what would you do?

[cagrace]

my husband of many years was looking at kiddie porn when i was pregnant, six years ago. I was a mess because my mother was in the hospital dying of cancer, she had three months.then this on top of it...it was all pics of little girls. at first it was college age, then teens and as I went through the months of history, it went all the way to five year old little girls. the common theme was little girls with camel toes and long straight hair.
One of his "turn ons" is camel toes....and he swears up and down that he didnt jerk off to the pics. So after saying goodbye to my mother, I decided to take it one day at a time and see....he kept his word about staying off the computer for years....we bought a house, had the baby boy...everything was going great. then the other night i initiate sex, he turns me sown, and two hours later at 11pm i quietly go to the familyroom to see if he is awake and he is jerking off looking at his phone. i was shocked and walked back to my room....then went to look at his phone. when i got back out there he was done and i asked him a bunch of questions about what did you look at last on your phone, and what were you doing in the last hour, and he lied and lied. looked me straight in the eye and lied. when i tried to look through the phone, he snatched it from my hand and and turned so i cant see and i asked him what the hell he was doing, he said it was a gift he bought me and didnt want me to see it. so i grabbed it back, looked through, and the history had been deleted. i looked into his youtube account and found where his "likes" were and what he was subscribed to and what was on his to watch later list. they were little girls dancing around and playing, and they were all in his underwear. he said he had to go for a smoke and tried to take the phone but i said no, and he forced it out of my hand after a few minutes of wrestling with me. he said he had to get his mind off this **** while he has a smoke....thats why it was so important he have his phone.
the first time it was full blown kiddie porn, sites called "ice virgins" and "daddys little girl" and this time it is regular youtube sites of little girls in their undies and a tshirt just being kids.
i work erratic hours and dont have a regular schedule of any sort, so he takes our boy to daycare, and i usually pick him up, but if i cant then pat gets him. i have no family to help, and only a few friends that work full time, so i feel so trapped! I could barely afford to keep the house, and i have a 19 year old daughter from previous marriage, that still lives here too. what the hell am i supposed to do? i want the cops to go through the history of the sites he looked at and see if they were only a few times like he says, or is it kids in their underwear, but in the end it soesnt matter, he likes little girls and he needs to be out of our lives.....what do i do now?

[specialmom]

Let me just say that j emphatically would not be able to move past my partner watching illegal porn with little girls. As you want to leave, find a way. Report him so he is on the authorities radar. Good luck

[Nighthawk61]

Steal his phone and bring it to police, saying you want full custody of your child with no visitation. That would be what i would do. I'm so sorry that you are having to be in this type of relationship for a moment longer than you have to. Depending on what the police are unable to uncover, it might be that he get's help, or at least is labelled so that others have a chance of safety. It could be that he doesn't act (more than online) but it could be that he does, or may in the future. This would be a deal breaker for me. He needs help. Do whatever you can to get him that help. The good news is that you don't have family to keep you where you are, you can move far away. I think that I would , and start again somewhere else. I'm here if you need to talk. Thank you for sharing your story, i know it's not easy. Please let us know how you're going to handle this situation.

[Ireply2]

First off, condolences to your mother....secondly, Definitely wouldn't call the cops on my husband because of his fetish....Definitely on something like child porn that could lead to some very big charges depending how the situation is taken....also, you just had your baby boy....and not to mention a home....there's a lot on your plate....at the moment...be patient, idk your husbands patterns or temper...but you should have "talks of concern" rather than making it seem like your attacking him...break him down little by little as a concerned, wanting to get through this together wife....at this point...what's your goal? To find out what you KNOW you KNOW or to be told what you KNOW you KNOW