Does he really wants to be with me ??? OPINIONS PLEASE

[moonchild12]

Hi, I've been dating a guy for the last 4-5 months, we have a long history (he's always been interested in me but i wasn't interested in dating or sometimes it wasn't a good time). I already met his mother and some family members and close friends too. ( he's never been in a real formal relationship before). We are like a couple but not really official...

Lately i don't feel loved anymore, i don't know maybe i'm being way too dramatic but i can tell he's not into me like he used to be. He has economic issues right now but i'm not with him for that, i do understand that it could be a factor of his behavior.

About a month ago out of nowhere he told me he didn't wanted to be with me anymore ( i don't know why)
Maybe he feels i'm not the one for him i don't know, but we fixed things and since then everything feels a little bit different.

He used to tell me he wanted to formalize,but since then, he hasn't mentioned again, sometimes for accident he call me his girlfriend, so maybe he wants things to go slower.

We see each other once a week and  i spend the night at his place. I do trust him but i don't feel loved anymore :(      I don't want to overreact but i do suffer from anxiety ( he knows). Every time i think about all of this i get the WORSTS anxiety attacks. Maybe i'm overthinking.

The point is that i don't like how this feels, i don't know if i can take it anymore. LIKE AM I NOT GOOD ENOUGH??? it's affecting me cause i do love him and i know we have a good thing.

I don't really want to talk this with him because he does tell me he cares for me, or sometimes he gets mad because of how i think about him.

I feel like i do deserve better :(    I am loyal. i don't care about other boys, but i feel Unrequited and its awful. It breaks my heart every single day.  WHAT SHOULD I DO. BE HONEST and give me your opinions please!!

i don't want to be hanging too long if we are not even going to be an official couple

I forgot to mention that occasionally he does talks about a future with me, but he does other things that make me feel insecure about his feelings. Like for example i send him a cute short message 2 hours ago, he was online 1 hour ago and he hasn't even opened it, maybe he's busy but there u see his interest i guess.....

By the way i'm 21 he's 25.

[AnnieBrooke]

If the relationship the way it is breaks your heart every single day, it is not a relationship you need.

[specialmom]

Welcome.  Sorry you are in this situation and hurting from it.  That stinks.  Truth, and this is hard.  I think that you built this up into more than it was in the first place.  You were like friends with benefits.  He never made you his girlfriend whether you met his family or hung out a lot.  He didn't date you, court you , etc.  You had a comfortable get together type of relationship.  Which occasionally might turn into something more but it doesn't sound like it this time.  

and you want a guy who adores you and wants to date you.  We first date where someone is excited to see you, be with you, etc.  Then it evolves into a deeper and exclusive relationship.  But he doesn't sound like he EVER was trying to really date you or build things.  You were there, he was there and it was convenient and fun while it lasted.  

find someone who adores you.  Again, very sorry because I know this is painful.  I was in this situation many many years ago.  Met my now husband not long after.  Let us know how it goes, okay?  hugs