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I can't get over guys.
I just can't seem to get over ex boyfriend. Whenever they move on, even if I have a new boyfriend, I get really annoyed and a bit a jealous. And if they try to talk to me I just give in and talk to them, I just can't seem to pull myself away. Even a guy that used me for sex and threatened to put pictures of me online, I'm still nice to when he talks to me. What can I do to get rid of this feeling and my naive behavior?!
COMMUNITY LEADER
I just say again that it sounds like you are not ready to date yet emotionally. Focus on other things that will benefit you rather than cause you stress and then when you are emotionally mature enough, then you can date again. good luck
I have no idea :( I dump them because they've been nasty but when they get someone else I'm bothered about it! Thanks a lot anyway, yes I do think I have self esteem issues. I always have done for some reason, and everybody tells me, even my mother, that I have self confidence issues. And specialmom, I thought I did put this in the teen forum, obviously it didn't work out hahah. I just wish I wasn't such a pushover and let guys walk all over me and welcome them back with open arms :/
Hi there! Its seems like you are having a bit of a self-esteem problem. Are you hung up the guys because you think they should be hung up on you? Or do you give in to the other guys because you want them to like you?
At 16 I had a similar issue, its not where guys are concerned, it was friends/family. No matter what someone did to me, no matter how horrible and deceitful someone is, I still accepted them with open arms. I still do it even now at 20. Believe me when I say, this will only lead to bigger self esteem issues. When you wake up and look at yourself and realize that not only have you been used once, but you have allowed yourself to be used twice and beyond, you will feel bad about you. Don't cause yourself any greater damage. As for your inability to get over exes, understand that they are EXES for a reason. Something must have gone wrong and it will go wrong again.
Maybe you can talk to your Guidance Counselor about the self esteem issue and Specialmom is right about the teen forum, you'd like it. The teens are pretty friendly and they are going through similar issues such as yourself.
Take care
Anna
At 16 I had a similar issue, its not where guys are concerned, it was friends/family. No matter what someone did to me, no matter how horrible and deceitful someone is, I still accepted them with open arms. I still do it even now at 20. Believe me when I say, this will only lead to bigger self esteem issues. When you wake up and look at yourself and realize that not only have you been used once, but you have allowed yourself to be used twice and beyond, you will feel bad about you. Don't cause yourself any greater damage. As for your inability to get over exes, understand that they are EXES for a reason. Something must have gone wrong and it will go wrong again.
Maybe you can talk to your Guidance Counselor about the self esteem issue and Specialmom is right about the teen forum, you'd like it. The teens are pretty friendly and they are going through similar issues such as yourself.
Take care
Anna
Hi
I dont have much to tell you but put yourself first. Don't let people take advantage of you. Learn to say no and try to move on.
I dont have much to tell you but put yourself first. Don't let people take advantage of you. Learn to say no and try to move on.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Hi, first I want to tell you that med help does have a teen forum that I think you would like and would find helpful. You go to the above tool bar and hit forums. Then pull up the page, on the left hand side there are member communities and you'd look up teen and find forums that might interest you.
All I can say is that you mention guys using you for sex and threatening you with pictures. Do your very best to hold yourself in high esteen and don't have sex so casually and NEVER give someone ---- even a supposed boyfriend---- a picture of yourself that you don't want the world to see.
I have the luxery of looking back as I'm a lot older than you and I just encourage you to change your priorities. You need to focus on school work and setting yourself up for college/trade school so that you can be a functioning adult that can sustain yourself.
I especially say that when someone has a difficult time with the emotions that are invovled with dating and being sexually active. I'd say you are not ready for this yet maturity wise. That is not a knock on you but your emotions aren't healthy.
No, you should be humiliated by someone that used you and threatened you so that you aren't pining away for them.
You should talk to your parents and perhaps they can get you invovled in some therapy to sort out self esteem issues and the desire to be with someone . . . anyone. This can develop into a lifetime pattern and a lifetime of misery. good luck
All I can say is that you mention guys using you for sex and threatening you with pictures. Do your very best to hold yourself in high esteen and don't have sex so casually and NEVER give someone ---- even a supposed boyfriend---- a picture of yourself that you don't want the world to see.
I have the luxery of looking back as I'm a lot older than you and I just encourage you to change your priorities. You need to focus on school work and setting yourself up for college/trade school so that you can be a functioning adult that can sustain yourself.
I especially say that when someone has a difficult time with the emotions that are invovled with dating and being sexually active. I'd say you are not ready for this yet maturity wise. That is not a knock on you but your emotions aren't healthy.
No, you should be humiliated by someone that used you and threatened you so that you aren't pining away for them.
You should talk to your parents and perhaps they can get you invovled in some therapy to sort out self esteem issues and the desire to be with someone . . . anyone. This can develop into a lifetime pattern and a lifetime of misery. good luck
You have to let go and remember that the past is history and the future's a mystery.If you really are having difficulty letting go then get some assistance on how to move on in the form of therapy or from a good friend or family member.All the best.
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