Should i stay or should i run?

[sunny_smurf]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year before he asked if i was willing to share an apartment with him. He was 24 and living with his mother. I had met his mother briefly on a few occasions and our conversations were never anything more than casual greetings.

We found a really nice apartment and before long we were moving in.

Two weeks into us moving in together I get a phone call in the middle of the night from his mother, angrily requesting to speak to her son, i asked if there was anything i could help her with seeing as to how he was asleep. She just tells me to wake him and tell him that she's waiting for him to get home to rub her feet.....

Is this woman kidding? I wake him and deliver the massage. He with a puzzled look calls her back. I listen trying to figure what's going on. He pacifies her and we go back to sleep. Next night, same thing, just this time is to tell him that she cant sleep till he hugs her.I get worried now and ask what's going on.

She tells me that I took her son from her and that she is all alone, with nobody to hug at night to sleep. It is then i get to realize that since he was a baby he was sleeping in the same bed with her, sharing a room, and he was 24.He has no other brothers and sisters and his father left at birth, so it was always just the two of them.

I start to question why a 24 year old is still sharing a room with his mother and she tells me that a one room apartment is all that she could afford as a single parent and i was rudely told that i was wrong to ask her these questions and i shouldn't judge her.

He has a really good job and so does she. They regularly take vacations to Hawaii, trips to Europe, she drives this expensive car as does he, so telling me that a one bedroom apartment is all she could afford is a bit confusing to me, especially since he has agreed to pay all the bills for us living together.

I question him about it and he tells me that he tried to rent on his own before, but he ends up missing her and goes back home. She refers to him as her husband and she proudly parades naked in front of him. They go to the movies together and she snuggles up to him. At dinner she casually places her hand on his thigh, She wears his T-shirts and underwear to sleep.

I am very disturbed at this because i don't see this as appropriate behavior between mother and son. I wonder what  else happens between them that i don't know about.

Is this okay? Is this Normal? Am i making an issue out of nothing? As the situation stands i have moved out until this i resolved. I love him dearly and i am willing to stay, just not with His mother accusing me of taking her "eyeball" away from her... Please help, i am open to suggestions.....

[rebbecca]

thats gross what is goin on between them, ithink he is a little sick too if he is playin into it as old as he is. if i were u i would run for the hills and not look back. all i could think  when i was reading it was omg they r havin sex. i feel really bad for u, it must be painful for u to be goin through this and him not being there with u. i think u should find a new bf, i dont think in his eyes that anyone will be as good as his mommy. i wish u the best;)

[sunny_smurf]

thanks so much rebbecca...... the situation was very embarrassing. His friends and cousins gave me subtle hints to stay away from them, i just never realized what they meant till this happened. I felt like i was in some LMN  movie. As i said before i do love him and was willing to work things out, but not anymore. I feel sick to my stomach when i think about them and what was going on. My other question is does this happen to a lot of ppl or is it just my experience?

[AnnieBrooke]

If he is serious about getting away from his mother, I would give him a chance, but in order to move back in I would have to have proof he is having therapy.

[sunny_smurf]

Thanks guys. It seems that he has no intention to get therapy. He says he doesn't want to hurt his mother's feelings or see her cry. I am on my way. Not gonna turn turn back. THe further i get the better for me!

[brice1967]

Holy Moses!!!!  There is something really weird going on there!  There is no way in the world can any of that behavior be confused with being normal.  I've never even heard of such a relationship.  I've heard of mothers spoiling their sons, but the physicality of this relationship rivals any sexual relationship between a man and woman.

Not Normal!!!!!  Not Normal!!!!!!

[sunny_smurf]

thanks alot guys..... you saved me.... :-)