help.....

[babybee123]

jus wondering whether anyone can give me a bit of advice or are in the same situation as myselve... I have had a really rough time with a past relationship with violence.. being cheated on.. was never took much notice of when i was younger.. I lost my dad over two yrs ago who i was very close to.. I then got with a bloke we clicked got engaged.. recently got married and went on a honeymoon had a lovely time but some of the time on hoilday i got sooo paranoid that he was looking at other woman.. which we shud all b able to look but for months I have always felt when we go out clubbing.. in a pub... anywhere really that he is looking for something better all the time.. he tells me he loves me all the time and yes he has his faults like we all do but apart from that hes perfect.. I feel this is such a dream come true but how do i get over my jealous ways... sometimes i jus feel im not normal.. I alwas think im ugly.. fat and not good enough for him... x

[Judy246]

Your past is haunting you, causing you to be insecure and as a result your think your husband is cheating on you. If you continue this behavior, it's going to destroy your marriage and you will continue to behave in a destructive, dysfunctional way. In other words..."stop it!".

I agree with vmvnpv, you really should speak with a counselor, priest or professional to sort out what has been done to you in the past and how to move forward. Night clubs and clubbing is not good for a marriage. It's just asking for trouble, so find better ways to go out with your husband and friends, where you can have a good time and not fear that he is looking at other women, or women looking at him. Good luck.

[vmvnpv]

Have you ever talked to someone professionally about this?  A lot of your past is playing into your current relationship and the only thing it will accomplish is you pushing your spouse away.  Talk to him about what you're feeling.  Men and women look but as long as they don't touch it should be fine.  He married you for a reason.  You make him happy.  He thinks you're beautiful.  He loves YOU.  No one else.  That's why I think it may be a good idea to get some therapy.  A professional will be able to help you sort through your feelings before something happens to your marriage.  Good luck!