Is My Girlfiend Pregneant or Is It Natural?

[liamwalker2004]

hi

im not sure this is the right section but please i need relationship help. and very fast sadly.

iv had sex with my girlfriend, and i think she pregneant and this is our first time. we used a condom and made sure we were protected but her period was meant to be the other day and its really late now for it.

im not ready for a baby and please don't judge me im only 15.
please i dont know if its natural for her period to be late after sex or if she is pregneant. we dont want a test at this moment in time.

and i dont want to leave her as she is the one special person for me.

thanks if u read this and please help me

-liam-

[barn babe]

Well, it's a relief to know you are in the U.K. I don't know anything about the abortion laws over there, but I would imagine you folks have better laws on the books than us Amerikans. Also, you have some social safety nets so that her baby can be taken care of, like nationalized health insurance. We here in Amerika consider national health insurance a "communist plot," so we don't provide socialized medicine.  For that, you should be thankful you're not in the U.S., Liam.

Consider yourself lucky. Being a teenage parent in Amerika is the worst possible situation you could find yourself in.

[mami1323]

no problem Liam.  Just keep faith that everything will be ok no matter what happens.  Keep us posted.

[taysmommy]

i agree she is probably not pregnant, and if she is it is her choice if she keeps the baby or not, i urge you NOT to pressure her to abort this baby if she chooses not to, thats the last thing she needs (even tho im pretty sure shes not) being a scared pregnant teen would be the boy who got her pregnant puting pressure on her to get rid of it, like i said if you both agreed to it, it would be your choice and i wont judge you because of it, i just wanted you to know how horrible it would be for her to be pressured into a a decision that is against her wishes or beliefs because someone on a help web site recommened it

i dont think its a good idea for us to be judgemental, but in the same breath i couldnt bite my tongue on this one, sorry ,it is soooo wrong to say that teens should get abortions if they become pregnant, shame on you

[pertykitty]

wow this forum has become quite liberal. anyway i dont think its in the best interest to ever suggest abortion to a teenager on a website. you dont know anything about her, him, their family, what country they are from, if they would go to a place that is sterile, ect. i think encouraging them to find an adult to talk to is a wiser thing. but i dont suggest cheating on spouses either.

[mami1323]

Liam, it is her decision whether or not to keep this baby.  I think this discussion is a little premature.  You should wait to have such a conversation after you've confirmed that she is indeed pregnant.  Unfortunately, if she does decide to keep the baby, you have no choice but to be responsible for this child.  You felt that you were responsible enough to have sex than this is what comes from that decision.  It is a very tough situation to be in and I see how you are feeling unbelievably overwhelmed.  Sometimes it is unfair to the men because they don't have any choices in these types of situations but these are the consequences to having sex.  I agree that if she isn't pregnant and you both continue to be sexually active, she needs to get on some sort of birth control.  It is better to be safe than sorry and it is some extra precaution so that this kind of situation won't happen again.  

[taysmommy]

ok we both agree they need options, i didnt choose to read the rest of your post because its probably restating what you said in all the other posts, if you are so pro-choice you shouldnt get so defensive when one disagrees with yours, i should have said shame on you, so i apologize, im done with this now