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My girlfriend lying about being pregnant
Hi, this feels kind-of like a childish question, but its eating me up so i would love your help in this matter please. I have recently met this girl and am very attracted to her despite the fact that she has some serious personality disorder issues and keep making up stories. She is attention seeking to an abnormal level. I have pulled back from her recently but have not broken off the relatioship. She has become very insecure and is claiming pregnancy. Now, i know 1st reaction is "shes lying you idoit!" But just the fact of knowing it COULD be true is killing me. She said was on the pill but now I am wondering. I am a genuine guy and she is quite a few years younger than me but I am very attracted to her.
I am considering discreetely swabbing a pregnance test stick against the juices in her area!!! and then excusing myself to the bathroom. I need to know if the hormone is present in the juices produced down below! I know this sounds mad but I have tried all other avenues to get a positive or negative result. She is wrecking my head!! I know you all will advise that i should run away from her quickly but the truth is that I am quite lonely and find her ery beautiful in many ways.
I am considering discreetely swabbing a pregnance test stick against the juices in her area!!! and then excusing myself to the bathroom. I need to know if the hormone is present in the juices produced down below! I know this sounds mad but I have tried all other avenues to get a positive or negative result. She is wrecking my head!! I know you all will advise that i should run away from her quickly but the truth is that I am quite lonely and find her ery beautiful in many ways.
Have you asked her to take a test in front of you or better yet, she should be seeing a doctor soon if she is pregnant, ask to go along since that is usually what the father of the baby does.
If she wont let you see the test or she wont let you go to the appointment that is a pretty good sign that she is lying to you.
If she wont let you see the test or she wont let you go to the appointment that is a pretty good sign that she is lying to you.
no, i don't think that would produce a positive result....it has to come from a blood test or urine stream. i would be blunt and honest with her and tell her that you have caught her in lies before and insist that she do a pregnancy test in front of you!! i don't have much advice to give in this situation, but i do wish you the best of luck and best wishes!!
You know what they say . . . God gave men two heads, but only enough blood to power one of them at a time.
She tells you she's pregnant, but won't prove it, and you're still having sex with her. She'll be pregnant soon.
*snap* goes the trap.
She tells you she's pregnant, but won't prove it, and you're still having sex with her. She'll be pregnant soon.
*snap* goes the trap.
Good call RockRose!
To the original poster, you said:
"I am considering discreetely swabbing a pregnance test stick against the juices in her area!!! "
you need a good, solid, urine stream to detect the pregnancy hormone HCG - if, by the term "juices in her area" you are referring to vaginal discharge you will NOT be able to detect HCG. Incidentally, how to you plan to discreetly swab her genitalia?
To the original poster, you said:
"I am considering discreetely swabbing a pregnance test stick against the juices in her area!!! "
you need a good, solid, urine stream to detect the pregnancy hormone HCG - if, by the term "juices in her area" you are referring to vaginal discharge you will NOT be able to detect HCG. Incidentally, how to you plan to discreetly swab her genitalia?
He got this idea from a previous post (he brought it back up) so I don't completely blame him from the idea, someone else told him it would work.
As RR so eloquently put it, the trap will indeed "snap" shut on you.
Wake up and smell the coffee. If you are attracted to a girl who is much younger, makes up stories all the time, is very insecure, and has a serious personality disorder, you will get what you deserve.
I hope an innocent baby is not going to be the result of your bad decision to keep this relationship.
Wake up and smell the coffee. If you are attracted to a girl who is much younger, makes up stories all the time, is very insecure, and has a serious personality disorder, you will get what you deserve.
I hope an innocent baby is not going to be the result of your bad decision to keep this relationship.
I agree that you should be honest with her about your concerns. Tell her you'd like to be very involved with her prenatal care and offer to go to the doctor with her. Then depending on her reaction, talk to her about it. Honey, I know you said that you find her beautiful and you want to be with her, but seriously consider the trust issues and troubles you might have in the future because of her personality disorder. Good luck with everything!
He is the one who posted in that other one about Swabbing the juices. He's playing around with everyone.
Hi GRose
Look to be honest I have been an idiot here and accept that. I'm not perfect and got carried away here. She is a real nutcase and I have no one to blame but myself. I just want to verify she is actually lying and get the hell away quickly. One more idea I had was to rig the toilet so it won't flush and retrieve some of her urine after her visit and do the test that way.
There is no way she will agree to do a test and I know that 99% she is lying but if there is a 1% percent chance she is not, I must verify. Please don't judge me too much, Ihave never been so stupid before and will not be again.
Look to be honest I have been an idiot here and accept that. I'm not perfect and got carried away here. She is a real nutcase and I have no one to blame but myself. I just want to verify she is actually lying and get the hell away quickly. One more idea I had was to rig the toilet so it won't flush and retrieve some of her urine after her visit and do the test that way.
There is no way she will agree to do a test and I know that 99% she is lying but if there is a 1% percent chance she is not, I must verify. Please don't judge me too much, Ihave never been so stupid before and will not be again.
If you "rig" the toilet so it wont flush her urine will be too diluted, there is no way that will work, the test will come up negative.
This is very simple.
If she is actually pregnant, then after the baby is born, get a paternity test.
If she is actually pregnant, then after the baby is born, get a paternity test.
Surely there must be way to find out without her knowing. Does anyone have any suggestions. This has been an issue in humanity, I can't believe there isn't a way? Can you see if you can find out anything Rose? Are there any abvious physical signs. She would be pregnant almost exactly one month.
You should tell her that you would like to go to doctor appointments with her, because surely she has to get it confirmed with the doctor. See what she has to say about that. If she doesn't want to take a test for you then I would say she is lying! You can't always rely on symptoms to come because I never had any and I'm 37 weeks pregnant. All the best to you and hope you get your answers. Take care!
I already mentioned to you that she should be going to regular appointments, say you want to go with.
There are no obvious signs this early and NO you cant find out without her knowing.
There are no obvious signs this early and NO you cant find out without her knowing.
No one here is thinking creatively enough.
1. If she would be about a "month" pregnant, that means 6 weeks, and that means her period is due in about 2 weeks. Visit her home, use the restroom and count the tampons in her box in the cabinet. Then, in another three weeks, count them again.
2. Design a realistic looking postcard and send it to "resident" at her address with a typed mailing label. Some cosmetics company. Wanted for paid cosmetics study - first trimester pregnant women. Some kind of product, whatever, skin cream. All she has to do is get the skin lotion and use it one week for $150.00. If you're interested come by such and such beauty supply between the hours of _____. Then, park it outside that store and wait.
There must be other legal ways . . .
1. If she would be about a "month" pregnant, that means 6 weeks, and that means her period is due in about 2 weeks. Visit her home, use the restroom and count the tampons in her box in the cabinet. Then, in another three weeks, count them again.
2. Design a realistic looking postcard and send it to "resident" at her address with a typed mailing label. Some cosmetics company. Wanted for paid cosmetics study - first trimester pregnant women. Some kind of product, whatever, skin cream. All she has to do is get the skin lotion and use it one week for $150.00. If you're interested come by such and such beauty supply between the hours of _____. Then, park it outside that store and wait.
There must be other legal ways . . .
Oh here's another good one.
Hire some woman who looks like a junkie to approach your girlfriend and offer her $100 for a clean urine sample NOW, for a drug test. Are you clean? I need a clean sample right now, please $100 bucks, give her the vial and show her the 100 bucks.
Of course, you'd be out $200 - $100 for the junkie and $100 for your girlfriend.
Might work.
Hire some woman who looks like a junkie to approach your girlfriend and offer her $100 for a clean urine sample NOW, for a drug test. Are you clean? I need a clean sample right now, please $100 bucks, give her the vial and show her the 100 bucks.
Of course, you'd be out $200 - $100 for the junkie and $100 for your girlfriend.
Might work.
wow, u r a creative thinker. not quite there yet but i am sure we can come up with something more definite!! Comon guys
hernad, those were kind of meant to be tongue in cheek.
Except the tampon one, that's pretty practical, actually, and would give you the answer.
I really don't think there is any legal way for you to do this except wait it out. I really, really doubt a woman is pregnant if she tells you she is but refuses to confirm it.
Except the tampon one, that's pretty practical, actually, and would give you the answer.
I really don't think there is any legal way for you to do this except wait it out. I really, really doubt a woman is pregnant if she tells you she is but refuses to confirm it.
Did u see the test yet by her being young most young girls will do that to get sum one back and if she did do that for that reason I think I need to leave her alone
Sounds silly, I know but if she happened to get a nosebleed, would the test stick detect the hormone in her blood?
Hernad, do not allow your desperation to lead you to "accidentally" assaulting your girlfriend and causing her to gush blood. You are about to step off into territory that you will GREATLY regret.
I don't think blood will show up on a home urine pregnancy test. In the tests you either pee directly on to the piece that then shows lines (if you used blood you would completely obscure the colored lines you're supposed to see) or you place the stick in urine and the urine becomes absorbed in cotton 'wicking' and travels up to the colored test lines.
Blood will either coagulate before it does that, or again, if it does get absorbed will obscure the very lightly tinted coloration lines.
And you'll be in jail when it's over.
I don't think blood will show up on a home urine pregnancy test. In the tests you either pee directly on to the piece that then shows lines (if you used blood you would completely obscure the colored lines you're supposed to see) or you place the stick in urine and the urine becomes absorbed in cotton 'wicking' and travels up to the colored test lines.
Blood will either coagulate before it does that, or again, if it does get absorbed will obscure the very lightly tinted coloration lines.
And you'll be in jail when it's over.
Hernad- You can always be an @$$hole and tell her that you're breaking up with her because she's lying to you about being pregnant and then if she says that she is pregnant then ask her to do a pee test. If she says she "lost it" then she just got her period and she was never pregnant.
The tampon idea is good and also telling her that if she doesn't do a test (you buy a digital pregnancy test and provide it for her) right away in the morning, then you are both through. Either way, I think you need to hit the road fast. Don't keep having sex with her!! If you must, use a condom. If she's not pregnant now, she will be because she is the kind of woman who will trap a man (YOU).
Also, like an above poster said, tell her you want to go with her to her appointments.
Also, like an above poster said, tell her you want to go with her to her appointments.
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