I'M DONE!!!!!!!!

[jojo24]

Okay, so you all know I posted that thing about my friend and her loser husband the other day.  Well, while she was at work today and I was out shopping, he came over to my house to hang out with my hubby and brought lasagna that the other woman made for him.  When she got home from work, she asked where the lasagna came from and he told her that HE MADE IT!!!!!!!!  I wanted to call him out on it, and I even wanted to tell her that the other woman made it, but they have been "making up" so I just kept my mouth shut.  I feel like I'm in high school again and this is high school drama.  I haven't been in high school in 9 years.  He's so stupid and she's stupid for believing his lies.  They are moving back in together probably and moving to another apartment.  I'm not going to deal with this anymore.  If she's happy being treated that way and lied to all the time, then there's nothing I can do.  I hate liars and if my husband ever lied to me, there would be hell to pay.  This is BS and I can't wait to move and get away from all of this nonsense.  I'm not saying anything else to her about it.  I hope they work things out and he starts being a man.  I'm done talking to her about it.  Thanks for listening and all your support.
Jojo

[teko]

Yeh! Other people put you in the middle of all their drama and then tell you to not tell. I hate that! Then they just want you to listen, not give advice or anything like that! It is a bad place to be.  I find myself in a similar situation as we speak and it is tearing me apart.  The only thing I can do and you too is back off and hope all works out with the least amount of collateral damage! My heart goes out to ya!

[Judy246]

How offensive that this guy would dare not only accept the lasagna, while in the process of reconciliation with his wife, but lie to lie right to her face. He is dishonest, deceitful, manipulative, adulterer, opportunitist, and I can go on and on! I feel sorry for her, because, he's not going to change and she's a fool to put up with his cr**p.

He is also making you both accomplices of his lies, so if she were to find out that while she was with you and your husband, you knew about the affair and lasagna and his lie and said nothing, you both would be just as dishonest and deceitful for covering for him and not saying anything. He has put you both in a very bad position and it shows that he is insensitive to both of you also!

Before this is all over sith, pull him aside and tell him that you and your husband will never again,be put in a situation of dishonesty or deceipt to lie to anyone for him and that as a result you will put distance between the relationship.

As I said in my earlier post, all you can do is be their for her, but when you are put in situations where you will be not only dragged into the drama, but now cover up lies, then it's time to step back and out.

[jo929]

I think that you have made the right decision.  jo

[Jennifer1987]

Its easier to just say nothing, I know cause I was in a bad relationship where my fella was cheating and when any of my friends said to leaving him, hes no good, I NEVER listened! in the end they just stopped until I realised myself how bad it was, and all the lies I fell for! Make me feel like a right fool! We ended it and its only now I see how stupid I was in the relationship! No matter how many times I was told by friends and Family I wouldn't listen! But now I know what they were saying!

Eventually she will see, and all you need to do is be there when she does!!

[jojo24]

We all wake up at some point, right?  I've been in a situation like that before too and it took me five years to open my eyes and see that I deserved better- thank God no kids came out of it.  But she has been treated bad her entire life!  I wonder if she feels comfortable being treated like that, like she feels like that's what love is supposed to be.  I just try and imply that what me and my husband have is true love and what she has is NOT love.  She sees us together and wishes he treats her the way my husband treats me, but he's selfish and that won't happen.  I feel like she will only find that in someone else that truly loves her for who she is and not the size of her body or the fact that she doesn't have a college degree (which he gets on her for despite not having one of his own and being 6 years her senior).  I tell her how special she is and my husband tells her that too and I thought hearing it from another man who knows her might open her eyes, but she wants to hear it from her husband and he's never going to be satisfied with her.  It's sad, but hopefully she will see the truth.  Maybe staying with us for awhile will give her the strength to get to know herself again, especially since I told her that this is her last chance.  I really wish he didn't ruin our fun all the time.  I'll keep you posted.
Jojo

[megochick101]

I feel bad for your friend but you did the right thing. There is really nothing else you can do, you opened up your house to her and have given all the advice you can. It's up to her if she wants to be blind or if she wants to do something to change the situation.

My only question is, how can you let this a**hole in your house? Even if he's friends with the hubby(why i dunno lol) I wouldn't have been able to see him knowing all the **** he's putting your friend through. I think you should stay away from both of them as they are bringing unneeded high school drama around both you and your husband.

[dparadiso09]

i feel like going to this mand house, punching him in the face and telling him to eff off, if my boyfriend ever treated me like that he'd be out the door right then and there!!!!