Re-marry ex-spouse

[Annie_777]

I'm going to have a confidential marriage ceremony with my ex-husband in 18 hours.  We've know each other for 18 years, had two kids together.  We fell apart because parents' disapproval among other issues.  We couldn't talk it out.  For the past 5-years when we were seperated, we co-parented our kids on a 50-50 schedule.  Everything went well, except that neither of us can move on to new relationships. We took kids out on family vacations 2x a year and that has been the happiest time for me.  Last year, I was diagnosed with cancer.  I finished the treatment and am NED (no evidence of disease) now.  He supported me and took care of many things during the course.  All this makes me realize that life is too short, and how much I want my family back.  I know the reason that he doesn't propose for remarriage was because of his parents.  So I proposed to have a confidential marriage to resume our relationship, and he agreed.  

Does this sound too crazy?  With a cancer diagnosis, I surely am under a lot of stress.  But at this moment, I'm still feeling very strongly about this decision.  I'm just not sure whether this is the mind clarity that cancer brought to me or the hormone imbalance from the recent stress.  

I'm getting re-married. The success rate is 40%, higher than the likelihood of me dying from cancer.  So I take it as a pretty good odd.  Please pray for us and send us some blessings.  Thank you!

[RockRose]

I think that sounds wonderful,  and I bet remarriages to a first spouse are a LOT more successful than 40%.  I think that statistic might be for marriages to a second person.

It seems like a real concern here that he's not man enough to tell his parents he's remarrying his wife and the mother of his children.  Why is he so afraid of them?  

Blessings for your re-marriage!

[specialmom]

Oh, I so agree.  It honestly warms my heart to think of a spouse of many years that you've seperated from coming through for you and caring for you during a scary illness.  THAT is love and honor.  I agree that it is wonderful.

Don't be afraid of any extended family--  this is about you and him and your kids.  Who cares about the others?  

I wish you continued NED and health and a happy remarriage--  my best to you.  

[Annie_777]

Thank you! Your replies mean a lot to me.

[TTinKKerBBell]

This is a True Love Story!!

I'm sorry You feel You have to do this in secret - Will You all be able to live together as a Family?

I send my Prayers and Blessings:
May the Two Of You and Your Children Live Happily Ever After.

[nursegirl6572]

I agree!!!!

I think it's fantastic that you two are going to recommit to each other and the family.  This is every child's DREAM who has experineced divorce.  I bet they are thrilled.

I think you BOTH just need to stand up and stand united to the extended family.  Explain that this is what you both want, after a lot of time and thought...and that it would mean an awful lot if they could stand behind you guys and support your union.  It would be helpful if you acknowledge that you guys understand that your families would have reservations.

Understand too, that I'm sure as you guys were divorcing, probably a lot of not so nice things about each partner was being relayed to family members.  Sometimes, it's hard for people to forget those things that were said.  So, a lot of their reservation could be coming from remembering things each of you said at the time.  That happens a lot.  Just try to be a little patient, but hold firm.  Hopefully they will come around.

Happy wedding day...very best to you...I will keep you in my prayers.

[MissmyAngel]

Wow,  this is a really touching story!
It's sad that his family isn't supportive, but maybe in time they will.
Really the only thing that matters, is that you, your soon to be husband, and the kids you have together are happy.
I really don't know what to say about the people who stressed you two to the point of divorce in the first place, maybe you two will have to put some distance between you and them.