What should I do

[Sofargone18]

I am 5 months pregnant n my boyfriend was around for a lil and then he stopped talkin to me for about 3 weeks now and ive been callin and texting him but he never answered he just texted me today should I tect him back or ignore him?

[Londres70]

The only things you should be mentioning when talking to him or texting him at this point is the baby and any information that you can get in regards to the child support.  Stick to those things and keep it "short."  

I wouldn't be going into any drama issues that have nothing to with the baby or between you and him which would make an already difficult person to talk to IMPOSSIBLE to talk to.  

[Sofargone18]

Yeah his parents know but they dont like me they have nothin bit negetive things to say about me so I stay away from them. Hes 18 and when Italked to him about child support he got upset and said why do I have to pay child support if im gonna take care of her he thinks im just tryin to take his money which is stupid

[AnnieBrooke]

You say "I thought I should ignore him since hes been ignoring me," but honey, the time for games is past.  You do have a baby coming whether or not you like the baby's dad or he is a difficult person.  The baby is going to cost money.  You are going to need financial help.  Paternity needs to be legally established.  You need to establish a child support schedule.  And as psy says, his family needs to know about all of this.  His mom might rally around her grandchild even if her son is AWOL.  Time to get serious, you're going to be a mom now, not someone's girlfriend.  When you're having to play the grown-up role (taking care of your helpless baby), your needs to get all indignant about your boyfriend take a back seat, and the needs of the baby come first, for the next 18 or 21 years.  Good luck.  Time to see an attorney to begin the process.

[psyvamp]

it does not matter how you feel about each other now-- this is not a time to let petty things stand between you and the future well being of both your child and yourself. you do need to ask his plans regarding the child. BUT do get all the info on him that you can- full name, date of birth, social security number if you can, where he was born, address, his parents adress/phone numbers-- you are going to need as much info as you can get to establish paternity, get child support orders in place and make sure your child is taken care of for the long run... do his parents/family even know? how old is he?
his parents may want to have some contact and maybe even help you care for their grand child-- evven if he doesn't....

[Sofargone18]

He said hey and asked if I hated him...idk I guess I thought I should ignore him dince hes been ignoring me but from evrryones advice thier saying I shouldnt bit hes not the easiest guy to talk to though he never really listens n he always thinks im tryin to attck him n be mean when I just try to talk to him

[Londres70]

What exactly did he say in his text after being MIA for 3 weeks?

You should definitely talk with him so you all can figure out what you are going to do about the situation.  

Ignore him?  Why would you do that?  Keep in touch with him in order to give his information to the Child Support Agency (CSA).

This SHOULDN'T be about you and him but about what is best and what the baby deserves.  

[SmallFeather93]

You should call him, and figure out whats going on. Is he going to be around for the birth of his child or not? You have ur baby to think of now, and u shouldn't have to waste all your time and energy just trying to stay in contact with its father. You deserve more than that, and so does your baby. :) In the end, it's YOUR choice. Nobody else's. So do what you know is going to be best for you and your baby, even if it means not staying in a relationship. :) I hope all goes well for you! Congrats, & good luck w/ your pregnancy!! :)

[brice1967]

This guy, at the very least needs to be made very well aware of the fact that this pregnancy is very much a real deal and he needs to be responsible for his half of it.....

If you're not going to text him back, you are kind of playing his game and what will that really get you?  Now is the time for everyone to start to come to the realization that a baby is coming and life is going to change.... BIG TIME.

I am sorry if this is coming off as harsh, but I am trying to shine a light on the reality of the subject.  Ignoring him is ridiculous.  Telling him what is happening is the responsible thing to do.  Perhaps your relationship with him is indeed over, but he has responsibilities with/for this child for at least 18 years after its birth.  Make sure he or his parents know that.

[AnnieBrooke]

Well, you do need to know where he is living, so you can serve him with the child-support papers when the time comes.  But I wouldn't expect that his texting or your texting back means the relationship is going to sweeten up.