes, or he goes. I'm sure child protective services would consider this serious.

Jim