Strip Clubs Ok or No way?

[megochick101]

I'm asking this question because me and my husband had a discussion about strip clubs after watching something on the tv the other day(not porno lol). He feels there is nothing wrong with someone going to one, whereas I think that if someone in a relationship goes to a strip club they are essentially cheating on their partner, and I wouldn't let my hubby go under any circumstances. I just wanted to hear from other woman, and men too please,to get some other perspective on the issue.

So how do you feel about your partner going to strip clubs?(without you I should add)

Thanks in advance :)

[zzzmykids]

Most of our friends have been married over thirty years.  Our kids, their kids had premarital counselling, still dating after marriage and just doing fun stuff  all year round.
We have shared our tough spots and resolutions for them. Our kids are nine years and more and still going strong.
As long as we are committed to the marriage, even when love seems hard to find in the hassles, the poopy diapers, the differences you stick it out.
Trust is a big issue and having simular values of respect for the genders helps.
Laughter and being best friends helps.  We also have best friends we do things separately with that are of the same gender.
Hope this gives you some hope for the next generations.  It is all what they see before them.
Good luck,
zzzmykids

[zzzmykids]

Dear megochick101 and others that have posed these questions,
There is not a box for me to check.  Mine would be, why bother?  Why bother helping the seedy part of life grow? Stripping leads to drugs, crime, nothing good for the women doing it in a club.
It is for exploitation of a woman and nothing more.  As a woman, I find it offensive that anyone would frequent these places.  Then when the looks go, what then?  It is not like Demi Moore in striptease. Look at the girls coming out of the places in the light of the day, they look old and all used up.
In a town like the one I live, we have built our reputaion on being cutting edge seedy.
Many of us never go there, even for bachelor or bachelorette parties or have strippers come to the private parties.
It causes pain, lack of self confidence, drugs, death and everything you can think of in between.
Do we want to say to our young women.  All you have is a body, use it.  And there is no long term affect on them?
It is a serious subject.  I don't have to lay the law down, make rules.  He knows what it costs kids and women in the business of self gratification for the men looking at them.
It is disgusting.
We are women whou have come so far, when will we come far enough out of the dark ages of sleezy, dangerous sexually explicit borderline porn?
zzzmykids

[Judy246]

I've notice a change in committment. It's becoming instinct.

[teko]

I think the meaning of what marriage is must be changing, I would certainly hope you are not in the minority. Living in a time where only 50% of marriages survive, and I think that is an optimistic number at best, this is only one issue that may explain why. I guess I just dont understand what committment means anymore.  I always thought these were supposed to be non issues, once committment kicked in, but hey! There I go again, telling my age!  I wonder if there will be marriage after the next 20 years.  I doubt it! Why bother!

[KATE535]

I have posted this same question a few months ago ''Committed Relationships & Lap Dancers'' as seen in Related Discussions.
I have to be honest I don't think it's fair on your partner to seek outside sexual stimualtion from anyone else other than you.
It's unessessary and will only cause jealousy, bad-feeling and hurt. It sounds like I am the minority on this subject here but hey, that's me. If my DP doesn't like it he knows where he can go. But he chooses to ignore those places and chooses his sexual stimulation to come from me only, and our relationship feels great, and pure, without all the jealousy that strip clubs would bring.
I'm quite jealous I admit it, but I'm glad I take so much interest in my DP. I've had an ex before whom I didn't really mind too much about what he did. So my interest in my DP's sexual exclusivity is a positive interest in him I say. I'll be damned if some two-bit ***** is going to frolic six inches above my man's groin while I stay at home unsuspecting how far she's gotton with him. Saying that, whether I would not there, or weather I would (which I would never degrade myself to doing) for me it's wrong and unesseary, and I would kindly ask of my partner not to go :-)

[jenstam]

I would rather my husband not go ever, at all, never again. But, I wouldn't make him feel embarrassed or weird by telling him he can't go for a bachelor party or a special occasion. I wouldn't like it, but wouldn't tell him no. He had his bachelor party in January and had a private couch dance and I was TICKED OFF. NOT HAPPY and felt betrayed and disgusted. Never again.