I've been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years now. We got together straight after high school at 17 and 18.
Things are great now but in the first year I was far from the perfect girlfriend. I'm not sure what happened. The first 6 months were great. We saw each other every day but rarely argued, he went out with his friends, I went out with mine everything was perfect.
Once we hit the 6 months mark things seem to change suddenly. I seemed to get overly clingy and get an attitude. Whenever he was invited out with his friends, I got an attitude and have him a hard time. I never asked him not to go out, but I feel bad about the arguments I caused because of it. All of my girlfriends went off to uni so I didn't see them as much as when they were either miles away or busy with uni work/their uni friends. I got co-dependant on him, I think, and didn't like when he went out because I was bored and had nothing to do. He eventually stopped saying yes to his friends because of my reaction to it all- although he denies it and says I was within my rights and had a justified reason to get huffy about it, I know what I did was wrong. I am more laid back now and I'm back to how I was when we first got together, and although my girlfriends are still busy with their uni life and can't come out as much, I can be on my own and make my own entertainment. It still doesn't stop his friends from asking me if he can do stuff (eg go on a lads holiday) and make fun of him, calling him whipped etc. He also asks in front of his family if I'm ok with the plans he's made which makes me feel like they think I'm controlling his life.
After about 7 months together I found something out that made me lose a lot of trust in him. He was 100% faithful but spoke about me as if I was some sort of goal, as if he wasn't serious about me, saying things like "she's gagging for it and I need to get her shagged" there was more but he deleted the messages when I asked to see them when I found out, hence why i lost a lot of trust in him. I lost my virginity to him so I was hurt at the fact he talked about me like was some sort of ****. I wasn't the fact he was talking about our sex life, more how he said the things he said. This cause arguments on an almost daily basis. I couldn't move on from what he did and brought it up in almost every argument. We even argued in front of our friends and I said some pretty mean things to him infront of them. I was pretty insecure and got annoyed at any little white lies he told me.
We saw each other every day and there was a point where he wanted some space to 'be a guy' (chill, play video games, go out with his mates) I got a little upset and he told his friends this. I obviously let h&m have this space but her decided he didn't like it as much as he thought and so we went back to seeing each other every evening after work etc. He has the freedom to see his mates weekdays and weekends if he wants and we're at the stage of our relationship we were can be together but be doing different things so he can play his video games whenever he wants, really.
I'm scared about what his and our friends and his family (he close with them and tells them everything) of me and my past behaviour. I'm scared they think I'm girlfriend from hell and have branded me forever as a horrible girlfriend.
I feel like I've been a horrible girlfriend. I keep telling him he deserves better and even though I've grown from what I was like then I feel very guilty and I feel like my boyfriend needs to get even with me and just break up with me. He tells me he loves me and has never wanted to breakup but I can't seem to accept that and feel horrible for my behaviour.
He's been nothing but perfect. Loving, attentive, supportive and understanding whereas I've just been a nightmare to deal with the past year or so.
How can i move past this and get on with my relationship?