My mistake - or boyfriends?

[shenanigans87]

The background first:  We've been together just under 2 years.  We moved in together a little over a month ago.  We have had a rocky history but have justified it with the passion we have in between fights.

Recently he suggested we consider a threesome to try and spice things up (we had both always been interested in sexual experimentation).  I wasn't really in love with the idea, but figured I'd look into it a bit before I ruled it out.  I made a post on craigslist, just hoping to feel out what type of people are out there and if any seemed "normal".  A few of the replies seemed nice enough so I replied with a couple basic questions and a G-rated picture of us together.  I told my boyfriend when he got home, and he got really mad at me.

Granted, I know it was a stupid mistake on my part to send the picture.  Hell, it was a mistake to even make a post on craigslist about something that I wasn't 100% comfortable with.  But now my boyfriend is extremely pissed at me.  He has called me stupid, slutty, a piece of s#$@...  you get the idea.  I know I screwed up, but I really don't think I deserve this language.  He's also making me sleep upstairs because he doesn't want to be near me.  I'm just really crushed that lately he has found it okay to say such derogatory things to me.  This isn't the first fight where it's happened.

I love him, but cannot think of a way for him to realize how much he is hurting me short of breaking up with him.  I do not want to end this relationship even the slightest, but it is making it really hard to live with him.  Does anyone have any advice for me?

[extrmeski]

I think he is flipping crazy, but he might have just said it to see how interested she would be in another man.  Kind of a test.. Otherwise it seems very strange.  Also he might have thought he would get off watching, but usually those are thoughts best left as thoughts and not actually followed through with.
No most guys would want two girls, not another guy.

[Agiesmom]

Extrmeski, I'm curious to know a guy's point of view with regard to him wanting a three-some with another man.  Does that seem peculiar to you?  Would you suspect he may be gay or bi or do you, as a heterosexual, understand that or have you known other guys who were heterosexual who would likely be into something like that?

[extrmeski]

guys are funny creatures especially when it comes to sex.  I think he was more angry that you jumped on the chance rather than to be a bit coy about it.  Now in his mind you are more into it than he is which he is having trouble with.  Also there is a bit of a control issue here as well, since you jumped out like that and advertised it, he feels that you are out of his control.  His reaction is partially to bring you back in-line as well.
Anyway that is a guys point of view..

[Ashlee8603]

Honestly I think that your guy may be crazy.  For him to say one thing, then get so mad at you for what he thought up in the first place.  That's not right and you don't deserve to be treated like that.  Even if it is for one day and the next day he makes up.  He is just trying to have control over you, and he is using his temper to control you.  And even if someone he knows ends up seeing the pictures, obviously they are interested in it or they wouldn't have been looking up those types of things. Good luck, and don't let him control you like that.

[treazzure007]

ewwwwwwww

[Agiesmom]

What the last three said.  You can't really think otherwise, can you?