I never want my husband to do a sexual act he is not comfortable with because that would just make me feel like a horrible person. Before marrying him, I didn't believe a sex act should be measured to a good guys character. He is a good guy but our sex life is dull. He doesn't give oral (I find I orgasm through oral sex instead of penetration) and I find myself reminiscing about the one guy (fwb) who gave mind blowing head almost everyday. He doesn't last long in bed and he says its because he is tired from work. He has a stressful job and doesn't get home until late so I can't fault him on that. He doesn't do foreplay either and once he cums, sex is basically at an end. I try to tell him that I want to orgasm too but it seem he kinda shrugs it off. Like, he knows its difficult for women to orgasm so he feels he doesn't need to attempt to try and I have a high sexual drive so now I just sit around reminiscing about my past sex conquest and kinda get depressed because i feel i don't matter in our sex life. I feel like a horrible person for thinking so much on my past sex partners. I don't want to leave him because of this, cheating is out of the question though I am scared I would be weak to a spontaneous opprtunity from a person in my past, not likely but I'm scared of that decimal (I had multiple lover/friends with benefits. I am the type to travel and kinda feel thrills of life). What do I do, I try to talk to him...try to get him to help and find alternatives to pleasing me sexual without oral but he just says he just need to build his stamina up once his work schedule gets better. I'm lost and don't know what to do. I feel it's my fault because I never had a committed relationship in my 27 years in life before I met him, we married in a haste and now I feel im being punished for it.