Who caused this STD?

[shannon291]

10 months ago I was tested for Clamydia and Gonorrea at Planned Parenthood because I was starting a new relationship. At that time, the results were negative from the swab tests. I have been completely exclusive with this new guy. I have always had normal yearly pap tests and have never had any symptoms of an STD. (i'm 38 yrs old and have had only 2 partners in the past 8 yrs). Now, 1 week ago, my "now" husband, complained of problems and has since tested positive for Clamydia. I still do not believe i experience any "real" symptoms. I'm going to get tested tomorrow.  My question is:  Since I have been faithful, does that mean my husband has not?? of is it possible that ALL my past tests and paps might have been wrong?? (I do know that my husband had some unsafe sex with a few different women before we got together, so is it possible he may have been carrying it and just did not know till now??)
PLease help because he swears he has been true with me and now believes I have cheated on him...

[Vance2335]

Yep we do and I have addressed this question for her in there. She is just trying to get as much imput as she can which is good in situations like this. But have not seen a responce from her in a couple of days.

[Judy246]

If I'm not mistaken, we have a forum specifically for STD's and Chlamydia that Shannon could interact with and ask these questions.

[mami1323]

From experience Chlamydia is a silent STD, meaning, many people are symptom free.  They don't even know they have it.  About 1 in 4 men have no symptoms and about 30% of women have symptoms.  So you could've had it for a while without knowing you had it.  It does effect your reproductive organs though and it could cause damage to your fallopian tubes without you knowing about it.  I'm not exactly sure if his symptoms could stay silent and then all of a sudden appear.  How long have you been married?  Because he could've had this before you but if you were negative 10 months ago and have been married for more than 10 months, then he hasn't been faithful.

[StormyRenee]

It's time to find out what your husbands been up to....
I wish you luck and stay strong.....

[teko]

There be a fly in the pudding somewhere. There is an ask a nurse forum here, you may want to run that question by them? But if it cannot be carried, in other words where one person can carry it without actually exhibiting symptoms, someones fibbing.

[Judy246]

Hey, Hi!!!!! I wasn't sure if these STD's did or did not lay dormant. I just thought of a possibility and  throw it out there. :)

The good news is that they are treatable and I hope it doesn't ruin the relationship with finger pointing.

[imanaddict]

I am not an expert on the subject but I don't think those two types of STD's lay dormant for any amount of time. I could be wrong but I do know the symptoms are excruciating, especially  for men and don't see how they could lay dormant. The good news is both of those STD's are treatable and curable. The bad news is your husband didn't get them from you! The STD's would be the least of my concerns at this point and where they came from would be the front runner! I wish you the best and hope you get it all worked out.

[Judy246]

Some STD lie "dormant" for months, or years! It is possible to have the virus have outbreaks when you least expected, but your physician or gyne should have told you so and I would call them and disuss this issue. It's also possible that he had the dormant virus from past experience and let's hope he is not trying to put the blame on you. Either way, it's too late to point fingers, because unfortunately it happens, but it's also treatable, so take your husband with you for this test and it's an opportunity for both of you to sit down with the doctor and discuss if possible a dormant virus with unexpected outbreaks. Unfortunately, that's what happens with STD's, but both go for treatment immediately, forget the finger pointing, because it could have been a dormant virus and how best to have a healthy intimate relationship with finger pointing. Good Luck.

[penswriter]

like jennifer said if he was tested and was all clear...and you've been faithful and tested negative...there is only one other way he could end up with an STD. and there's a saying that he who accuses of cheating is the cheater himself.

i HIGHLY doubt that all the tests and pap smears you've had have been wrong. if it was one test...sure it's possible. but considering you've only been with 2 men in 8 years...and nothing has EVER shown up during ANY of your yearly's....all roads lead back to your hubby.

[Jennifer1987]

Maybe he had it from a previous relationship??? Did he get tested too when you did?? if he did and they came back clear like yours maybe then you should think about questioning him on this!! Its very serious ..