Impressions

[HamedKhatiz]

Good morning or evening or day or night or afternoon guys and whassup. You have probably gotten this topic so many times, but I just want to ask about impressing a beautiful young woman. How important is looks versus personality?

I have got a rad personality and confidence level and I have been told that before by many girls and even guys but this is where the doubt comes in. As you might be able to see in my profile picture, I am not hot. I am not the best looking guy at all, but in my eyes, that shouldn't matter.

I thought personality and confidence and swagger is everything, but is it really or do the looks play a massive part too? Bigger than I first thought. I have been single my entire life and it's just that lack of someone who acts natural with me around is getting to me.

I might be a professional, but I am still a kid and people talk to me at the school like I am a teacher. I love the guys but they don't seem to realise that I shall not bite. I am professional AND relaxed too. That kind of resonates to the opposite sex too. I do not work at the school, I am still a kid.

Anyway, I may have gone off a bit there, but:

Question: Looks versus personality.

I am sixteen.

[deadmemory]

Yes, unfortunately most (not) all girls in that age group would choose looks.. but NOT ALL. I think personality is very important.. my bf won me over with his amazing personality, his good humor and his heart. He IS good looking too (which is a plus)
But you're 16. Have fun.. hang out with friends, enjoy being a teen! Finish school.. establish who you are.. you're still learning about who you are! Embrace these times! They are supposed to be fun... :)
Girls can be very shallow.. don't ever allow another person to hurt you! From your posts, you sound like a very intelligent young man.. anyways, just my thoughts.

Have a good weekend!

[RainLover71]

It really should be personality but the reality is both men and women want both and there has to be an attraction aswell.It's highly unlikely that you are going to go out with a person you are not attracted to looks wise.I think the world is made up of mostly avarage looking people anyway so this is when personality would come into play.It also depends on what type of look one goes for.This should have been a poll Hamed to see what percentage of people said what.

[RockRose]

I'm just going to step right into this one - looks don't matter for guys.  A really unattractive guy (which you aren't) can be the most popular guy in school and the most sought after by girls,  but a girl has to be pretty to be popular.  Guys can look like Marty Feldman (google him if you don't know who I'm talking about) and be wildly popular.  Girls who look like that end up eating their lunches in the bathroom because they won't have any social standing at all.  Sad but true.

You're average looking,  your looks don't get in the way of being liked by your peers.

I think you're mistaking the way you behave around your peers with your looks - and to me,  a 16 year old guy who twice in one post describes himself as "a professional" is off-putting.  You don't see yourself as equal to your peers,  IMHO,  and so they don't feel comfortable around you.

I guess.

[shell921]

Josie is right - at your age it's mostly about looks. Single "all your life" and you are only 16? you life has not even really even begun! When I was your age I liked guys who were smart, sensitive, funny and who had respect for women. Confidence was number 5. Looks for me were not that important if the guy had decent looks and the other traits I mentioned, that was fine. Be a gentleman and be sincere and many girls your age will like you.

[josie_may]

I hate to say but at your age it is mostly going to be looks. however when I was your age I dated guys that were not great looking because of their personality. So if you are lucky you will find a girl like I was in highschool.