Hi, well. I'm a mom and I guess it is hard to stop being a mom sometimes. While she shouldn't have yelled at you, she may indeed be concerned with your eating. I don't know---- moms worry about all kinds of things. But her yelling and such is not great. And your holding the phone so your boyfriend could here and comment that she is "mean" is a bit on the adolescent side as well.
Ya know, your mom buys your bread hon. It also helps to realize what we are getting from the people that drive us nuts---- you are getting room and board. Appreciate that because some parents don't do that.
Anyway, sounds like you worked out the issue of the day. Good luck---- time and financial independence will change a lot of things for you. Peace
We had a huge fight again last night, but it ended on good terms thank god. she said she's going to stop telling me what to eat. i told her that im 21 and i can make my own food choices. i know that bread and pasta aren't the best choices, but i told her if she keeps complaining than she should buy whole grain instead of white, i will still eat it. i called her out on pretty much everything and she started crying and said she loves me and wants whats best for me. i understand where she is coming from, but she has issues on letting me be an independent person, she told me herself that she misses us when we were little kids (me and my sister). I told her she picks on me only because my sister is difficult to deal with, and my father laughs in her face. Im the only person who tries to understand her and i just feel like she doesn't appreciate it, and takes advantage of letting her stress out all on me.
i really do wish i could move out, but im still in my 3rd year of university, and moving out wouldn't be possible with school to pay for. but i plan on leaving as soon as i can.
You're old enough to stand on your own 2 feet and mother dearest needs to respect this.You don't need to be dancing to her tune anymore.All the best.
From reading all your posts, you and your mother have been arguing over just about everything. Eating KD macaroni at 12:30 in the morning is NOT the "real" issue. Being that you are 21, I think you should consider moving out. You both are clashing because you should be independent and I think your mother may be overwhelmed that you are still living at home and not independent.
BTW: I don't think a mother should be controlling eating choices at 21 or any other choices at that age. You should be living on your own making your own choices.
it sounds like your mom is depressed and feeling overwhelmed at taking care of you. she wants whats best for you but doesnt know how to express it. she loves you or she would just ignore you! she is right about eating the pasta and bread.. try to eat something different and just tell her she is right and smile. See what she does. You may not be fat but she is concerned for your eating choices. Ask her if she wants to workout with you. Wii workouts are really fun btw. next time she complains just tell her.. "yeah, youre right sigh. what do you suggest?" I think your and her stress will go away. good luck