I feel so.. Idk . Help..

[Beautiful96]

Me And my boyfriend haven't really been together for a year yet but he was my bestfriend before . And when we were friends everything was amazing , we never got into arguments or anything. But now that were dating its harder. I'm on the verge of giving up or exploding . We argue and argue over the smallest things . He assumes too much , for example if I say I was bored he will automatically jump to the conclusion that he's not making me happy and we end up mad at each other . It's getting annoying , any advice on what I should do ?. I really want to make this work . I have had a crush on him for a long time and get this weird inexplicable happiness when I'm with him . We have been together for a month now but known each other for 2years.

[Life360_Dave]

Hi and welcome. What you have here is a classic case of chase and get. He liked you much more than you liked him and i suspect him wanting to be your friend in the beginning was a plan to get you as his girlfriend. Now that he has done this, he is on the defensive to keep you and will somewhat smother you with concerns and insecurness.
Lets face it, this was not a weak in the knees start off love affair but something that YOU took to the next level and he tried very hard to get you there and will continue this behavior till he is certain you are his forever.

[Londres70]

Agree with the above posters.......very good, sound advice.  

[Chima7]

I agree 100% that you should not keep trying to get pregnant with someone with whom you are having problems. Despite what you see on TV, babies do not make things all better in a relationship that isn't working and in fact they just add more stress to the situation. If you were smart you'd start using birth control before your next time to avoid pregnancy at all costs.

As for the friendship turned relationship, I'm not surprised that happened. When you're "just friends" there is no pressure for much of anything and although the attraction may be there, the reason why those feelings are so intense is because you're not actually together. There's that element of the unknown there. However when you take away that element and start actually dating for real, then all the mystery is gone and its just another relationship like any other. The anticipation and excitement is gone because you get to know each other on a much more personal level, warts and all, which may or may not still be attractive to the other person.

Sometimes it works out but other times unfortunately it not only doesn't work as a relationship but also ruins the friendship. It's a chance that you take when you start dating a guy friend. I can tell you that very similar problems happened to me the 2 times I started dating male friends of mine. Not only are we not dating anymore but we're not even friends now -- which is the part I miss a lot more and I would gladly erase all traces of the relationship if it meant getting my friends back. Unfortunately real life doesn't work that way.

[RockRose]

I went and looked at your profile.  Since you're so unhappy in this relationship,  it's probably a good idea for you to stop trying so hard to get pregnant.

I can't tell whether you've been in this relationship for just under a year,  or just one  month,  you say both things in this post,  but getting pregnant with a man that you can't get a long with is a really bad idea.

[thatquietgirl]

Explain to him that he doesn't cause you to feel the way you do.  We're all responsible for our own feelings.  You can be bored but overall happy with life, too.  For instance, life might be going well, but you're doing homework or just sitting there so you're bored at that moment.  Being bored is not an indicator of happiness in a relationship unless perhaps it's all the time.  Explain to him he does not have to fix everything, that we women like to be listened to without having to feel like our guys are trying to fix the perceived "problem" for us.