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Is she lying.
I was friends with this girl for a year before we went out. She was quite ill during the relationship, has been tested for cancer a few times till they eventually found out what was wrong with her. and it put pressure on our relationship and I felt like I couldn't handle it so I split up with her. We were sort of togehter after we broke up but then I started seeing someone else a few weeks later. I really like this new girl a lot. Anyway a few weeks later, she comes to me and tells me she's pregnant. She showed me the pregnancy test which she said she had taken before she left her house to come and see me and she said she'd be happy to take a pregnancy test in front of me, but by this time the stores were closed so we would have had to wait till tomorrow. I said I wouldn't believe anything till she had had a blood test and I wanted to be there when she had it done. But the next day she went to the doctors clinic to book it in and they said she could have it done straight away and I wasn't around.
Then she came over to my house and said she had the blood test, and also was feeling confused because she came on her period. but it was really light.
Then that evening the doctor phoned her and said that there were really small traces of the pregnancy hormone in her body and thought she may have suffered a chemical pregnancy (an early miscarriage that u don't realise is happening basically) but she would need an ultrasound to confirm it. She immeditely sent me a text explaining what the doctor had said, and asked me if I wanted to go to the doctor with her to have an ultrasound to find out what was going on. I said no because I didn't believe her. Then she had a go at me when she saw me, saying this was both our mess regardless, and she wanted my support through it because she wanted me to take responsibility too. The next day she mailed me doctors letters proving what happened and also gave me the number of a friend who was there when she took one of the pregnancy tests, to prove it had turned positive within minutes. I dont know what to do. She has been quite ill this year, and i have been to the hospital with her a few times when we were sitll going out when she needed to go, so it does seem like a coincidence. can anyone offer advice,?
Then she came over to my house and said she had the blood test, and also was feeling confused because she came on her period. but it was really light.
Then that evening the doctor phoned her and said that there were really small traces of the pregnancy hormone in her body and thought she may have suffered a chemical pregnancy (an early miscarriage that u don't realise is happening basically) but she would need an ultrasound to confirm it. She immeditely sent me a text explaining what the doctor had said, and asked me if I wanted to go to the doctor with her to have an ultrasound to find out what was going on. I said no because I didn't believe her. Then she had a go at me when she saw me, saying this was both our mess regardless, and she wanted my support through it because she wanted me to take responsibility too. The next day she mailed me doctors letters proving what happened and also gave me the number of a friend who was there when she took one of the pregnancy tests, to prove it had turned positive within minutes. I dont know what to do. She has been quite ill this year, and i have been to the hospital with her a few times when we were sitll going out when she needed to go, so it does seem like a coincidence. can anyone offer advice,?
oh also I swear that the condom never broke! and she never told me she came off birth control but she says she had to for her other health problems.
If she was willing to prove everything and anything to you then there is no reason to doubt her. I'm not sure what you're looking for with your question but if you want us to relieve you of some guilt you're feeling, that's not going to happen here. She has feelings for you and wanted you to help her through this but if you didn't feel the need to support her then that was your decision. It would've made you a better man but in the end she might have been too much of a thorn in your side and you obviously didn't want that since you started a new relationship. Quite selfish I would say but hey, you can't make someone feel something and do something they don't want to do. But I wouldn't doubt her story, it sounds legitimate.
Let's see, you dated someone who was ill with cancer, then dumped her because you couldn't handle it, but did have sex with her with a condom. Met someone new and now the first girl might be pregnant and you doubt it due to a condom.
ANOTHER MESS. I'm sorry, but I'm actually tired of these situations. First, she has the right to go to the doctor with or without you. The only way you can prove if you are the father is once the infant is born, to have a DNA test.
UNPROTECTED sex if she is pregnant, unless the condom broke....hummmm?
Please let this serve as a less that you don't just have casual sex for fun, because THAT IS HOW BABY'S ARE MADE! Also, STD'S and that's it....I give up!
ANOTHER MESS. I'm sorry, but I'm actually tired of these situations. First, she has the right to go to the doctor with or without you. The only way you can prove if you are the father is once the infant is born, to have a DNA test.
UNPROTECTED sex if she is pregnant, unless the condom broke....hummmm?
Please let this serve as a less that you don't just have casual sex for fun, because THAT IS HOW BABY'S ARE MADE! Also, STD'S and that's it....I give up!
By the way, if she has cancer and is taking chemo and is pregnant, the chances of a miscarriage are great or birth defects...food for thought.
Yeah I feel terrible. She didn't have cancer but repeatedly had a few tests for them, turns out she has something which isn't life threatening but it's been a confusing jorney all the same, her symptoms didn't really add up, but i suppose it has been proven now. I just dont want to believe her and dont know what to do.
oh yah and also, she said she lost the baby due to a chemical pregnancy, i dont know what to beleieve
Google chemical pregnancy. It is real and does exist. If she has a note from a doctor then you are just being a jerk if you don't believe her. She shouldn't even have to go this far to prove anything to you.
There another guy in this forum who wrote very similar situation recently. Read it and read the advise given to him. He took a lot of flac, but handled it with grace. How old are you and how old is she?
There isn't much you can do, but see what she decides (it is her body) and take it from there. I wouldn't get involved with anyone at this point, until this blows over. It's unfair to the new g/f to enter into a mess. Right now, wait and DNA result if she has a full term pregnancy.
There isn't much you can do, but see what she decides (it is her body) and take it from there. I wouldn't get involved with anyone at this point, until this blows over. It's unfair to the new g/f to enter into a mess. Right now, wait and DNA result if she has a full term pregnancy.
do u think a doctors note could be forged?? and also is it true pregnancy tests go positive after 10 minutes? She did show me the pregnancy test with 2 lines but i dunno if they can be tampered with.
It's illegal to forge a doctor's signature. She can go to jail. The only way to tamper with a pregnancy test if to have someone else's urine. No, it's to early to tell if you are pregnant 10 min after sex. Never heard of that.
Hi Judy, where is the link to the other guy on the forum?? At first I spoke to her about what we would do when she initially did the HPT but was reluctant to speak about it further till the blood test which I wanted to be present for and she knew this.
The next day after she told me she took the HPT, that evening was when she said she lost the baby due to a chemical pregnancy and that's when I said I didnt believe her, because everything happened way too fast. I didnt wanna go waste my time with her to the ultrasound appointment which she had booked to confrim thats what happened, Ive seen doctors letters which say thats what happened but I dunno if they can be forged.
The next day after she told me she took the HPT, that evening was when she said she lost the baby due to a chemical pregnancy and that's when I said I didnt believe her, because everything happened way too fast. I didnt wanna go waste my time with her to the ultrasound appointment which she had booked to confrim thats what happened, Ive seen doctors letters which say thats what happened but I dunno if they can be forged.
No i mean can pregnancy tests go positive after ten minutes of being peed on not 10 mins after sex
Well after a period of time the other line could be considered an evaporation line. I don't think she would go to all of the trouble to forge a doctor's note. Look there is no baby anymore, so there doesn't need to be full scrutiny to whether she's lying or not lying. You already chose not to support her so then what more advice do you need? Just believe her and send her some flowers with a card that says, sorry that I wasn't there for you and I only wish you the best. Leave it like that. So this way you can clear your conscience and so she has some faith left in men. Doesn't need to be any more between you and her but why leave it on such bad terms.
A pregnancy test will not show a positive reading only after 10 minutes. The answer is no.
BTW...here's the link the other guy Judy was referring to...
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Relationships/Claiming-she-is-pregnant--is-she-lying-what-do-I-do/show/977695
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Relationships/Claiming-she-is-pregnant--is-she-lying-what-do-I-do/show/977695
I guess i'm just trying to convince myself she's lying because its easier on me, i feel horrible. When we were together she used to get ill with an assortment of different symptoms so her friends didnt believe her illness. I did because her blood test results and urine samples are coming back abnormal and plus shes meant to be having an operation soon but i want to distance myself and forget about her and concentrate on my new girlfriend. I know im really horrible.
Yeah, I kinda have to agree with you on that one! No one is believing that she's sick, but she's having an operation! What does it take to get you guys, people that are supposed to be her FRIENDS, to believe she's sick? Does she need to literally cough up a lung in front of ya'll or what! LOL!!
Why do you have to treat her badly in order to concentrate on a new relationship? You don't have to be with her but you don't have to make her feel like total sh!t either. Wish her the best, tell her you believe her and are sorry for the baby. You never meant to hurt her at all and that you want nothing more than for her to move on and be happy. That doesn't make you a horrible person but by treating her poorly, that does make you a horrible person. You can show compassion yet keep your distance.
Ok ladies (all my above, beloved buddies on advise)...I'M DONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Can't handle another one of these...2-3 in a week is just too much to repeat not to say the fustration...AHHHHHH (pulling my hair).
But isn't it a coincidence- Sunday the pregnancy test was taken, - positive. Monday she had a blood test, came on her period and by 7pm the doctors phone her to tell her there are limited amounts of hCG in her blood so its unlikely shes still pregnant because of how small the amounts are. What doctors lab rings at 7pm with blood test results of that morning???
Is she lying?
Is she not lying?
What does it matter?
You've already dumped her and took up with "someone else a few weeks later."
A bit soon after the break-up, I would say.
Is she not lying?
What does it matter?
You've already dumped her and took up with "someone else a few weeks later."
A bit soon after the break-up, I would say.
"I guess i'm just trying to convince myself she's lying because its easier on me, i feel horrible. When we were together she used to get ill with an assortment of different symptoms so her friends didnt believe her illness. I did because her blood test results and urine samples are coming back abnormal and plus shes meant to be having an operation soon but i want to distance myself and forget about her and concentrate on my new girlfriend. I know im really horrible."
These are your words. Stop trying to convince yourself that she's lying.
These are your words. Stop trying to convince yourself that she's lying.
Seriously, this isn't healthy. If you have moved on, forget about it. Yes, women CAN have periods and still be pregnant. Yes, Dr. offices CAN call at 7 am but if you doubt it, call them for yourself if you are that stuck on finding out if she's lying or not.
What does your new GF think of all this? Does she know you are on here seeking advice about this situation? If so, what does she think about it?
What does your new GF think of all this? Does she know you are on here seeking advice about this situation? If so, what does she think about it?
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