Take the position or not?

[lovemykids465]

Many of you know the situation I had with my trainer a few weeks ago and he did apologize and has been fine with me since then. ( I was considering changing the time I trained but it did not work with my schedule and I also was helping out with a few of his female clients since he and his wife split and she will no longer be there when he is) Well today he asked me if I would be interested in teaching a kick boxing class on Mondays during the day. ( His wife does zumba and step class in the evenings but will no longer teach day classes seeing he is there). Mondays is my day off from work and the day I generally schedule any doc appointments for kids and so on. But I have also been looking for a way to supplement our income. You get paid by number of clients.  I was an instructor for 3 years about 10 years ago and loved it ( not at his gym ) I was in the best physical shape of my life at that time but then I got pregnant with my last child and had placenta previa and was put in bed for 7 months. I mean strict bed rest I could not even use the bathroom without having someone with me. Due to this I ended up with tendentious and after my son was born went through months of painful physical therapy. I have not really been able to run or do prolonged aerobic activity   ( beside swimming) since because after awhile it starts to hurt but I can handle one day a week that is not the issue. I just do not know if I should commit to this ( even though it has it's advantages) because he ( trainer ) has been okay with me the past few weeks and he was just joking  with his comments but they are not comments made to any of the other female clients and some of the guys call me his gym wife minus the physical relationship ( to which her responds well just like my real wife). I just do not if it is opening the door for more comments or not. Joe said he is okay with me doing it on that issue ( totally trust me and said trainer is just being typical egotistical gym guy) but is concerned with my physical issue. What do you think?

[lovemykids465]

I was really questioning the job anyway. Money would be good but it would add more to my already hectic schedule and even though Larry is a good guy most of the time I have seen changes in him that I am not very comfortable with. I called him and said I would have to decline for now. He asked me if it was b/c of the comments he had been making and reassured me he was just kidding. I told him I knew that but it did  kind of make me uncomfortable he knows Joe and I were having problems and were in counseling ( He does not know the extent of them though) and with he and his wife being separated it was just a thin line. He said he meant no harm. I know that.Now about being the gym wife, when I am there I will answer the phone if he is busy with a client and if he needs something he will come to me, he gives me my supplements for a discount and most of the time will knock off part of my membership price but that is b/c I am constantly working for him for nothing. He is training for competition again and will have me do his weight and measurements so I think that is why the other guys say I am the gym wife.  

[thehitman357]

I don't jknow what happen before. Sounds like he made some studip comments.  If you do take this extra job, set the ground rules with him again.  Put dude in his place.  Be respectful but firm. Tell him that you will be respected.  

[brice1967]

I see how the release of pent up energy and a few extra bucks might be nice, but I agree with specialmom.  Something in my gut is telling me that this is a giant no-no.  I feel as if this guy has something else in mind, and I can't see any of it being good for you and or Joe.

Even if the guy has nothing else in mind, being called a "gym wife" has its own implications that don't sit quite right.  This guy seems to know enough about you and your situation that makes all of this quite appealing.  I am seeing red flags everywhere around this.

[specialmom]

Okay, I am going to give you my gut reaction.  Don't do it.  He's recently divorced, has made comments in the pretty recent past, people are noticing the "relationship" and calling you a "gym wife", etc.  I think that it is not the right direction for you to go right now.  I get your wanting to do "something" physical and teaching a kick boxing class would be great . . . but I do think this comes with some hazards that you just don't need.  

My gut says don't do it.