Rollar coaster ride

[Iyonnaferry]

I was with my ex boyfriend for 10 months. He was and still is very difficult to deal with. He is also a drug dealer. I am 16 and he is 18. We were very intimate in our relationship, after we broke up we had sex about two times. For a while I knew I wasn't in love with him but he says he is in love with me. During the relationship it was hard because I would always lie to him and play games and he never tried hard enough to be with me. We broke up about a month ago and we tried to be friends but I started to notice that he was being distant. He said he still loved me but he would have sex with other girls. So far he hasn't slept with anyone and I haven't slept with anyone either. I care about him alot and I forgave him for everything he did to me. But he still treated me like ****. I told him to **** off and I never wanted to speak to him again, I was so angry at him for treating me like I mean nothing to him and yet he still says he loves me, my question is Should i forgive and forget amd try to be his friend or just stay away all together? personally i dont like being angry at someone and i really care alot about him.

[specialmom]

Stay strong.  This guy has issues and isn't good for you.  good luck

[Iyonnaferry]

Thanks for all your advice, its been a couple weeks now and i haven't spoken to him since. I ignore him and work on myself, so thank you all so much!

[Londres70]

Oh yeah...........GET rid of HIM.

[Londres70]

How can anyone here condone a relationship between an 18 year old and a 16 year old?  It doesn't matter at what age you met.  He is LEGAL and you AREN'T.

Hon...........I have briefly read some of your past posts with the SAME themes...............cheating, lying, fighting, arguing, etc..................

You are 16.  This is something a 16 year old SHOULDN'T be doing with her time.

I say get off the rollar coaster.  You keep putting yourself into these situations time and time again.  

What do your parents think about all this?

[CML2014]

Here Goes::

Let me see if I have this straight:
Your 16 he is 18
He deals drugs
He says he loves you but has sex with other girls
He treated you like ****


You played games with him
You lied to him
You don't love him even though he says he loves you
You told him to **** off
Now you don't sleep with any one and he SAYS he doesn't either

You told him you never want to see him
Yet you really care about him and would like to know if you should
"Forgive and Forget" and be friends, because you don't like being mad at people.
>>>>>>or just stay away altogether.

Well my opinion only---you are both to young to know what you want....but I do know you are smart enough to know you do not want a drug dealer in your life at the sweet young age of 16.
I am not even sure if either of you really understand what LOVE is.

My Vote--Nothing to see here--keep moving!!!

Hope you take this advice,
CML

[Iyonnaferry]

And when we met he wasn't selling drugs but I knew in his past he did. then as the relationship progressed he need money so he started selling again then he stopped then after we broke up he started selling again.

[Iyonnaferry]

We started dating when I was 15 and he was 17.

[Life360_Dave]

Dear Iyon, you mention in your opening statement that hes a drug dealer so this leads me to believe you already know in your heart your with the wrong person. Not only is he a drug dealer but by him having sex with you at 16 and him 18 is a Felony and if hes caught and convicted, would be put on a sex offenders list.
I know at 16 we respond to love and attention more than in later years because we develop self love and dont so much need other to justify our existance.
If you do care for him then wait till your 18 to be with him and make him promise to stop dealing drugs as well as if your caught with him selling, you and could become a convicted Felon and would loose many of your citizenship rights.
I would suggest you break this off with him for you own best interest and get more involved in you schools activities. Meet some nice boy your own age where you both can grow in wisdom together.

[Chima7]

He's a criminal and he treats you like garbage. Why would you want to keep someone like that in your life? He's not your friend. Friends don't treat friends like this. He's only keeping you around so he can use you as a booty call. If you stopped giving him sex then he would be out trolling for any other girl who would give it to him. Ditch this guy because he is a loser and he's only using you. There's no point in keeping a user like him in your life.