Faking Pregnancy

[cds2012]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year actually boyfriend and girlfriend for a month. He has two children, one will be 2 in a few months and the youngest one was born during our relationshipship (the girl was pregnant when we met). My friends and I have determined that he is very fertile. Well recently he took a trip with a female friend to South Carolina on October 30-31. She made him sign the hotel receipt even though he didnt pay for the trip.
A week ago(December 6, 2009) she writes me and tells me that she is 5 weeks pregnant by him. Of course I was upset and he was pissed because he thinks that she is being spiteful because he ended their friendship when we made it official. She said she basically found out when she was 2/3 weeks pregnant. Told him that she was going to tell me and told me 2 weeks later. He blocked her from contacting me, but she is telling his friends that she is pregnant by him. I honestly dont believe her because of his actions (changing his phone number, blocking her, anger). Two days after writing me, she tells one of his friends that she is pregnant with twins. This is still in her 5 weeks of pregnancy. She claims that nothing fits and she is in her 5-6 week of pregnancy and she is supposedly due in August.

I'm not familiar with pregnancy or twins. Does this sound right? I want to eliminate all doubt. I've talked to my boyfriend about it and he claims that she complained their whole trip (headaches, stomach aches,-- basically menstruation problems). She claims she has all this proof, but she said on November 6th that she was on her period the previous week. Things dont seem to add up, but I need extra reassurance.

[Madeformotherhood617]

Well I dont agree with them. If your in a relationship then you must have trust and if you dont ain't no real relationship. 2nd lilke the first two post said its not possible because I'm pregnant and due in august. And I'm 8w2d so dont listen to there ********. And so what if they were friends for a year my bf went to middle school and high school with me and we started a relationship 5 months ago. And just because men probably dont treat yall right dont mean there ain't a good one out there.

[Judy246]

He might not be a bad person, but he definately a high risk for infidelity and very sexually active elsewhere. The children are innocent of the "sins" of their parents and they will not go away anytime soon. The women will always have some type of connection with him, because of the children. What I would like for you is to open your eyes wide and not accept his excuses. He runs to you when things go bad with the other women, so don't be a fool for this guy. Love is simple and there should not be this much drama in a relationship due to inability to think with the wrong head. I apologize for being blunt, but I don't want to see you hurt or him using you. You are a good person with a good heart and good emotions....he's not, because if he had a good heart and intentions, it would only be you, so keep alert and don't take crap from this guy. Judy

[katz14]

I totally agree with judy. The guy is up to no good. He is not worth your time

[mami1323]

Sometimes we want to believe that the person we care about couldn't be lying to us.  But in reality most will swear up and down that they didn't sleep with someone when in fact they have.  Why would he tell you he did it?  No one will admit it without there being proof.  You don't have any so therefore no admitting.  I just think there is way too much drama for such a new relationship.

[specialmom]

Okay, well let me as you this.  If he swears up and down that he didn't have sex with this woman . . . then why does any question continue about it.  Why would you even need to ask if her story holds water.  Didn't have sex with her, end of story.  but since that isn't the case----- it sounds like he could be lying to you, I'm afraid.

So I leave the children out of it as you ask, but it all sounds very shady to me.  I wouldn't be inclined to stick with it as I'm into self protection.  But that is your choice to make and I hope for the best for you.  

By the way-----  there are happy endings in this world.  Things can start out rocky and end in a posative and healthy way.  I think you need to look for  patterns to his behavior.  Good luck.

[cds2012]

I understand what everyone is saying and yes this is something I've had to deal with for a while. We were specifically not dating or not official for that long time so he (and I) can work on some things. This child thing has been something that effected both of us because I know we do care about each other. When we met he was not aware of his second child until a few months into us knowing each other, and NO I definately don't want to be another baby mama and that is not my intention with him. We don't have a child together. I don't have children at all.  As far as the trip to SC, he has told me countless of times that he has not had sex with her... and this girl has been known for pulling these stunts before.
The reason I posted this was because of the information the woman gave me and the misinformation as well. Her story does not add up. And like I said, from what I know and what I have heard, she has done this before. I'm a nice person and I like to give people the benefit of the doubt... which is another reason why I posted this because I know some people are crazy in the world and they will stoop to levels that low, but I like to believe that people arent like that.
I know this situation sounds bad. I've tried honestly, to leave it and him alone. The child thing has bothered me well the one that was just born has. it has been a rollercoaster between us separating and getting back together... and he knows and understands and appreciates the fact that I've been there for him as friends and as a girlfriend...
I try to keep his children out of this because it causes people to judge him and he's not a bad guy at all..

[Judy246]

Oh...one more thought as GardenGirl mentioned and I agree 100% " STD's". He is high risk for bringing home several STD's and you don't deserve that, so although you are in love with him, it's obvious he loves you, but is not really "in" love with you, because if he respect you and the relationship, he would have never strayed and if the right opportunity comes along, he will do it again. I would have dumped him on the spot once he dare share his infidelity to me. If you want to just talk, we are all here for you. Judy

[specialmom]

Yes, I whole heartedly agree with Judy and Garden girl.  Do you want to be his next "baby mama"?  Whether you were official or not when he went on the trip, he has unprotected sex with whoever whenever it sounds.  There are better guys out there with LOTS less baggage.  Find one and be happy.  Good luck.

[GardenGirl80]

To add to my post, if it were me, I would break up with him because there are too many signs that he is a player, and I would be unable to trust him enough to invest more of my life in him.  My advice above is just in the case that you decide to wait it out a bit longer, which I'm guessing you may do because you have a child together.  I wish you all the best.

[GardenGirl80]

I ditto Judy246.  Even if this girl is pregnant and the baby is not his, there are many other red flags to watch out for, I am sorry to say.  Please be sure to be careful and use condoms, at least for the time being.  He has potential to really let you down, judging from his past behaviors.  Stay strong, and good luck.

[Judy246]

What a mess. This is what I get from your post:

* "Friends"? for 1 yr and relationship for 3 months.
*  Relationship started when another woman was pregnant with his child. (Red flag!)
*  You and friends determine he is fertile? I wouldn't my b/f to be going around be too
    fertile. This is not good, because it will continue to be another financial responsibility
    on him.
*   He recently went on a trip to South Carolina with a "female" friend and you thought
    this was acceptable? (Red flag!)
*   She made him sign a receipt? and he went along with it? Questionable behavior
    (Red flag).
*   Now she is saying she is pregnant (I thought they were just friends?) I just have to
    say, "What kind of bull crap excuse is this and why are you accepting this?"
*   You don't believe her....or why don't you question "Mr. Fertile"? Why won't you
     accept that he is playing you, because he knows he can get away with it.
*  You don't believe him because of his action? He went with her as "friends" to
   South Caroline, what do you think happened there nothing? Do you believe
   that nothing happened? He's playing you and these other women for a fool!

The only way to find out if this baby maker is the father of her "twins" is by having a DNA test after the birth of the baby(s). If the test result are positive, that would mean that he would have what 4 kids under the age of 2? AND you believe him? Girl, it's time to wake up and realize he's playing you all for a fool! Time to re-evaluate, if this is the type of irresponsible man that you want to have a relationship, because the other woman is going to be around the corner saying, "this baby is his" and you won't believe her either. Open your eyes, he's playing like a fiddle.

[mami1323]

I agree with mego, your doctor won't even see you until you are 6.5 to 7 weeks pregnant because they won't see the baby or in this case, babies.  However, I do believe they can tell by the HCG levels if there are more than one baby.  I'm not too sure about this though...so please don't quote me.  It's also very unlikely to know when you are 2 weeks pregnant.  I would have my doubts as well.

[megochick101]

Usually doctors will not even see you until you are around 8 weeks pregnant(that's how both mine were anyways) so there is no way she could possibly know that she has twins at this point. As to her not being able to fit into clothes? I highly doubt it, with my first child i was about 3 1/2 months along before you could even get a glimmer that i was pregnant, and with my second, i didn't show until I was 5 months along. There is no way she is already showing at 5-6 weeks. Also if they took the trip the end of october and she got pregnant while there she would be around 9-10weeks along, not 5-6. Her dates are messed up, so if she is actually pregnant, it's most likely not your bfs.