The love of my life is drifting

[Crispylee]

My Fiance and i have been together for 5 yrs, we have a beutiful 1 yr old son together. For about the last 2 yrs i feel like he has lost his love for me. The first yr or 2 we were toether he treated me like i was everything in the world to him, and latly i have been feeling very neglected from him he doesn't hug,kiss or hold me anymore.we are both in our early 20s and i feel he has also lost his sex drive for me!!! It is always me tring to kiss him and have sex!!!!!I love him so much and i know he loves me, i know there is no one else. i have talked to him about it and it still is the same i am not sure if it is me or is he really stressed out i don't know some advice would really help me right now thanks

Hopeless

[dantheman1577]

i dont want to hurt your feelings.. However, you must know.

have you put weight on lately? Yes, fix it. go to the gym. No?,

do you care for how you look? No, dont complain. YES? ,

do yourself a favour.

leave..  

He will absolutely miss you to tears.

dont ring, dont talk...

you MUST wait.. it will be hard, but it will work....

but DONT RING HIM as you will show you miss him and wont help your situation,

give him a break with you, let him miss you.

good luck..

hope i dont upset you, but thats the truth..

LEAVE IT.  remember DONT PICK UP THAT PHONE no matter how hard it is.

[Crispylee]

I do not demand, i sipmle tell him how i feel about things i pretty much put all my feeling out there....and it is up too him to act on that, But he does nothing it does not change!!!! I mean i have talked about it many times and there will be months were i say nothing nor do nothing.....and it pretty much doesn't change a thing, am really and truly to the point were i wonder if i should just brake everything off and find someone who know how to pay attion to me and give me some affection..........????? and yes I was starting to plan a wedding but he showed no intrest so i stopped doing everything and he has said nothing about it so..... And i know for a fact that he does not have anyone else...He is a very faithful man and father, i think he just gets stressed over money issues,he works hard, but he thinks thats all life is about having money....I think loving someone is worth more then money!!..

I am just very confused

[jo929]

you say you and your fiance have a child are you planning to marry were you planning to marry sometime just living together one or the other really feels that is not a big enough commitment maybe he is looking around it might be better to find out how he feels about marriage now than later. remember he canwalk off anytime as you are not married also i think 5 years is a mighty long time to be engaged and not tie the knot     lots of luck jo

[Jaybay]

Did you have a discussion, or was it more like you making demands?  Since you didn't apparently get any answers from your fiance, it doesn't sound like a productive conversation.  

It's normal for sexual activity to decline as the relationship matures - particularly when there are children involved.   One guaranteed method for wrecking a sex life is to make demands and place rules on it.  Nobody wants to perform on command.  Maybe he's just flat-out tired by the end of day?  It might help to take the pressure off by not pressuring to have sex.  Give him some time to make the first move.  Try hiring a sitter for a Friday or Saturday night and make that your "date night."  Parents need to have some down time once in a while.