I took the advice and I'm not talking to her much now, luckily for me things have come good in different parts of my life therefore I haven't had time to really chat to her and my mind is elsewhere on more important things. I did say to her that we might as well be mates and since then she only spoke to me once. It is hard sometimes but Im glad I have other things to occupy me and it has come at a time when I needed it so its been easier to say the words to her.
Last I heard from her step sister was that she has gone into hiding again and not talked to no one. Im still there for her if she needs a shoulder but as far as a relationships are I've broken free.
No Rock Rose this is a different woman
Is this the same woman who lives in a different town and is 30 and has 3 kids?
Noone can answer this for you because only you no how you feel. but in my opinoin she is not ready to let go of the other guy. you are deffinatly in the "friend" place and you will stay there until she makes a decision or you make one. if i was you i would tell it to her straight tell her you care about her and want to be with her but you don't just want to be the one on the side that has do deal with the problems. you should not only get a part of her. and you can't keep letting yourself do it cause if you do you will be the one with low self-esteeme. i have been in a situation similar to this. i ended up getting my heart broken. i was alwasy the second choice no matter how many times the guy i liked said he hated being with the other girl he always chose her. it sounds bad to give an altimatiem but sometimes you have to or you will never be able to have a life because you will stay stuck in limbo.
Specialmom sumed it all up.
All the best.
My absolute best and most heartfelt advice is for you to let HER work out her issuess and you to stay far away until she does.
She's with someone. And until she gets the guts to break up, she is off limits. And you do not want someone that goes from one man to the next. This is a bad sign and usually doesn't lead to longterm bliss.
So move on. Don't get mixed up with women in relationships as that will just create unnecessary drama in your life. And set your standards high---- shoot for a strong woman instead of one you have to 'save'.
good luck