Please help me with my relationship

[Sares]

Hi, I would love to get some advice about my relationship. I have been with my new boyfriend for 2 months. I am very comfortable with him but I've never had that 'wow factor'. With my previous relationship (we were together for 2 years) I did have this - it was a great relationship that ended because of me - I have addiction issues and kept lying to him until the poor guy couldn't take it any more. I've had trouble getting over him, he was such a lovely guy.

Anyways my current boyfriend (we actually met in rehab - I am now clean and haven't drunk since rehab) sometimes gets on my nerves - so I suppose my question is do I need that wow factor feeling or is it unrealistic to think every sucsessful relationship has this all the time. I mean I'm comfortable with him but something is missing!

I'm just really confused - and he wants to move in together soon. I'm a bit of a wimp too - I would dread telling him I don't want to be with him because he's sensetive and he's already said that he "dosen't know what he'll do if this (us) dosen't work out."

I feel kinda stupid asking about this but I'd really love opinions!

Thanks,
Sara

[babypooh]

Don't move in with him if you don't want to; it will make you miserable and you will regret it. Don't make decisions based on his feelings. At this point, you need to consider yours. Maybe you need some time to yourself. That will allow you time to think about what you really want. Perhaps you're not over your last boyfriend or you will realize that you do care about this new boyfriend of yours. Time alone might clear a lot of things up for you. Don't move in with him; you don't seem ready. Good luck.

[AnxiousGurl]

Its only been 2 months with this guy. You have to tell him that your not ready to move in ...if your not. I remember when me and my fiance were together 6 months he wanted to go visit another country I straight up told him no....If it doesnt feel right ...dont do it!

[Sares]

Thanks for replying.

I guess I kind of already know this deep down - I just needed to hear it from someone.

I just need to get my courage up now to tell him.

Sara

[RockRose]

Sara,  this is your life,  not his.  Don't let him move in with you if you aren't sure he's a great guy (it doesn't sound like you are sure at all) just because he doesn't really have any other prospects.

This is your life.   This guy isn't it.  Move on.