Im into a guy who is in a relationship already!

[gomemi]

Hello,

Ok, I know that I shouldnt be going after a guy who is in a relation ship already, but this is kinda complicated and let me tell you whats going on.

I've met him at a friends party and found him kinda odd... but super fun. We then bumped into eachother at the club and he was giving me a lot of flirty eyes, which led me to be very interested. That night I kept myself at site and just had fun together with our friends. We then go to McDonalds and we're all laughing and eating, until he shouts about how he is in a relationship which got me a bit down. A little later there was another guy in the restau who is into me, so he was saying by to me and i was checking him out at the same time and one of my friends said "I notice youre into him? You havent taken your eyes off him" So I got a little embarrassed, denied and guiggled. So the guy Im in to, his name is Nicko. He just went like what? lol... and my friend was like.. oh I was just saying how (ME) was checking the guy over there!. Nicko shouted to the guy, "FAG" so I kinda wondered why he would do that, since he has a bf already.

Anyways. i got interested to Nicko because hes my type of guy. Super nice, handsome, and very seductive. So i added him on facebook, and he talked online for a bit. We were just going over what we do in town, etc... then he was talking about movies and how he wanted to go see this one. I was like.. omg YES! I would totally go see it with you. And I also confirmed he had a bf. So that was kinda of a bummer again. We said we would keep eachother in tuch... but didnt.. he actually did not text me back to go see the movie.

So anyways... Canada day came along and I forgot about him for a while. He looked as handsome as i last saw him. Hes italian and you can tell italians are gorgeous! anwyays, We said hi and I acted like a friend. I layed on my friends bed and we were all listening to music, so he sat next to me and he grabbed my foot and layed there next to him. So i was feeling quite happy about that. and we were kinda massaging eachother in a friendly way. BTW me and all my friends, we massage eachother... we're tuchy. So w-e. We went to the parliament hill, we continued to give eachother glances and looks, and smiles. He would run up to me and put his arms around me, and so I would think wow. Later at night after we all seperated, we met at the club. He was with his friends and I was with mine. So we just said hello and move on... pretty much. But the sexual tension was still there. He looked brilliant. So we danced and he would push himself away and say I was bad, that he couldnt do what he was doing.. etc.. and then would go on the side of the club by himself and text... lol. So i felt bad you know... we were all having a good time, i wanted him to dance with me...but knew it wasnt right... but so bad. so I walked up to him and said... ok listen... im sorry, I shouldnt be doing what Im doing. He replied by saying, why would you be sorry, I liked it... lol.. so i was like.. you have a boyfriend.. and I dont want to mess things... and he said something along these lines, "maybe you'd be a bf" So i was like what? lol.. and we kinda hugged... w-e.. He tried to push me away earlier that night by kissing his friend, and I went blank for a bit... and I read his lips say "****"... So all pretty cute right... but messing up my brain!!!

By the time we were getting out of the club we kept eachother in site.. we didnt want to leave eachother.. it was so sad. So I went over to his house cuz I didnt have anywhere to sleep... there were no busses to my house at that time anymore.. .so I said.. let me sleep on your couch or floor.. and he said no sleep on the bed with me.. so i laughed... and when he shut the lights off he rolled on top of me and we kissed. It was so so good. lol! Best kiss ever in a long long time. And we stopped ourselves cuz it was going to far. We cuddled and slept.

In the morning, he woke up and told me I could sleep until I had to wake up, and he went off to Toronto with his bf.
We had made plans to see a movie last night, but he didnt text me back... So im wether thinking he needs to think.. but now I dont know what I should be doing... Ive never done this before...

[gomemi]

Yeah, thanks everyone. Ive seen what he does and he is a player.. he doesnt know how pissed i am, and how i wanna torture his mind now with my sensuality... People like that def don't deserv any nice treatment... anyways. Im pretty over him now... Hes cute and all... but im looking for someone else.. either way he's 2 years younger than me... I rather someone with some more experience i think... thanks tho guys!

[teko]

Its really pretty simple, or should be anyway. He is supposedly with someone else and leading you on right? So now you know how he will act to someone else other than you even if he does break off his current relationship. You will be walking in current bf shoes sooner or later. I say walk.

[specialmom]

Yes, I agree.  Why set yourself up for a situation like this?  He's cheating on someone now and what does that say if you finally win him over as your boyfriend?  He's the kind of guy who cheats.  

I think that when we start out in this type of way with someone . . . we can't be crying when they hurt us.  We knew from the start what we were getting into.  So do it if you like, but remember .. . you kind of are asking for heartache and drama with this.

good luck.  (I'd try to find someone "unattached'.  A much better way to go.)

[perch101]

The thing is .... he has cheated on his current boyfriend by fooling around in bed with you....... and even if he does end up breaking up with him and you bid become his new boyfriend.... you will know he has it in him to cheat as you've seen it first hand... (as the other posters also pointed out)

If your post said more along the lines of "I met this guy, there is attraction there both ways and he said to me he thinks he may have to break up with his b/f so we can go out and see if this chemistry/spark is there as we suspect it is" - that's more above board, and shows he has morals that would carry over to any relationship you and he could have.

From what you've said of this guy the term 'player' comes to mind.... you would always have trouble trusting him if you got together.....

[ThatGirl93]

You can do better than this jerk!!
No offence but he probably just wants a "bit on the side". I bet he had no intention of breaking up with his bf for you (if he was gonna do it he would've done it by now) He's got you both right where he wants you, thinking he can keep you happy with a false hope that he'll break up with his bf.. You need to end it now! Don't make a big deal of it, don't give him the satisfaction of a phone call or even a text explaining why u can't see him anymore, just ignore his messages and pretend like nothing ever happened. That way he'll think you never really cared and he'll be proper pissed that his plan didn't work!!
The player becomes the playee.. Haha :P
Plus cheshchesh819's right.. Even if u did get together.. He'd probably just do to you what he did to that guy. He's a tool!!

[cheshchesh819]

you need to leave this guy alone,he is with someone,its like he is keeping you there just incase things dont work out with him and his bf,which it wont because of the way he is acting with you,big time player it the word that comes to mind,he will never be faithful,and you will never trust him so move on.