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I am extremely sentive to smells. When I go to bed with my husband I tell him he has to brush his teeth, but then alot of times he has a horrendous body odor. I try to get into the seex part but I feel like I am going to barf. What is something I can do to help us both?
Thanks for the input. I mentioned to him last night about the showers he thought it was great idea, so we will be working on it, maybe tonight.
I agree with all above and imanaddict, you cracked me up (lol)....I can understand how difficult it would be to just come straight out and say it without offending him. It's important that in intimacy, you both are fresh and clean, especially down there, so with that said, I would tell him in casual bedroom conversation that you want both of you to be comfortable and refresh before sex and ask him if he would agree to it. Give him options, such as take a shower together, buy great body wash that would make your skin like silk and turn him on and buy a scentet, manly body soap or wash for him, also buy a mint mouth wash and tell him I want you fresh from head to toe and I'll make it worth your while. Good luck!
Spray him with Febreeze! LOL! I'm just kidding!
You do need to talk with him about this, but like the others have said, you might want to bring it up in a delicate manner. It's hard to tell ANYONE something like this. Especially your spouse!
Maybe buy him a few things to help, like the RX Strength deodarant that you can get over the counter, and maybe some Axe body spray for men.
You do need to talk with him about this, but like the others have said, you might want to bring it up in a delicate manner. It's hard to tell ANYONE something like this. Especially your spouse!
Maybe buy him a few things to help, like the RX Strength deodarant that you can get over the counter, and maybe some Axe body spray for men.
You are married and share the most intimate things between you. I am sure he has gotten lazy with time and knows better than this. I would have no problem spitting it out. It is disrespectful of him to do this. Maybe I have been married too long but I c no problem with spitting it out. You can grin after you tell him if you wish...... lol
I agree with you on being a bit more tactful.. But on the other hand, we have to keep in mind that this is a married couple and they should be able to tell each other everything. I read through a lot of the posts on this site and I have to stop and think to myself how some of these issues arise with couples when they're married to one another. I guess it was just how I was raised and have seen both my parents and my grandparents together since they first met, basically. The point is, is that I have always had the mindset that when you're with someone to the point where you're married to them legally, you should be able to do just about anything with eachother alongside talking to one another about any and everything. Either that, or I just have the best man that there is in the entire world. HAHA!
Once again, I agree with not coming out and being rude to your husband about this. But you do need to be able to open up to him about what your feelings are.
Once again, I agree with not coming out and being rude to your husband about this. But you do need to be able to open up to him about what your feelings are.
Cant we take a bit more tactful approach. Instead of hitting him between the eyes, you could say it's a lot hotter and sexier to you when he's just out of the shower. Or as another said, start taking showers together and show him how sexy it makes you feel.
Rather than make him feel bad about it, you can say that YOU have a hang up about smells rather than make him feel weird about it. But I would suppose he knows that you are sensitive to smells as he is married to you.
Other than that, there are room fresheners, sheet spritzers (you can buy them in places like Restoration Hardware or Nordstrom), potpouri's, etc.. that might help you too,
Good luck.
Rather than make him feel bad about it, you can say that YOU have a hang up about smells rather than make him feel weird about it. But I would suppose he knows that you are sensitive to smells as he is married to you.
Other than that, there are room fresheners, sheet spritzers (you can buy them in places like Restoration Hardware or Nordstrom), potpouri's, etc.. that might help you too,
Good luck.
Brush his teeth... if you must; and, have sex while you're both showering together.
Tell em! Flat out tell him! That is the best thing you can do for him, yourself and your intimate relationship. Once he knows how you feel, he will change it if for no other reason than to get the sex! lol How do you tell him you ask? example below.....
You need to take a shower and brush your teeth before you come to bed, I cannot stand it and until you do? Sleep on the couch! And dont touch me!
Doesnt get any plainer than that! lol
You need to take a shower and brush your teeth before you come to bed, I cannot stand it and until you do? Sleep on the couch! And dont touch me!
Doesnt get any plainer than that! lol
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